Yeah, I read a lot about beeing the alpha male, how to be that man and etc... I can emulate that from time to time, but I have a deeper problem.

All my life I was raised by my mother, i had no father figure, so psychologically I'm very "soft" in the inside..., I'm not a pussy, but sometimes I feel like in my childhood I didn't have any male figure to follow, so I have the personality of my mother...

I've never had any male advice about girls, I don't like football, and all that stereotypical male stuff.
So now I'm 25, and It's very difficult to change that from the inside...

so what can i do to change it? any ideas?

Stop being a pussy and think with your dick. Literally. Give it what it's begging for man, don't keep it locked up behind a zipper, that's just fucked up. Who cares if your room is pink or if you ask for milk when you go to the bar. As long as you think with your cock, it will solve all your problems. That's the most masculine you can be..doing the fucking mission that nature intended for you.

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drop the alpha male shit..it's not longer relevant today..there's people who act alpha, but you'll never have a person who's an alpha wherever he goes. it's impossible.

I'm sure obama feels pretty alpha at the white house and talking to the nation. Throw him into a hostel in South korea and you'll see he feels as insecure as anybody else in a strange situation

Why do you want to be something you are not? Just take advantage of what you got. You have to identify your strengths and weakness, and develop the strengths and try to hide the weakness. I have friend who are alphas who are funnies and also who are mysterious and even guys who are just jackass, and everyone has chance with a girl. JUST BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.

I have friend who is really good with the ladies has style,he is really smart,hates football, dances really well unknown girls go to dance with him (but like you he grow up in house without a father ) so he is not the MAN, he didn’t grow up seeing male\female interaction, some ppl think he is gay(he is not), but lets be honest for me he has only one problem, girls give him a lot of IOIs, he can strike a conversation he can attract girls , but he doesn’t knows how to react he is too afraid to act to kiss them. That’s the only advice I given to him. He doesn’t know how to score goals he knows how make the goals but he is too afraid to score lol(sorry for football reference ).

And trying to be something you are not, girls will sniff you out from a distance wil lthink you are trying to harder. Being a fake things wont go well. believe me

I was raised in a very similar environment, so I can relate to what you are saying.

If I could give you quick guidelines of how to become an alpha male:

1. Start believing in yourself and your abilities: If you cannot believe in who you are, how do you expect others to trust you. Confidence is something everybody can develop and you are not the exception.

2. Read books written by Carlos Xuma: He has based his career talking about the alpha male. You can learn a couple of things from him.

3. Understand that women do not have control over you: Yes, women can decide whether they will have sex with you, but this only happens if she's not totally attracted. If she is, there's nothing she can do about it. Just learn how to attract women properly. After all, that's what this community is for .

4. Affirmations: Start repeating in your head positive messages about yourself. Over time, they will become part of you.

5. Realize that you are not alone: You have our support, and we're here to guide you, help you get through, and assist you in the process of becoming the best man you can be.

If you have any questions, please send me a message or visit my website on the link below.

Believe in yourself, and you will get to the promise land. I promise.

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problem is, 90% of girls wants A MAN, not a sentimental pussy (I'm not, but I'm in the middle)... so i want to be the best man i can be..

i liked that advice "think with your dick", real women likes real men, i don't want a child relationship

So a man is define by watching football and drinking beer and all that shit. A man is someone who has confidence that can protect her, so she can feels safe. aren’t you that kind of guy, ofc you are not going to cry in front of her and being a pussy. Like I said BE A MAN NOT ALPHA MALE, its different. In case of my friend he only needs sexual tension, maybe yeah starting think with his dick, maybe he shouldn’t masturbate for 20 days and go sarge and see if he doesnt have results he will think with his dick instead of his brains. But hey if you wanna be something that has absolutely noting about you go ahead. You have good advices here on the previous poster, but I would suggest taking muay thai or Krav Maga and even taking acting class. And start seeing football you will see true “mans” there.

That are great advices thank you!

lol, i feel what you say, thank you!

I wrote a topic about this which had a link, here's where you can check that out :

how-to-be-a-man-vp503053.html#503053

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You already are a MAN.

It sounds as if you are acting out primarily out oof consideration for others versus primarily out of consideration for yourself.

Let your primary motive be your own desire. Move as the expression of your self and what your self wants.

As men, we are that lucky, that expression of our selves and our deepest desires is exactly what makes us attractive.

Women have it harder. Self-sacrifice turns men on.

This doesn't mean be careless, it means care about what YOU want first...and then care what everyone else wants. Men, women...everyone.

Act from desire.

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