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I'm 25 years old. I am terrified of approaching in front of other people. I guess I'm afraid of what people may think, especially since I'm doing day game at stores and around campus - I'm also 5-6 years older than the girls I'm approaching.
How do I overcome my fear of approaching in front of other people? Any ideas/mind states/etc? Please, I need to overcome this fear if I am able to approach! Help!
The first thing you have to understand is that everybody has the same feeling as you do. I had this feeling long time ago too. The best PUAs feel the same way as you do. The question is how do you react to this feeling. The way you react to it now is you think that YOU are afraid of what people think. What you have to understand is that this feeling is not part of you, it's external. Just to prove the point let me give you an example. Lets say your drunk you most probably wont be thinking of what people think of you and you'll approach any girls even the hottest ones. In this example it's the same you the same body the only difference is your reaction. In this case you didn't even have a reaction because you were drunk and your mind wasn't thinking. Now imagine you don't think about peoples reactions when you're not drunk, you'll be unstoppable. That is exactly how you lose fear of what people think.
The way to get to this level is by practice don't think you will be able to do it in one week or even one month it will take a while of your time and practice will speed up this process. To be more practical here is an exercise for you. Tomorrow make a goal for yourself that every day from today till a month from now you will approach 10 girls through the day and ask them what time it is. If you forgot and about to go to sleep you will have to go outside and do it. You will not go to sleep until you do it. This will help you out a lot. The reason this works is because right now in your mind you think people will think weird of you and act hostile if you randomly approach them but that's not true. After coming up to 10 girls a day and asking them for the time you will realize how easy it is to approach. From then on you will move to the next level you will ask the girls for directions to places and so on.
You also mentioned that your in college. It's a really good opportunity since you can talk to girls in your class about homework buying the books and their majors etc... You have to know that you can overcome it because many people including me proved it already. I was a really really shy guy. Really really insecure and had no social skills whatsoever. Practiced and a little reading got to me to where I am now. Now I have amazing social skills amazing success with girls and the most important amazing life. Follow what I told you and you will see your dream come true. Keep me posted on what happens and if you have any questions I'll be glad to answer.
- Amazing Art -
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