| Hey guys,
so this is my first field report - and my first documented attempt at picking up, which unfortunately didnt go so well but hey im posting it here because i need advice and to know where i went wrong.
So on saturday night at around 11pm my room mate and i decided to go out. We had planned not too all weekend due to mid semester exams and also me having a massive assignment to do. Luckily i finished by 6 pm though and deemed the night worth of us getting drunk. So we headed out with his girlfriend and a couple of her friends (reallly really not targets, gonna have to take my word on that one) and went to a few night clubs in brisbane city.
I was feeling confident, and full of knowledge id learnt from here - ready to put it into practice - moreso to try it out and learn from it. Im not expecting to be casanova on my first night out after reading a few threads on these forums.
So we enter our first pub/club, the embassy hotel. Walk in and the music is so deafeningly loud i can feel the bass pulsing through my body. So i begin to look for possible targets immeadiately, and anywhere quite to talk to them. Unfortunately this place was packed and both my room mate and i were literally having to yell to even hear each other. Deciding that i wanted to go somewhere quieter we went to our next pub with just me him and his girlfriend. - The stock exchange.
This pub has a similar volume level going, except its more spread out so there is actually places where i could talk to women without having to scream at them.
We walk into a room downstairs and i spot 2 girls sitting alone, both looking sorta pissed off (maybe not a good sign to begin with?) about a HB5 and a HB7 and we walk past straight to the bar to grab a drink. Now i think my first error here would be breaking the 3 second rule in regards to these girls.
After getting my beverage i turned around and went out alone to open on these two girls. I was a little drunk, but not so much that theyd notice so i decided to go with a do you think im gay opener i was told. (Im trying to keep this as accurate as possible - because i want to bear it in full so i can gain some insight to what went wrong, but i had been drinking a little)
Flash: Hi, can i get your opinions on something - i wonder if you can help, i just met some friends of mine i havent seen since high school and they told me that they think i look like im gay now. I dont get it, what about me do you think might be gay?
HB5: Um.... maybe its your voice?
Flash: My voice? and what is it about my voice that seems gay
HB5: I dunno, youre just very polite thats probably why.
Flash: Oh alright, hmm is that such a bad thing though?
HB5: No its not a bad thing.
at this point she was sort of looking around a little, and the HB7 had VERY painfully made a point of not acknowledging my existance.
Flash: Well if it makes me sound gay to have good manners i suppose ill have to bear it. So how do you 2 know each other?
HB5: We're sisters (these girls looked nothing alike)
Flash: Hmm.. You know, i dont see the resemblance - i think youre lying
HB5: Well.. we really are sisters so.. Where are your friends then?
Flash: Theyre off dancing at the moment. Anyway - theres an easy way to tell. There is a small quick test to tell whether people have a strong emotional bond between them. But your friend here is going to have to listen as well for it to work
HB5: Alright then, go.
Flash: What type of shampoo do each of you use
HB5 - without breaking eye contact with me : We're sisters, we live together, we both use the same shampoo.
Flash: You see - that tells me that you are just friends, not sisters. When people have strong emotional bonds between them they will tend to look each other in the eye first before answerign questions like that
(crashing and burning a bit at this point... HB7 still not acknowleding me standing there)
HB5: Oh really, well thats wierd because we are
Flash: *laugh* well im not convinced, anyway id better get back to my friends.
at this point i walked off with my head held high. I tried, but i was trying to analyse the situation to see just where i went wrong. Heres what i came up with -
1. It was still very loud in this room, and these girls were sitting down in an awkward spot (2 tables were anchored to the ground either side of them leaving no room on the bench seat to sit next to them). So for them to hear me i had to lean forward a little, and direct my voice at one of them at a time. - Ideally id sit to the side of my target and talk across her to the HB5 so they can both hear me.
2. These girls seemed pretty pissed off to begin with
Any other thoughts? I know its hard to tell as i cant show the exact scenario but keeping in mind i am a newbie, so any basic newbie errors that would tie in with this?
Thanks!
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