how do you handle flakeyness in this case?? not the typical "shes not that into you" scenario. this is when a chick is all talk about fucking your brains out, but then conjures up enough anxiety to back out the last minute before you meet up.

this has happened to me with a few girls lately, im guessing im being a little too alpha with them.

this even happens with girls ive been sexual with a bunch of times and already established a lot of comfort.

i usually pretend i dont care with the first 1 or 2 flaking instances, but i call them out of the third, basically just stating i wont tolerate their disrespectful behavior.

how do you guys handle chicks that flake out often but are afraid to really admit they feel slutty??

Dont know enough about YOUR actions, why do these girls feel slutty you should be asking yourself. If they are flaking there is a reason.

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'Nothing is impossible to a willing mind'

girls tend to see me as the ideal husband after they hang out with me a few times..
then start to relize the relationships i make with them tend to just be booty calls and nothing else.

then i usually get the "i really like you, but you make me so nervous", "im intimidated by you", "i dont wanaa get hurt" etc etc

hence the flaking starts and it just seems like theyre feeding their ego.

i feel that my well rounded positive traits hurt my game, if it just stopped at looks and alpha behavior i think id be getting laid more. but chicks start to see i have things going for me and idealize me as husband material.

a relationship is not what i want right now...but im not really into one night stands either...too boring. i like to have multiple sex partners over the coarse of several sessions to actually get all the freaky experiences that chicks dont put out upon first lay.

basically im looking for a bunch of friends with benifits, but it seems they only last so long until the chicks get fed up

So you think your husband material when you get replies like "i really like you, but you make me so nervous", "im intimidated by you", "i dont wanaa get hurt" etc etc,

Your not going to stop girls flaking if all you want is sex from them

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'Nothing is impossible to a willing mind'

I used to get that ALL THE TIME.

And a lot of it is actually what you said. When you have a well rounded personality, a lot of girls don't know what to do. Most of them are used to guys that they can figure out, guys that are one dimensional, predictable, etc. But when they see that you have many different facets to you, AND you make their pussy wet, fear starts to creep in.

WHY?

Because if you're already having this effect on them, they know they'll be in for a lot of emotional turmoil if they get closer to you.

If, today, you can get her so horny that she breaks dinner plans with her parents just to fuck you, she knows that a month from now, she'll be so sprung that she'll start disappointing her kids, her nephew, etc. All because of the effect that YOU have on her, both emotionally, AND physically.

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I speak about the things I know, and ask about the things I don't.

typically how much time do you spend with these girls?,
do you stay in contact/see eachother more then twice a week?,
is this happening before or after actual sex?, (head/handjobs don't count)
are you sexually framing all the time, and only hanging out with them at sex locations?

they wouldn't feel slutty if you managed their expectation up front.

that way, they would know that you really liked them, thought they were amazing, were incredibly attracted to them, wanted to bring them the ultimate in sexual pleasure, AND *wait for it* *wait for it* ... WERE NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP.

that way instead of them feeling like a "victim" in the situation, they would feel like an empowered decision-maker in the situation. many of these girls may still love to ride your love-bone, and would be more relaxed and get less nervousness, if you handled their expectations and communicated clearly (on a parallel plane of conversation) that you were not looking for a wife.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

+1

A couple hours every other week or so, i just bought a house im fixing and also work about 50 hours a week lately so free time is pretty sparce.

i do stay in contact, but ill admit im guilty of making them chase me more often and text/call me first. but istill act really sweet sometimes, DHV other times... definantly not predictable behavior. i learned the hot and cold behavior from the "art of seduction" and it kinda comes naturally ever since and hard for me to avoid it.

the flakeness, usually happens after a few instances of sex.

ill say its a 50/50 with the sex location thing... half the time its "come over and watch a movie", "pillow fight" "ill kick your ass" etc.. then the other half the time its going out somewhere cool..then back to my place "to watch a movie"

mack, i really like how you lay the statements out in that order...
it make a lot of sense but i have a feeling it would cause chicks to say..."ok i get it...but it doesnt make any sense"

but youre absolutly right in that it puts the decision in their hands and really makes it a make or break ultimatum.

is cool to use sexual stuff in text, but make it more along the lines or role plays.

to really sexually escalate, you have to be with her.

Of course I am talking about the girl that you have not slept with already