Hello friends;

How are you? I feel great I hope you do too Wanna get your view on something:

Is this alpha or AFC way to end a relation (in facebook). Could not care less about her. So disappointed in her and dont want her anymore. Specially with the new chick.

Here we go:
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Hey sunshine;

How are you? I hope you are happy and doing fine.

I just wanted you to know I have been thinking about you and things you say and yes you are absolutely right!

Within past few months that I knew you I realized that me and you are totally different people and don't have anything in common Our life style, our characters & believes...everythings is unfortunately very different. Specially I don't get your mindset, its very strange and doesn't make sense to me

The reason I am writing this to you is because I gave you the impression that I liked you and I tdont mind to try to be with you,, you have the right to know. To be very honest at some point I did think we could do someting a bit serious but now I am sure it can't happen and it will be the wrong thing to do.

I am sure you understand what I am trying to say.

Look after yourself and keep smiling...life is great
xoxo

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Thanks fellows

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Nathan Griffin

It's fine. Nothing to write home about.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Do it in person,now that's alpha

Since when would you fucking care whether you're breaking up in an AFC or alpha way?????
Since when is there an alpha and an AFC way of breaking up????
It's like you really don't understand the basics of alpha lifestyle.

Why only give us the two choices.

I dont think it is alpha or AFC.

It is just childish and mean.

So you dont care about her... Why were you together with her? Why waste your time?

A real man would not get into a relationship with a girl he doesnt respect.

Be a man and do it in person and think before you get into a new relationship.

BTW ONS does not count as a relationship...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Some friends have to learn not to reply unless they have something useful to say.
If doesn make sense to you, its probably cause you didnt get it


As in Ezo;
childish is when you complain and cry like a baby, saying why you left me and say how better I am from you and you wont find anyone as good as me

Not doing it in person simply means "I dont care enough to see you and tell you in person, you are worth as a FB message"

She did some very wrong stuff which gave me the righ to get into a new one

Also Ezo, my friend, you are the mod and I am sure you are aware too,, there has been an agressive negative vibe ging on in the forum for sometime. Friends trying to get each other down and being aggressive with each other.

You can change the direction of where this goes and make it a better place with much better energy. Teach friends how its ok to be friendly and simply skip when things dont make sense to you, not to attack each other, argue or waste posts and space with things that do not help. Arguement is a waste of time and space.

I hope it make sense and everyone is going to help stopping the non neccessary posts.

Lets make this forum an great place to have fun, talk with eachtoher and create a great resource of the next generation.

Thank you

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Nathan Griffin

Dude, man up and do it in person. I know, it's tough, and it sucks. BUT you'll gain mega confidence an points for doing it, and your friends AND her friends will respect you for it. I broke up with a chick a year ago in person and we're still friends. Best part is that she now trusts me 100% and I'm single again so we opened the door back up and it's amazing! Friends, with benefits.

Sorry to seem harsh man. There is definately some negative vibes going around on the forum and we are doing what we can to get back to where it was.

I am sure the girl did something bad to you and you have a right to be angry...

Still, if this is your driving force, revenge, getting back at her... Why then ask what is more alpha? As I said, it has nothing to do with being alpha.
There are many people here who think that alpha is the same as being an A-hole and that is something that I am trying to change.

Think before you get into the new relationship was not intended for the sake of the girl necessarily but for you. You can have as many girls as you want but the way you write your post make it seem like you did it out of spite. To get back at the other one (whom you do not seem to even respect). Sure, she might have done bad things but then be a man and move on. Thing is, if you get into a new relation without respecting the nnext one, chances are, you are gonna end up in the same situation again.

I must have missed that cute little message before...

Anyways, sometimes someone have to tell you these things, even if it is not so nice to hear them. I am trying to help you, not with the question you ask but with what I can read between the lines, which is in my opinion a much bigger thing.

Asking questions is also opening yourself up to critique, something that is the basis of how we learn.


Your question is basically "Am I cooler if I cut my left or right wrist?" and I am telling you to not do it but to deal with your problems.

And yes, childish is what it is... Still. Breaking up over facebook means that you either dont dare to talk to her or that you dont want to. So if you dont want to talk to her, dont. And the problem will solve itself.

Hope this clears things up and you are always welcome to ask questions but be prepared to not always hear the answer you want to hear.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

It isn't "negative" to tell someone when they have done something wrong. To say she did not deserve a face to face breakup is to say you had zero respect for her. That may be justified, as you give no input into the relationship, but its alpha. it isn't afc. it's petty.

and it is a bit hypocritical to talk about negative vibes when you were incredibly negative to this woman

Thanks for being understanding friend. I hear you and appreciate your comments

Have a great day

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Nathan Griffin