I don't really want this to be a lay report, so I'll try to make the actual narrative short. Basically met this girl Thursday night, and talked to her for probably only about 15 minutes. I invited her to this party we had last night. We danced, drank some beer, danced some more.

I played it all pretty well - a lot of my game came together for the first time. I was killing it on the dancing floor. We were grinding and that stuff had never really worked out for me. This couple behind me starting making out. I pointed it out to her, and then we ourselves made out on the dance floor. That was my first kiss. It felt kind of weird. There was a lot more teeth than I expected.

We went back to my place, and I played her some guitar. Eventually we got naked. This was probably after two hours of being with her that night. Anyway we started kissing, and I was kissing her whole body. I start fingering her and giving her oral.

Now this is where the story takes a turn for the worst. I absolutely couldn't get hard! I was very surprised. I told her to give me head and that helped a little, but I never got a fully erect. I never penetrated her.

Luckily, years of chronic porn watching made me pretty good at oral. She came twice and was having like full body orgasms. It was pretty cool. In all we had "sex" for about 20 minutes.

But anyways what gives! I'm a very healthy, athletic, horny, young (22) dude. What the fuck happened? I had perfect game up until I couldn't get hard. There's a few things I can try to blame: it was the drunkest I've been in a while (only 3 beers but I don't normally drink), I worked out pretty hard that day, and I jacked off twice the previous day.

I had worried that I wouldn't last long enough, so I jacked off twice the previous day like I said. Having tried that, I would much rather have been able to get hard and nutted after 20 seconds than not nut at all.

I've read about people who couldn't get it up and thought I would never have that problem, but here I am! My only course of action is to not masturbate at all until the next time I have sex. Someone reassure me. I am a little freaked out.

So basically: 1) What am I to do? 2) Should I still be calling myself a virgin? 3) Someone console me.

You said you watch a lot of porn.

There is a post here somewhere about how chronic porn watching links to Erectile Dysfunction. Check it out. Cut out porn and meet this girl again and have sex. Then let's see if you can still not get hard.

haha sounds like youve had a great night! youre still a virgin but its not all bad cuz you had a pretty crazy night. im thinking after 22 years of jackin it to porn, maybe its hard to switch to an actual girl ya know? try not watching porn n havin that self time in the bathroom once a day. pretty sure it will help

Dammit this has been all I've been able to think about all weekend. The worst part for me is that I feel like I left her unsatisfied. Luckily, I picked her up randomly, so we don't share any friends. If I run into her though I'm not sure what I'll say.

For now, I'm not gonna masturbate or watch porn. I'll try again with another girl next weekend and hope for the best.

Aaaah I feel like she took my manhood from me. Anyone ever have this problem? Is it just cause its my first time, and I should be ok for my next encounter?

Probably the beer, cause your not 50 and even if you jerked 10mins before you went out that night you should still be able to get hard. Did you get hard while grinding with her? If your still worried have a back up plan for next time little blue pill.

chronic porn and beer really doesn't help. Maybe a little bit of booze is ok, but don't get too drunk cause there you'll have whiskey dick. And porn is actually destructive to your esteem/sexual confidence, etc..., and you'll become more and more frustrated. I quit porn 2 years ago, didn't get a lot of action but it doesn't make you feel as frustrated.

Try again with the girl without porn, and you'll see the difference

I have had this problem twice with randoms hookps. I came to the conclusion it is just nervousness. It's something like stage fright but at the penis level Even new girls I start to date, first time sex sucks for me. It usually goes away once you actually connect with the girl by getting to know her. I beat this with experience, just more sex with more girls made me more comfortable. And if you are embarrassed about it, FUCK IT, they are randoms anyways. It will eventually get better if you say your fit and healthy. And you better be wearing jimmies!!

And alcohol is a factor but 3 beers shouldn't make you limp unless you are an very easy drunk. Chronic masterbation is evil.. Once upon a time I watched sooo much porn that I would not find girls without the pornstar look (whore) attractive. But yeah unless you busted a nut 4 minutes before this, it wouldnt make a difference. I quit jerking it for months and it made me a walking penis fustrated and ready to rip girls cloths off this can be bad for picking up chicks.
Don't relay on this, it might back fire and make you subconciously need it to perform. My advice don't worry about it and yes you still have your v-card. Next time



Oh, one more thing. I have totally had lame first time sex before with to be future GFs, it would be nice to blow their minds but I dont think it really affected anything in my game. They usually think it's something they do worng lol!

I've had exact same problem 1st time, i was with this girl...we were naked and i couldnt get it up...i fingered her to orgasm and then left

what is to blame? Porn, Porn, Porn!

like me, over the years you got used to porn, got used to being alone and jerking certain way etc...

Luckkily a month later I didnt have as much problems with another girl and lost my v card, but was still hooked on porn and it caused alot of problems (not being able to finish off durring sex etc..)

Im quitting porn now to fix my sexual problems, 5days cold turkey...http://yourbrainonporn.com/your-brain-on-porn-series

over the counter sex pills

Not kidding, there amazing. I usually go at least 3 days with out sex or jerking it, I take one before fucking. I cum, and I am hard again in less the 5 minutes. Stock up on condoms though.

Be careful though. Just to be safe, make sure you health is really good.

This is a useful and interesting thread.

Thanks for the insiteful comments and links.

I'm old enough to have been there a few times and I still get first night nerves. I'm meeting a girl later this week. Just for drinks. I will be kissing, fondling, etc. But its set up in such a way there will be no chance progression to sex. Pre-sabotage on both parties part.

I will then meet her again and being more confident and relaxed (assuming date 1 went well, if it didn't no date 2 anyway) and this will be where we have sex.

This minimises pressure to perform. I still get first night nerves which is why random one night stands aren't really my target.

I guess I can work on my sexual confidence and make them work for me but thats another topic.

The message is - you aren't alone, I never realised the porn was that much of a problem.