So I met this girl through a mutual friend we have not really had a good talk or anything but have gone clubbing/bars few times with friends and she is very quiet and its hard to get her to open up. My friend said that's just the way she is and it takes awhile for her to open up to someone.

Anyways we hung out together a few days ago and she seemed more open to me this time and even though it was a group of friends I talked to her more then I have ever before.

Whats the best way to go about getting her to open up to me without me ending up in the friends zone? Im so confused!!!

I don't know if she likes me, I honestly think she does I'm pretty sexy lol. And she was dancing and being a fool and when I turned to look at her she stopped suddenly and her friend said she stopped because I looked. Does this mean she likes me?!?

Please help me this is the only girl I have liked and wanted to date in years!

I had a cute shy shy girl crush once. Just make her blush a lot and call her out on some things like how shes shy and kinda cute when she is, just don't do it all infront of a bunch of her friends, maybe just one or two max, the "asshole" routine doesnt work well with these types of girls mostly the "quiet cool guy in the corner" is what they like, and she'll chase you trust me dont give into chasin her. damn now you got me reminiscing...

ive also had an experience like this before although mine wasn't a crush its still relevant.

in cases like this you need to lead, lead even more than you normally would, you cant wait for her to make a move because its highly unlikely she will.

isolate her and see how she comes to life, seriously though you are going to need to be confident and be the leader.

Thanks for the advice guys I will try my best!

Just spend a quiet, good time(s) with her.

You need to draw her out of her shells, one by one. But if you apply enough time and effort to it, it will be fine.

Don't try to sexualise the situation too quickly, don't try to be a jerk and don't be overconfident. If you pay heed to these, you will be fine.

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Damn!!!! why didnt I see this yesterday!!!! There is this very cute but very shy HB7 that works with my friend. She is super shy and i started flirting with her but she was very shy about it. I think i negged her too hard...said she had a boring personality thinking she would object and i can get a date with her or something...i think i came of as an asshole!

Yea dude telling a shy girl she has a boring personality sounds like an asshole thing to say lol! You need to make up for that one!

I am just worried that if I don't sexualise I could end up in the friend zone. But then again I think with shy girls maybe I have to be her friend first?

never neg a shy girl lol, get her to be your gf and make her chase you, the more you give kinda push-pull resistance to kissing ect the more she'll wanna do it.

I m doing right now with one of the girls I m seeing, though it come out unintentionally curious how it will turn out.
feels like sexual tension is building up, BUT that push kind of kills it - or am I wrong and it makes the next time go even higher? (2step forwards 1 step back)

In the end you still gonna pull her all the way, yes?(there were times where was opposite though.. )

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Yea man the push pull can be as simple as letting her grab all over you while you just stand there lookin cool (AND locked in) but then if she wants a kiss you give it to her, and its even better to be by her when she is introduced to someone because she'll try to hide a bit behind the nearest person and itll be you

I guess I have to learn the craft of the push and pull I don't think I am literally going to push and pull her right? lol prob not time to study a bit!

So today my friend called her and passed her to me and said I wanted to say hi to her.... totally unexpected I acted like such a dork lol I said hi and stuff but then it got award and I said I could not hear good so passed her back to my friend. Did I fuck up? I was so unprepared lol!