Hey guys,

I am very new to the forum and have a current issue which I'd love to have some opinions on.

I just started university last week, and am in the process of meeting a lot of new people, and connections.

The first weekend was a success for game - the first Friday we went over into Quebec to the city of Hull to Le Volt (a bar/club) with a group of around 15 or so (mixed gender group). Managed to k-close one of the girls who'd joined us on the outing, after building rapport both before the club (in the university residence), and at. Brought her back to my room when we returned, and escalated sexually until she told me she had never had sex. I asked her if she wanted to have sex with me, and she said yes. However, I couldn't get hard. She gave me a handy/bj and I was able to get it about 70% hard but I think I just generally was not attracted to her, so we decided to go to bed. The next morning she was still down to go at it, so we had intercourse. It did not last very long, as I myself have only had a few sexual encounters in my life.

My first issue did not occur in this experience, however I have found that while I'm receiving oral sex, I have a very limited stamina; I last longer having sex than I do getting a blowjob. Is this normal? I'm sure the ability to "last" longer will come somewhat with experience, however are there other factors that may have an effect on my dilemma? Before I moved into university, I was masturbating a LOT, at least 7 times a week (I'm sure that can't help too much with endurance). However, I've decided it's definitely a good idea to reduce, or even eliminate masturbation from my activities (as it isn't quite necessary anymore).

Are there any ways to possibly resist receiving oral while still maintaining the sexual intimacy of the situation? I mean, I love receiving it but it's highly embarrassing when you have horrible endurance. I'd rather avoid giving her the idea that I may be a "minuteman".

This brings me to my next point. The Saturday of my first weekend (same day I swiped my floormate's vcard), another girl came onto me while hanging out in my room. I'm getting very mixed messages from this girl. She seems horny as hell; we'll mack on my bed while watching a video, and she lets me fool around with, and bite/suck on her nipples, or massage her back. She's let me finger her a bit a few times, but usually when I go down there, she'll grab my hand and just hold it, or sort of close her legs. She also hasn't gone into my pants.

I'm finding it hard to apply the escalation ladder in this situation, because it seems like she's somewhat resisting my actions. I'm thinking it's because of one of the following things:

- she wants me to be more aggressive or forceful
- she is perhaps nervous, or doesn't trust me enough yet
- perhaps I am not being direct enough: should I be asking direct questions such as "do you want me inside you" or "should I get a condom"

I know the first two are fairly opposite, however I really do not know how to read her at this point.

Lastly, I am worried that if she does want to have sex with me, that my lack of experience will result in poor sex, or a bad time. If we end up having sex, I'm worried about two things happening: 1) admitting a lack of experience (mind you I understand this is not an excuse, she'll just move on to someone who is), and 2) finishing quickly, and forfeiting any more future endeavours.

Any thoughts, suggestions, or insights are appreciated.

Thanks for reading!!

Cheers,

Adrian