Hey so last night I was at the casino and the dealer was doing well for me and my friends. On the first night I met her, I got to know her somewhat well. I had planned on number closing her that night but I was out in the parking lot before I remembered. So I just left.

Then on the follow night which was last night, she rotated to our table again and immediately she looked at me and recognized me. However, she then looked at my friend's and remembered their names but when she got to me, she forgot my name. I called her out on it and I don't know if this was good or not "What?! You forgot my name? This is our second date!" I decided alright, I'm going to number close her tonight. So as she was our dealer, I would talk to her and give her occasional banter and get to know her. Then it was time for her to leave. It was still pretty early in the night and I didn't want to seem too anxious. I felt it would be awkward for her to give her number to me with me still gambling there.

Later in the night whenever tables rotated, I made sure which table she was rotating to. After one of the rotations, she didn't rotate to a table but she came over to our table to watch me and my friends. I was just talking with her and realized she was lingering with me. Then when I decided to ask her she had already left without me realizing it and I couldn't see where she went. It was an enclosed area and the direction she left was the exit to the building so I thought 'oh man... missed opportunity.'

After about half an hour, I decided I was going to leave. I was doing well and I didn't want to lose it. I walked over to the cash out place and saw her. She was dealing for a game I've never played before. She saw me and said "Come sit down!" I replied "How do you play?" She goes "it's easy all you do it put your money down and win!" I put money down and lost one hand. But then she was rotating. As the dealer exchange happened, I got up and called her aside. She was like "What? I got to rotate to the next table. I said "Hold on! Real quick!" I pulled out a pen and piece of paper and handed to her and said "I'm leaving here soon, you should write something creative on that. She looked at me and goes "What?" I took the paper and pen back and said "Here let me give you a hint." and wrote dash dash dash dash dash dash dash with a line between the 3rd and 4th. _ _ _ - _ _ _ _ She laughed and took the pen and wrote her number down. She then handed it to me and said "I'll see you tomorrow."

So here I am now. It is tomorrow. I have her number but my friend who is the gambler left this morning on his flight back home. And I don't gamble and when I do it's only because of him. So what do I do? When do I follow up? How do I follow up? Should I call? Should I text? Should I go to the casino tonight by myself?

Send her a playful text, and gauge by her response what you think your next move ought to be, shes shown interest by giving you her number.

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So I ended up going to the casino by myself to see her and.... it went very poor.. I kind of felt dumb wandering around aimlessly. Just circling around the tables waiting for her to look up and see me. It felt very afc of me. When she finally did, I just waived and she nodded her head. I finally decided to sit at the table she was rotating to. This dealer was familiar with me as well. Ly Ly was her name. There was also this other guy sitting at the table. Us three were just randomly chatting about how cute Ly Ly was. And then over came the dealer I got the number from. As she walked over, the guy was like "Oh yah, and this one here is cute too!" and then Ly Ly was like "Yah, she's cute!" And then looking at me she said "You should ask her out!" And then I just looked at her and she looked at me and I feel like this was one of the dumbest things I could've done. I just asked her "What are you doing tomorrow? We could go for a walk." And she said "A walk? I'm busy" and then left. I felt like it was dumb because I didn't pull her aside to ask her in private. Nor did I escalate it to the point where we were on the comfort level for me to ask her out. So after she left, Ly Ly and the guy were like you should go for her. Do you think she's cute? You two would make a cute couple. I did not initiate this sort of conversation. It just got here and I couldn't contain it. I really wish I said nothing and just left. At least that would show like the 'embarrassed/shy/mysterious' appearance. But nope... I had to open my mouth. After that, I don't know what kind of powers came upon me but I just said "Yes of course I think she's cute. And actually, I am going for her. She already gave me her number yesterday." I immediately regretted saying that afterwards. They responded by "Oh really??" And then Ly Ly called her back over "Hey! He thinks you're cute!" And I immediately went "Ly Ly! Shh! Shh! Shh!" Then she came back over to take over the table and said "Who thinks I'm cute? Him? I don't like Asian guys."

So then she became the dealer and the guy left so then it was just me and her. And I played her game. Actually I was doing well from when Ly Ly was my dealer but then I lost everything from when she became my dealer. After I lost everything I asked her "So when's your next day off?" She said "Tomorrow but I'm playing tennis with a friend." I said "Oh how about Saturday?" She replied with "I got a wedding rehearsal." So finally I said "Well when do you want to hang out then?" She replied with "I don't know. I'm actually kind of seeing someone right now." And then just said "Oh okay, well I guess call me sometime. See you around."

Although now that I think about it, I feel like this was too decent of an ending for me. I probably remembered my response wrong and I probably embarrassed myself even more than I remember. So I drove home and thought about it. Why would she give me her number if she was seeing someone? I decided to send her a text. "Hold up. You are not seeing someone. You gave me your number for a reason. Let's go sing karaoke sometime. Your singing can't be as bad as mine."

And that's where it is right now. Can we analyze the parts where I did things wrong? And what I could of done? It's just over now right? Like there's nothing I can do right? So the thing is, my other friend wants to go again on Monday and I'm pretty sure she'll be there working. I shouldn't go right? Or if I do go... I should just act as if nothing happened? Or what? Because I really want this to work. This is the first girl who's number I got. It was really cool. I was really impressed with the way I number closed her. And I know I'm supposed to have the mindset of if this one doesn't work out then move onto the next one.

New update. Today she sent me a message saying "You're a nice guy but I don't like you like that." Is it done? Or can I pursue? I was thinking if I did, I could send a message like 'I don't like you either. I don't know you at all. I was just hoping we could hang out so that I could get to know you." Or wait... I should word it "Well of course you don't like me. You don't know me. All you know about me is X." X can be something funny or shows personality. Maybe like "All you know about me is that I can sing awesome karaoke and I'm not afraid to do it in front of strangers." The reason for the karaoke being brought up is because while she was dealing for our table I would sing to the music being played. They played music I liked so I just sang it while cards were being dealt. And she called me out on it saying "you know we have karaoke on Thursdays. You should come." I said to her "Do you sing karaoke?" To which she replied "no".

Something along those lines. What do you think?

it depends how much she means to you, you could pursue it if you really really wanted to, but in general that means "not interested"

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'Nothing is impossible to a willing mind'

So after she told me she was not interested I stopped going to the casino because school started.

Flash forward a few months I get a random text from her. She invites me out to dinner at the casino and we stay until 5am which is closing time.

Oh during that time we spent together she was getting comfortable and sometimes leaning against me and etc. We even talked about a snowboarding trip for the following weekend and she seemed really interested.

So we're walking away and I'm thinking to myself I want to kiss her. I'm just gonna go for it. So I gently grab her arm and give her a small pull and she turns towards me and I'm going in, except there's a small problem. She was a little awkwardly positioned and I was thinking to myself I should pull back. Except I'm already leaned in and I'm committed. So I keep leaning and... end up giving her the most awkward kiss in the history of kisses on her cheek.

I pull back and I go "So... that was awkward..." And she goes "Yup.."

Then to move it past that as fast as possible I go "Text me when you get home so I know you get home safely" and she goes "Okay."

During my car ride home I'm obviously beating myself up over that awkward kiss. And I get home and she sends me a text "Got home safely. Thanks!" And to this I'm thinking 'Oh wow, she actually sent me a text. Cool. Maybe the kiss wasn't so bad.' Except when I bring up the snowboard trip we had planned, she makes up that she is busy with studying and grad school applications and etc. and then says she's seeing someone. So I just was like 'Whelp.. I guess we move on to the next girl now.'

I go on the snowboarding trip with my friends and plan another one for the following week when randomly I get a text from her that she can snowboard on days when she's not working. So now I'm confused because she's seeing someone but she also wants to go snowboarding with me. So I'm thinking, maybe she just lied about seeing someone. Except I was talking to another casino dealer friend who I told all of this to and she talked to her and confirmed that she was seeing someone. So I think it's pretty much over now.

Flash forward to a few days ago. She calls me up. (I am now realizing how long this is) She asks about when I'm going snowboarding and I tell her I'm planning another one for this week and she says she wants to go. So I'm like "Okay cool." In the following days leading up I have texted her and each time she responded with more confirmation that she's coming with me.

Flash forward to now. Me and my friends are all about to go snowboarding in a few hours including her. I think she's seeing someone but she's still coming with me. My thinking is that maybe she's interested in me and maybe she is looking to break up with the other guy. Or maybe she's lying about seeing someone. I don't know. But I really like this one. She's the first girl I ever got a number from. And in my mind the stories of how I got her number and the story of how I awkwardly kissed her would make great stories to tell others. That's the hopeless romantic wishy side of me.

Anyways, opinions? Thoughts?

I just realized this is way past the approach and opening section. I'm going to copy and paste in the other section.

This story started off by me saying you did nothing wrong and played the game very well until you 1) started doubting yourself and 2) did not kill the "I have a boyfriend" routine.

Cold hard truth: Although you played it right to begin with; you came off as wierd/some random guy that hit on her at work.

Where you could have improved: straight up slaying the "boyfriend" by NOT CARING if she has someone

Look amigo, here it goes. If your story is correct, she is instigating conversation with you and then throwing out the ol' "I've got a boyfriend" line. Here's Library's take on that...she doesn't have one. If she did she wouldn't be making plans with a random dude that she met at work to go snowboarding. If she does have a boyfriend, you're lying somewhere in your story...i.e. "I'll show you how to snowboard" etc.

Next time she throw's the "I'm seeing someone" out there, tell her "cool, but he's paying for my lift ticket" or something like that.

You had it going until the boyfriend destroyer part. Plus, there towards the end you played it like an AFC by "ahuck ahuck ahuck...she is purrty...lol"

Just my two cents.

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First of all you should have watched for body language cues to see if she was interested. Then after you got her number you should have called to set up a meeting, or you should have just set up a meeting right away before getting the number. And you did orbit her big time, that screwed you over forever.