Hey All,

So I am what the pua community would call an average frustrated chump. I am too shy around girls that I consider cute. I don't think I am bad looking, but hardly a Brad Pitt either. I dress well but what keeps hurting me is that I am so bloody shy.

So here is my dilemma. I met this girl online. She is super cute, in my opinion. We set up a date and she cancels. She suggests we meet up on Saturday instead. I tell her I made other plans for Saturday (which is the truth) and she then suggests we meet up on Sunday. This all happened online! She gives me her number and tells me to text her. I do! She is very slow to respond, like in the next day slow. Now since I haven't heard anything from her about our date, I assume it won't take place. Wtf?

We were suppose to meet tomorrow but now I suppose that it is up in the air. Why is she taking so long to respond over the phone, but online she responds fast? We met on an online dating site; she asked me out for coffee. Then we started speaking on Facebook. She saw more pictures of me. Could she have seen more pictures and realized that she is not that physically attracted to me after all? This is making her bale?

Is she playing games? I sent her the last text a few hours ago and no response. What should my game plan be right now?

Thanks for all input:)

First things first, control your attachment level to her and to women, in general.

If her texting schedule has got you into knots, you have bigger issues to deal with than pick-up itself.

Now, if she gave you her number, you should call her. Calling is always the preferred option over texting and it's not like she will wait a day before responding to your question, while over the phone. So, that will work out in your favor.

Another thing which you should realise is that, you cannot expect her to take all the initiative, while you sit at home waiting for her directions. You're the man here, you have to take the lead. Comprende?

And she will appreciate that you are telling her where and when you would like to see her, and not waiting at her beck and call like an obedient dog. Start getting bolder with women, if you want to get anywhere.

You're shy. So what?

Nothing changes, unless you are wiling to step out of your comfort zone and do those things which you normally don't. Even in failure, you will still be taking steps in the right direction because you are challenging yourself.

Good luck.

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Hey Don,

She suggested coffee, I told her we should go mini golfing instead and see this movie called Crazy Stupid Love. I suggested we meet on Friday and she cancels. So we agree upon Sunday at 11:30. I don't want to come across as desperate by texting her again before she has even had a chance to respond to me.

Look just send her a reminder, a few hours before your date and if she replies, good and well.

If she doesn't, kick her to the kerb and get yourself someone not so flaky.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "