What's going on, gentlemen,

In January, I terminated a great year-and-a-half long relationship with this girl. Since then, I adopted a new mentality - not caring about women/sex/hooking up and spending the time with my bros instead, thereby saving myself a lot of wasted time and energy. This would mean that I would hookup if a low-effort opportunity came up (why not!), but I wouldn't make any outward effort to do so. I have hooked up (short of sex) twice or thrice since January.

Allow me to say I mostly love the mentality I've been entertaining - it has allowed me to exploit youth conventions, summer camps, etc. to their full potential, and I come away with no regrets and with a sense of completion, because I don't spend any time fretting about girls, as so many of my friends do.

However, as much as I like not giving a fuck, I have a problem. I have noticed on several occasions such as youth conventions, etc., that several (attractive) girls (as many as six at a time) were interested in me. These classify as "low-effort" pursuits, and in most of these cases I resolved that, sure, why not, I'll hook up. But once I'd make that decision, I'd encounter two main problems preventing me from following through and actually hooking up:

1.) Indecision. In such situations, I would often be unable to conclusively choose which girl I would pursue. After all, there were relatively so many possibilities, I'd say to myself, which is the right one? So I'd end up hitting on one girl, then thinking, nahh, I'll go for that other one, and so forth, and waste a lot of valuable time or even end up not hooking up at all. This has sometimes even happened in situations where one girl is interested in me, but I choose not to take advantage of the opportunity because I think I can do better, but end up not getting anywhere with anyone.

2.) Disgust. In some of the other cases, where there is only one real low-effort opportunity for me to exploit, I'd sometimes end up not going for it because of feelings of disgust - as in, kissing/pussy/bodies are 'gross' or 'unclean'. So, I'd have the opportunity, and drop it because of these feelings, and not get anywhere.


Now, with the mentality that I adopted in January, these problems don't bother me very much and I can shrug them off and say "well, whatever" without any problem, but they are nonetheless frustrating, especially in the field.

I would like to drop these preventive feelings (perhaps they're a confidence issue?), not because I care about getting some (if you worry about it too much you don't get any, anyway, eh), but I want to be able to say, "Ok, I want to hook up," and go for it, no problem. I want to be a part-time PUA, "on-call", if you see what I mean. Overall, I think this would help my not-giving-a-fuck ability, and I'd be better off without these feelings whether I choose to hook up or not.

Anybody have any tips for me? This has been bothering me since around March, and I'd love to move on from this shit and adopt a more game-friendly mentality! Anything helps, really, and I truly appreciate any tips!

Thank you, boys,


-Shawarma


P.S. I start classes at the college this Monday, and I'd love to score some points. Short of some Gary Brodsky shit, I don't have any "training", but I am quite confident that I can get a number or two with ease. With that being said, though, does anyone have any tips for me? Despite my confidence in my own ability, I'm always open to advice that might help out! Thanks!