So I recently noticed I miss a very important attribute called passion in my lifestyle. I have ambition, I'm confident, I'm organised I have a job and etc. But I have no drivewheel for my life, or anything to make myself interesting.

Because I'm still young I dont earn a lot of money, to go out to places and do activities, join basketball teams or dancing lessons. Which same counts for a friend of mine. We always do the same shit which makes us dont spend a coin, but our chillings get monotone at a time. Our friendgroup does the same shit for almost 3 years now.

We recently joined a gym which takes almost halve of my salary, and the other half is needed to get the month trough.

I dont got a passion, and I dont got the money to invest in a passion or to do something to make my life at least a bit interesting. I brainstormed a lot and I dont know what to do, I'm clueless.

What do you guys have to say?
All replies are respected, thanks

You dont need all that to be interesting.

Who do you think are the most interesting people?

Why is forrest gump so interesting? Why is Harold Crick so interesting? Why are babies and children so interesting to women?

Do you know why? I personally dont know, maybe you can brainstorm on that and tell me when you get the answer. Wov ya

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How did you connect 'being interesting' with 'having money'?

I stand out , no matter what situation im in I stand out . In a good way

to the op,

don't join a gym,

take that money and buy yourself a nice bench, power rack, and some free weights.

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I have to say you are full of excuses, change your frame.... That bs is bs you created in your head, is not factual, excuses/limiting believes, get Tony Robbins main book Giant withing or something like that...

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This has been discussed since the beginning of time I think... And a lot of gurus give you advice based on what works for them.

Like Mystery for example tells everybody to build up the traits that he himself has built up. So what he basically says is: I am interesting, hence everybody who is me is interesting, therefore, be me and you will be interesting.

Most gurus will tell you this in different ways.

Do a google search of your mind and see what makes you different from everyone else. What do you base your personality on, what defines you. What values do you hold dear, what morale do you have that people dont agree on or would like to debate.

Once you get these things found out, you will realize that these are things that you have felt gave you problems in the past. Well not any more. It is time to stop being ashamed of them and realize that you should be proud, this is what makes you interesting.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I can reconize what you say at the beginning, but didint quite understand what you said at the last part. Would you care to explain a bit better?

Do you have a sense of humor? Do you have opinions? Do you have any charm? Do you have a sense of fun and adventure?

1. Don't confuse "Interesting" with delusional. A broccoli who thinks it's a sauteed foie gras is still a BROCCOLI.

2. This forum is filled with broccoli who think they are foie gras because they believe it it is so. Unfortunately, others can see, smell, taste, and feel broccoli. This is a sad, sad joke . . .

3. "LIMITING BELIEFS" by definition is a set of beliefs that underscores your potential reality. By "thinking" you ARE what YOU ARE NOT (to you or anybody else) you stand to only solidify this reality.

4. Thus what you wrote in your initial reply is 100% a healthy foundation to make changes. You have the ambition, the drive, and confidence but do not have the existing HABITS that create spark interests from others. So just change your habits.

The only thing left is research. You obviously want to seem more 'interesting' to women. Find out what 'interesting guys' in your area do. Don't let the "I'm the most fucking interesting guy out there because I say it is so crowd" sway you from your research.

And I offer you my humble take on this matter:

In my life, I've lived in 10 or so different cities throughout the World so I've seen several cultures. Stereotypes exist. Some cultures are more into humor than others. In some cultures, women are into 'cute guys'. Other cultures are into 'beefy/manly guys". It's always so different. . . . Now, others here may argue, but what I've deduced is that it in every culture, most women are into the types(qualities, attributes, skill sets) that have the best abilities to MAKE MONEY in that culture. (You'll also want to research and clearly define what "money" really means)

Yeah, I know a lot of kids here will argue ^this but hey, most kids here are horny 20 year olds who make believe they are Harry Potter.

What I'm saying is that while women do have the ability to see present value, they seem well attuned for the future value of a man either consciously or unconsciously. Find out what this means for you where you live. Attain these skill sets.

Now on to the stereotype PUAF public message:

1. Find your true passion and others will love you for it.
2. You have a limiting belief. You are already cool and great. (Only, nobody else believes it so F them)

Good post kasabi!

There is an ancient saying that goes: "if you love yourself, others will love you"
The other way around is true. If you see yourself as shit, people will treat you like shit.

I'm talking about a life long process of self-acceptance of course. If you're a miserable guy who suddenly says to himself "I'm the greatest and coolest", then you're a piece of shit who's full of lies. Others will see that.


Now, back to the original topic. Since when do you need money to be passionate?
Do you have to be an NBA player, or a die hard latin salsa dancer to be gifted, interesting or passionate?

I can, figuraly speaking, write hundreds of things down where you can be passionate at without having money or with very few money. So you should be able to do that too.

The most important thing is to open yourself for things in life, to being interested. Be passionate in your curiosity, be passionate in being interested. You'll then see that it's easy to become passionate at things.

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Well, yes that is true. A broccoli will never stop being a broccoli if it doesnt mutate. So there are two choices, either be proud of being a broccoli and be the best damn broccoli you can ever be. Or you can mutate into something else.

Maybe broccoli is not good for you, meybe you are just being a broccoli because your parents tried to raise you as one.

But Im saying that even broccoli have differences, you can keep being a broccoli and still be cool. Just work out what makes you a special broccoli, the things you can be proud of and be damn proud. True, not everybody likes broccoli and yes if you wanna get popular with everybody you will have to become a strawberry but that would mean mutating your self. If you become a strawberry, can you still be proud of who you are? Are you doing it because you would like to be a strawberry or are you doing it just because people like strawberries? Maybe it is time to show people the true power of broccoli.

Apart from that I agree with Kasabi. I am not talking about not improving. I am talking about keeping your morale, values and honor while growing. You will have to work hard on skills, like being a successful man, taking charge, getting more socially savvy, etc etc. But none of these improvements are gonna change your broccoliness. You can still be the awesome person you are AND make improvements. You dont need to replace your personality just because you are getting stronger.

This is another thing that PUAs do when they get better and more powerful, they turn into dicks. Because they think that that is where they wanna be. They see those skills used everywhere around them and they see guys being assholes and think, hey when I get stronger, Im gonna treat them like they have treated me. Bad move. Bad guys get girls, yes, but the hero always get the girl in the end. And he possesses the same skillset as the bad guy, he just use it for good. Chances are, you have already made up your mind about right and wrong, try to keep that in mind even when you are good at this.

I hope you can find your way through this maze of broccoli and superpowers...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

i agree...being too certain about a belief system will close you down.. it will stop your progression...

me going to the club: ... '' im the shit '' - certain.. fixed in my rigid reality
me going to maths/science class: '' damn i suck'' uncertain..i crave for some learning!

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Two reasons I have been told I am interesting. I just know a lot of useless shit that sounds interesting to me and the other part of it is I sometimes turn off that little voice in my head that says "Are you sure that's a good idea?" Fuck it, I only live once, who wouldn't want a giraffe for a pet? Win, win.

Also- try picking up an instrument and joining a band, or even do open mic. Anytime I play in public, I get opened. Not the other way around. It is cure's AA. As does theater.

Learn to paint
Learn French
Build a __________
Learn to fix cars


Or try getting involved in an amateur soccer team instead joining a gym.

Learn to kayak
Learn poker, join a free tourny
become a bartender

There are tons of shit to do in the world.....Whenever I just do shit, I normally wind up with a good story. Sometimes broken bones and such too but- in the end, when I am 100 and dying surrounded by loved ones, I want my head full of memories that I made. If it's not and all I can think about is that time I saw a funny t-shirt - I didn't win at life.