Hey I'm a current sophomore at college. I've watched through the RSD stuff last year, but lost a lot of steam, so I decided to rewatch the Blueprint. I started to care too much about the whole RAS thing and it was really messing with me. I figured to watch it again to fix up anything I was thinking weird. Working well so far. I didn't really talk to many girls last year through cold approaching and stuff. I did meet quite a few, but I decided to work on this whole meeting girls when I'm out thing.

8/22

I think I approached between 14-18 girls today.

i started off the night in total chode mode. I decided to text myself. Quit being such a fucking chode. a few minutes later it arrived on my phone, and I used that to get me to start finally approaching.

Overall of the 18 or so approaches. 15 of them were willing to talk to me.

1 gave me a half assed shrug thing
1 just walked away as I tried to grab her
1 left a second later because she was about to leave with her friends

With the remaining 15 approaches that worked out pretty well, about 10 of them led to some default chodeversation. 3 of them got touchy and whatnot, but still involved with stupid conversation. This stuff isn't that easy. But I was happy with just approaching. But, now I want more.

New sticking point: Getting myself to escalate beyond just touching or hugging. Also, dance floor game

8/24

Went out to some bar. It was really crappy seeing as there were very few girls there.

I got to just go and do what I do regardless of the number of girls there. I know of Tim's ideology just forgot abou it.

Crappy night overall

Problems: didn't open anybody




8/25

Went out again. Headed over to one bar at first. Yuck, hated the people there, so I decided to leave, was kind of empty

Headed over to another bar. wtf $20 cover. whatever. went inside, raged. Danced with some girl, realized that I can just grab her and start dancing with her and she wouldn't care. Talked to the girl next to me for a bit.

Headed over to another bar. Opened up two girls, talked to them for quite a bit. My conversations were flowing, i was pretty happy. Opened up another girl later, same thing...eventually bf came in and grabbed her away. My intereactions were wack on Monday night, today they were great.

Sticking Points: escalating, outside of verbal escalation. Also, learn to meet girls in a louder venue. I only talk to them on the porch-like area of bars. I can't talk very well when there's the music blasting.

Realizations: I can just be myself. Nothing else. It'll work. These girls just opened up to me as I started talking to them, I didn't bounce out of sets like I did on monday night. It's also no big deal talking to them

8/26

Went to one of the bars I went to last night.

Started off kind of chodey, but started dancing and got myself in the mood. Finally my buddies started to roll in which was awesome. didn't see a lot of these guys for a while.

Starting to develop dance floor game pretty well, I can just grab her by the hand and start swinging with her.

Had some nice convos with a few girls, approached a lot...got sidetracked a lot though while talking to them

Saw the first 10/10 in my life, this girl was gorgeous...i saw some dude talking her up and brought her to a table. i legit jumped to her, told her that she was the most gorgeous person i've seen in my life, whatever, and how speechless I was. I kind of just stood there because I had nothing to say at all. She keeps telling me about her boyfriend but i'm like i don't give a fuck about him. I kiss her on the shoulders and stuff. but whatever, I decided it wasn't happening. But wow I actually approached this girl. I needed to plow some more. struck up convo with her friend as well, whatever. they all warn me about her boyfriend. don't give a fuck. close to a # close but my buddies told me that they were leaving. damn...hope to see her some other night

Also tried to be really direct and go for the makeout. started dancing with some girl, brought her in was talking in her ears for a bit, she couldn't hear. so i grabbed her face looked directly at it, and tried to go for a makeout, but she kind fo pulled away. I'm like whatever and i left...on second thought i probably shouldnt' have left. the stuff i'm doing, i'm not really getting any punishments for

Some girls opened me which was cool, and a few were interested. awesome fun night..raging to a jam band

I got tooled out of my mind by this one dude and his friend..it literally didn't effect me at all, I managed to keep state to it's entirety/stayed unreactive, something that probably wouldn't have happened in the past.

Sticking Point: I leave sets too early today...got to fix that up and just stick with the girl...unfortuantely i don't want to risk things getting awkward because this is a social circle situation




8/27

Roll into a bar around 11:40. Again sarging solo. None of my friends were coming to this place tonight. Start to rock out to the jam band. I see this one girl grab her hand and ask her to dance. We start dancing. I start being a bad dancer and she says something like "oh how about I get you a drink" and she leaves. I figure she wasn't coming back,. but maybe I'm wrong...whatever.

I go head over to another bar, I see one of my friends there. I chat him up a bit. Then head on over and see these two girls. One definately gave me a wrong name. Whatever I start talking to them a bit mocking them for using the wrong names and whatnot. But I didn't feel the set was going anywhere so I kind of ejected...i should stop ejecting

I go see another girl standing alone, I start talking to her, she starts smiling. I ask her to come outside because I wanted to talk to her, but she tells me she has to wait for her friend because she was going home

I head back to the original bar. I walk up to this one girl in between two dudes. I introduce myself to her, and she was kind of receptive and start talking. Her buddies [one was apparently her boyfriend], start trying to talk to me and whatnot. I still manage to keep somewhat of a conversation with them, but it got kind fo weird.

I head over to another nearby bar. I go in and see this one girl just standing there. I start talking to her and she was pretty giggly. I ask her to go outside to talk. She tells me she's waiting for her friend, blah blah. We talk a little bit inside then her friend comes out and they leave.

Forgot to mention, I started a conversation with two lesbians on the walk to one of the bars. They were getting married in a week. It was a fun interaction, the girl said the word pussy weirdly. Apparently the two met because one was the TA of the other..talk about ethics.

Back at the bar, I see some girl with a dude and some other girl. I start chatting up the girl and just blurting out whatever. She wasn't really responding to me too much. She brings up the question of age randomly. I tell her oh 21...actually 19, whatever. she says I'm too old for you or something along those lines and wahtnot, so i just ditch.

Anyway, the bar closes because I was there kind of late. I see some girl as I'm heading out, she's tall. I introduce myself to her, tell her something about how big she is and whatnot. she's giggling and stuff, she then looks at me like I'm too drunk or something and hopes that i get a cab back home or something along those lines. I tell her to help me and get a cab for me, she says something about if I could I would, and she goes off.

I see this other girl just standing there alone start talking to her ask her why she's staring inside. She tells me something about her friend is inside and she had lost her iphone or some shit. we are talking for a bit. then the friend comes out, and starts talking to her, they decide to leave, she gives me a hug, and they bounce.

There might have been more sets, but whatever

I'm donig something wrong, i can't keep attraction up or something.. i don't know. I need help

9/1

Drunk as i'm typing this again

but basically i went over to this one bar. I was completely sober at this point and i approached this one three set. I introduced myself , but I dont think it really went anywhere, the girls just stood there. I didn't leave set and just stook there along with them. I think i mentioned that one of the girls had a weird way of drinking out of the bottle.

Then I was just stting, I jumped on top of stage and tried to dance with these two girls [put one behind me, one in front of me...i failed]

Started talking to this random girl, she was receptive, her friend looked at me and was like get away. I saw a friend of mine and got kind of distracted so my fault.. Could've plowed though it

I got a few drinks, went on over to another bar. Saw this random hot girl, she was a year older than me, i introduced myself and brought her over to the bar to get her a drink. Of course again, the biggest issue I have is keeping conversation going in this situtation.

In the outside area I approached this one girl, had a pretty good convo. Didn't bother pushing knowing that she had a boyfriend who graduated the past year. But I # closed her.

Went back inside did whatever. Was really drunk at this point

Went over to another bar. Saw this one chick doing some random movements. I start imitating her and whatnot, eventually I pull her over to the dance floor after imitating her start dancing up on her, but she ends up leaving rather quickly. Whatever. I see these 3 chicks and approach them asking why they were wearing the same shirt. Strick up a quick conversation ~40 seconds with them.

Some random dude opens me at one point, I start talking to some girl in the set for a bit. she jokes about somethign about lice or something. I end up leaving the set.

Leave the venue. End up at some fast food place. Start talking with somee girl visitng, have an okay conversation. Kind of broken up. I keep thinking about what to say.

Basically I suck at conversation. I noticed this and this doesn't seem to fucking go away. HELP ME OUT WITH TALKING TO PEOPLE!!!!



9/2

Basically spent tthe night at the fraternity houses. Kind of fucked up right now so bear with me. But basically just went aroudn drinking.

I'm trying to remember my sets

But there was thsi one 3 set that I tried to open initially, was not receptive...whatever. they weren't really talkign

Most of the time was spent talking to my buddies at various fraternities .

Approached this one two set with a friend of mine at osme fraternity. Some decent conversation but they left because they were on their way towards leaving

Some time later int he ngiht, ended up at some other house. Tlaked with this one two set. ne of th egirls in the set was hot. They were writing on the walls with highlighter or somethihgn. I started writign on the girls and whatnot, but I neded up leaving the set. Later on I went back into this house and approached some girl. Told her to flow me, she started doing it, but she didn't in the end.

Ended up at some other house, Approached this one girl. Started talking. I told her I thought she was a freshman and whatnot, she was like offended at first joking and whantot, her friends juimped in and started talking to me. then some other girl started talking to me saying we were in the same class sometime along the lines or some shit. whatever. we atlked up for a bit.

Approached this other girl. We were talking about stuff for a bit. THen her friend jumped in, we were talking. then some dude jumped in and started asking random shit and what not. We were making fun of him a lot. I pulled the girl aside. Got a makeout and # closed her. She said she'll text me and whatnot. So it was pretty solid. Conversation was pretty solid in this set because I kind of had seen the chick beforee

I think I approached some other set,, this was crappy. basically introduction and that was all.

Okay then started walking back to my dorm. Saw this one grou pfo people. Started talking to some girl about how hipster she was and whatnot, okay interaction. she ended up elavin g with some dude she was with. whatever

Approached some other chick ,she doesn't go to my schoo land stuff. I started talking to her about why she tansferred and whatnot and stuff. I talked about her bracelets and whatnot. Got her number...doubt I'll call her.

But overall thsi night. Got one number from a 9, and this other number from an alright girl whatever. Will keep in touch with the 9. But overall okay night.

Sorry I'm a little drunk and Can't really see the screen so I'm just typing stream con consciousness. But basically I noticed one thing though. I can't approach in loud venues. The only thing I approach for in the loud areas is for dancing, and that doesn't really lead anywhere for me. I either have approach anxiety or failure anxiety in such venues, and need to get over that stuff.

But overall a rather fun night.

9/3

Again drunk still

but was at some football game tailgate

Just went around raging having fun and whatnot. I notice still that I don't appraoch tne it's too loud.

I think i only approached like 6 girls ro so. the first one I approached, just stood there couldn't really talk about much. I forget what we talked about, her friend came in we met. She started talking to her friend, and then it was over...they left

I met this one other girl. Asked her somethign about why she had a bag here for a tailgate. We talked for a few seconds, she offered me some champange. I drank some. And then..She just went along with her friend, she was nearby and she started doign whatever

I think I approached this one other girl, as soon as I did her friend came and started talking to her...so it wasn't that great,

I really can't remember much



But still, the things come down to two distinct things:

1) APPROACHING IN A LOUD VENUE, I CAN'T SEEM TO DO IT. ALL OF MY APPROACHES COME IN A MORE CALM AREA
2) KEEPING CONVERSATIONS FLOWING . I FALL WAYY TOO IN M Y HEAD [SORRY I JUST REALIZED CAPS LOCK WAS ON RIGHT NOW]

Edit: okay there were some more approaches that i'm just starting to remember

Walked up to this girl and guy sitting on some chairs. Walked up right to the girl introduced myself and chilled there. didn't really say much. left

Appraoched this one girl ont he bus service at our school, really good interaction here. Again later on on the bus another good interaction.

Again the whole situation where i can't open in louder areas but quieter ones are just fine


9/9

another night out

went to this one club downtown. wow crazy approach anxiety..the loud music does it for me..i'm willing to dance and stuff at these places..but loud music kills my cold approach abilities..theres way too much external stimulation for me to do anything...i absolutely hate it, wtf




head over to another bar..head inside, still stifled. headed on over to the quieter porch area, started talking to this 9, shes a nurse btw, good convo going..pretty relaxed...eventually bf comes and called her out of there..gay


what a crappy night, head on over to get some food around 11. see some chick, 7 or so, in line ahead of me. she goes to another school.we talk and stuff in line. tell her to sit with me. she says to sit with her friends. i ignore her and get my own table. she leaves her friends for me. we chat, when we are leaving...boom makeout. I pull her back to my dorm. Raw dog her twice. Give her $50 for plan B, and kick her out..she doesn't know my name haha...nor do i know her's now that i think about it...I puleld a girl from a fast food chain..wow

But good night, unfortunately I would like to approach in the louder areas

Too drunk right now to tyep

but went to a few parties tonight

Approached a few sets. I think around 10 or so girls all night..maybe a few more..i really don't know.

I remember two alright conversations

There were two girls that I escalated heavily on...they were both dtf..one was a virgin

Honestly this first girl. she told me she was missing from her friends and whatnot. she was defintately into me. I tell her okay lets look for your friends at "x" place. on the walk to "x" place we hook up multiple times and whatnot...she's pretty crappy at kissing. she kisses my neck and whatnot..but she's horrible. i hand her off to another friend of mine who's a girl and have her take her back to her place. I end up getting back to where I was. I met this one other girl. this girl was really into me and whatnot, but i kind of ignored her a lot. she was dancing up on me and shit. she was really dtf, should've puled the trigger, but didn't

beyond that

i had a few other interactions with some. they were pretty good. met up with some kids i haven[t met in a while. but overall a pretty fun/itneresting night.

Add on to 9/9 on previous post
i had a few other interactions with some. they were pretty good. met up with some kids i haven[t met in a while. but overall a pretty fun/itneresting night.

There were these two girls that I met at one point in the night, shotgunned a beer with them. Pretty fun conversatoin with both of them, one was attractive but seemed to be attached to the hip of her friend

Walked into this one super hot girl talked for a tiny bit but she was heading the opposite way as me so I had to split ways

On the bus ride back I had a pretty good convo with this one freshman got her number but that was it



9/10

Went out Yesterday afternoon and last night

Tailgating yesterday afternoon. I only really approached a few girls all afternoon. No real good interactions to say the least. I had two girls dancing around me while i was just sitting. they were dancing on top of me..i just didn't care and they seemed to be trying harder. I was kidn of too fucked up to even care at this point also because I was texting this one consistent girl i had at that time

Beyond that, i went up to this one girl she doesn't even go to my school, but basically the majority of the conversation consisted of me just feeling her up and whatnot

I think i had one more conversation with two girls, but i was talking to one of them and the other one was like playing with my hair so i went towards her and started talking and then some dude jumped inot the set and started talking and i got bored of teh converastion he brought up so i bounced

I really don't recall approaching any other girls to be honest. I didn't take my medication that morning and was feeling like crap

Anyway at night I made like 3 or so approaches. Pretty lame night/afternoon for me..whatever. Found out I can't drink anymore which sucks because of a medical thing. So this is going to be interesting.

Approached this one girl in line at a party, we had a pretty solid conversation, we jumped the line together to get into the party, but we split ways then

Also I saw these two girls on the school's bus service. I kind of tried talking to them, but their RAS were more into each other than willing to have a convo with me, they were really fucked up

Wow man, you should be proud of yourself! Approaching is the hardest part in my opinion. Keep it up!

Are you getting any numbers?

Ok so last week was parent's weekend, so I couldn't really do much per say

but this week let's begin

9/22

Okay...so the bar was packed and filled with people, it was my first night out in a while...of course anxiety through the roof. I decided to just get drinks and drank. I only talked a bit with people I knew. I danced a bit to the band. Didn't do much in terms of approaching it was bad. I went ot the porch and talked to some dudes I had never seen before. Other than tahat, forgettable night

9/23

Didn't drink tonight. Decided to go to some bar i've never beent o before. It's 18_+ so i left my fake behind. Turns out the place closed down...oh well that sucked. I just roamed around downtown. I saw this place offering free spit tobacco. So i went over there. the really hot girl up fron looked at me and was like "hey I remember you " and i'm like "huh" she's like "you were at ____ place" and whatnot. I realized it was the girl I met the first night in this field report thread that was superhot and i was hugging and stuff. whatever i went inside chatted up the girls offering the stuff and teasing with them and left. Told them stuff like how sketch the place we were in was [some random van...kind of weird]. Walked through the street. Saw these two midgit dudes dancing for $ with some guy playing guitar. there was a crowd aroudn them. I'm like fuck it i jump in and start dancing with these midgets for a second. the crowd oves it. I bounce see this other dude performing i tip him a dollar for wearing a tom brady jersey. I head on over to another location with bars. realized i didn't have my id...so i had to leave. Walked by some random party. started talking up some dudes I didn't know...i didn't know anybody there i kind of just crashed. Started talking to peple. Opened this one grou pof three people, 2 girls. Hooked everyoen in and stuff. I ended up leaving and went to bed


9/24
Went out again to a party. There was a live band so just dancing and messing around .Again didn't drink tonight. I didnt' approach for shit, just talked up dudes i knew and stuff. I happened to walk into two of the girls i had seen yesterday. I stop and start chatting them up. the hotter girl i pull into me and start talking al ittle bit. start dancing with her [swing stuff]. I then grab her and lift her and whatnot. I bring her close to me start whispering in her ear. makeout with her...as this is happening her friend is literally dragging her away from me while she's latchign onto me. eventually the friend wins..whatever. i end up leaving in a bit

Issue However: I don't approach hotter girls when I'm sober. I don't do high risk approaches or anything like taht. I 'm afraid everyone will see me getting blown out and stuff...i guess i noticed my issue now. Why should I be afraid of everyone seeing a really hot girl blow me out on a high risk approach? Why would she even be blowing me out in the first place? Everyone will see me succeed with her...also why would anybody even be looking at what i'm doing? Plus the high risk approach shows a lot of confidence...[i thought of going up to thsi one girl dancing on stage with her friends next to band pulling my hands out towards her to pull her down and then pulling her down and carrying her...can't really explain it. it would've been awesome but i was afraid she would blow me out. again she's not going to blow me out if i'm cool duh]

10/2

God it's been a while..sober tonight

These aren't in any order. I was kind of the odd person out at this place...funny the way it is because the people there were ridiculously odd hipster, trashy, poorly dressed individuals

Dance Floor Approaches/inside venue approaches [aka with loud music]:

went out tonight to some random place without anybody from my school there...the people are kind of weird as hell.

there wer some djs performing and stuff. I went up to this one girl to dance and whatnot. she tells me dshe doesn't dance with people she dances alone. so i started dancing around her while looking at her and stuff. she tells me that i'm cute or something...i'm like "cute uhh okay is that all you can say" we kept dancing/looking at each other. i bring her in give her a small kiss..she keeps telling me that she only dances alone.

This other girl catches my eye. I grab her hand and look at her..she tells me she has a boyfriend. I start dancing next to her for a bit looking at the DJ. Then i go back and introduce myself and stuff. her friend kind of pulls her away after that..i reopened her even later that night, her boyfriend was there with her that time of course..whatever

Saw this other girl behind me i start rubbing my butt up on her and grinding on her with her behind me..She kind of acts weird and some dudes come up to me and start telling me "she's cool dude" over and over again...i'm like whatever and leave that one

Walked up to this one girl..got her name i think and asked some random thing about her age..i stopped talking hoping to put pressure on her to talk..she says wait a second and goes down the stairs, she just got in and was wondering why her friends haven't come up yet..whatever i left at that point

went to the bartender introduced myself to her and talked for a tiny bit

as a joke i went up to this one super duper drunk girl and had her start grinding on me..it was awesome. i left after a few minutes because this girl was like about to pass out

Started dancing for a tiny bit with this one girl..well not really dancing but just looking at each other here and ther..she was to the right of me and started messing around.


Outside area approaches:

Went up to these two girls...both hipster as fuck. started talking for a few minutes and stuff about her clothing, her arrests and stuff like that. random people that they went to school with kept jumping into the set every few minutes and leaving which was kind of weird. The one girl was kind of taken into a side conversation by another friend who joined in. I started talking to the other girl..eventually the dj changed to the headliner dude and she said she's going inside to dance.

Went up to this group of 2 dudes 1 girl. the girl was really receptive i kind of kept it cool just talking to her here and there and engaged the guys. we talked about music and stuff and school. these people were much older than me. the three were an aspiring dj group

went up to this other girl talked for a bit, something about her medallion or something. it was kind of casual we were a good distance apart and everything

Walked up to this other set of two girls. talked about random stuff forget exactly. she was getting really receptive over some stuff i said. i ended up bouncing because i stated talking to the other girl, the girl i was talking to disappeared all the sudden and some random trashy dudes came by and i just didn't want to be around them

Started talking to some promoter chick, had some cool conversations. she knows a lot of awesome people

I definitely approached a few more outside..just don't remember


I'm realizing that I'm not pushing things forward/my reality. I know i can approach and talk to people..a weird thing is, when it's loud i can't talk for crap. when it's more quiet i can talk with everybody...got to get that fixed up. My reality still hasn't been fixed and i'm still in a comfort zone. the thing is normal conversation doesn't work on the dance floor. you got to be more direct and i'm not truly used to direct opening..it would've been helpful at a random club, but it doesn't cut it for on campus meeting people because it comes off kind of creepy.

10/6

I had a few drinks tonight, first time in a while

Showed up at a concert at a place...the show was sold out i was pissed, a group of three girls behind me were annoyed too, i kind of said something to them about it..dont think they noticed. i found out we can buy vip tickets still so i went up and did that, one of the girls part of that group also went upstairs to buy them. we bought them i offered to buy the girl a shot and stuff and we talked a tiny bit. i didn't end up getting those shots because our ids weren't checked yet. but basically in the conert, i was more concerned about getting up front to see the dude.

I kind of chatted up a few people as i tried to move up front. Some girl was being annoying i'm just telling her to relax and stuff and not caring. I left to go to the other part of the bar which was a perk for having vip, acces to both sides and both concerts. there really was nobody there. i went outside there was someone i remember the last time i went out 10/2. we talked for a bit, i met her friends. we schemed in order to get her and her friends in. it almost worked i guess. anyway i was back at the rapper's show. it was ridiculous. again i kind of just said stuff to people as i moved up and during the show, not really thinking. i just realized i got some random hot girl to give me her email address because she took a picture and i'm like "hey mind emailing me that picture" and i sent myself an email through her phone. I just looked her up, she's some french girl who actually goes to one of the top unviersities in the country, Chicago...wife material right there. i got to keep in contact.

Anyway I kind of just talked to some people here and there, nothing really just asking questions

I went to the upstairs concert aferwards

I went outside to the balcony mostly and just chilled with people

Met about 19-20 people all night, guys and girls

i even had some dude offer to smoke weed with me right then and there which i was down to do until i got sidetracked by some girl inside, i realized my problem is still i can't talk outside of a line or two inside of a loud venue.

But like I started having girls come up to me and say "Dance with me" and stuff. it was pretty awesome

Just talking to people, i even spoke to some dude who went to jail and didn't feel scared or anything. basically chilling and whatnot.

Met some promoter chicks and stuff

Met these two girls who were all older then me who made a ton of sexual references to me that i just kind of punned around with.

Met some colorado chick

Met a bunch of other girls

It was cool and all

I met these other two girls when they were talking to two dudes. we made a joke about my name that stook for much later (one of these girls was super hot blonde 10). after three people in that group left including the two girls, i started chilling with the guy for a bit and it was cool.

blah blah blah, i just kept meeting/remeeting people and stuff.

went insdie again, sat on top of a speaker next to the stage and started dancing to the music

went back outside..talked to some other girl who was talking to a dude, the dude leaves just keep talking to the girl, get a little bit deep actually. i told her that i'm going to be her friend..it'll stay that way because girl is weird as fuck as i'll later notice

keep taking to people some more

then i see hot blonde girl, her friend is leaving and there are two dudes there talking with her more or less. i come back in the set..i open up the dudes with the joke about my name that the two girls made earlier. the girl starts giggling. one of the dudes leave, then me the girl and the other dude just shart chatting and whatnot, i'm obviously giving most of my attention to the girl, but whenever that dude brings something interesting i do give my focus that way. i didn't really care about asking for her numbe ri put her name on my phone and kind of handed to her while he was talking lol and she put it in. at some point we both look out off the balcony, me and girl. dude kind of leaves us. I ask her how old she is, where she lives.

Then i say "hey, wanna get out of here." still looking at her, she thinks for quite a while, and then she's like "i got classes tomorrow." she looks at me, i say you can get back in time..then i'm like ok i'll text you. she says "you were the guy who texted me _____" i'm like yeah. I tell her you're the hottest girl i've met tonight. she starts looking right at me. then says thank you, text me. and i leave the place

as i'm waiting for my cab, she says bye to me as to a few other girls. At some point this one girl that i met just comes to me and starts talking [this is around closing], it was clear that she wanted to get with me. i mean considering how late it was and stuff, this was the 3rd time i was talking to her. another girl comes by, colorado girl i start talking to her a bit. when my cab was there, i hugged the girl that came to me and left.

I was kind of thinking too much about hot blonde 10 chick, i should've brought the other girl back.


big thing. this is the first time i went that direct with the "wanna get out of here" and it actually worked well. I usually let the girl make the decision and do that whole thing. i got to keep doing this stuff. it's a matter of using it at the right time though.

but tonight was awesome...i understand what lording the club means. unless it's something even greater than this...we shall find out

10/7

Went to club today...still working on figuring out club game..

anyway i go in...get there waaay too fucking early. place is literally empty. Random meet a few people i met the night prior and whatnot, started talking to them. stood outside the venue, started talking to these two dudes about music or something

I see these two girls..i start talking to them, they give off some weirded out vibe. i still continue trying to force conversation with them until i just didn't care enough asked for a lighter and left. waited outside and just chilled there.

While smoking i texted a few people, this one girl came out and sat down. after i finished texting i sat down next to her started talking for a bit about stuff. she was the bartender there. just talked about how she got the job because i really want a fucking bartending job just for some side cash. start talking about guy/girl drinks and how my dad is a pussy sometimes for getting a pink drink like she does. she all the sudden says but i drink whiskey. i'm like well that's awesome it's a double standard blah blah. she's done her cigarette, gives me a pat on the back goes back to work


Waited til the place picked up some more. basically just stood/leabed by a wall and looked from outside the actual entire dance area where the dj was playing and stuff. not really moving. I noticed how weird people are/dress/act outside of my school. Soo many guido/trash/hipster people. not trying to dude. but i rarely see leather jackets, graphic tshirts, button downs with giant designs on it when i go out. And skinny jeans too. I was ridiculously overdressed with Sperry Topsiders, Yellow Chinos, and a pink button down shirt.

Basically it finally started picking up. Went backstage where the DJs were performing. The thing is i was ridiculously overdressed that people assumed [security] that i belonged there or something. i saw this one girl just sitting there. we're talking, she's laughing at everything i say and stuff. she's friends with the people performing and stuff. i meet the djs they give me a voucher for a free drink. awesome a shot of whiskey..bullshitted that i was 21 with a random yellow livestrong band i was wearing. this girl was into me...i didn't push it i don't know why.

Then I got another drink from the next dj, he was someone we had come over to our fraternity party earlier on the year..awesome, another shot of whiskey. I go start dancing now just fucking around. one of the dudes i met earlier bought me a free beer. awesome chug this in a few seconds. Keep dancing..to myself

I walk up to this one girl that i've literally seen make 9-10 trips walking in and out of the venue. i went up to her asked for her hand, she pulls away. i come close to her and ask why she just kept running back and forth out. she's like i was looking for my boyfriend, the dude behind her. I'm like oh okay. i leave. Umm i go back out, chat up some dude as i leave. chat up some promoter, and his buddy who i met the other day.

I see a bunch of girls sitting down or something. i start talking to one of them, i leave. forget what i was talking about.

Went back inside. Saw these two dudes all over these two girls..not sure what was up. i went up to the girl...kind of weakly and tried to be direct...burn and fail. she pushes me away. the dude looks at me and threatens to beat me up. i get his name and get him kicked out of the place. Going to Yale has its benefits. to the bouncer "hey these guy is harassing me" he asks "do you go to yale or somthing" based off the way i dress I'm like "yeah" kicks the dude out. hilarious. I go back stage, chill at the "vip" area...nobody there of course. I see some girl standing alone by a pole. i ask what she's doing or something forget exactly. she laughs but i leave afterwards.

I then went back up front and i looked around and tried to figure out why i have so much anxiety in loud areas. I realized that i get too into the whole loud music thing and let it take over my energy. I look around and i'm like yeah...that must be the case for everyone here. i just lean by a pole, start to control my breathing. actually stood there to enjoy the music and the cool lights. not getting enveloped in the whole environment. it felt awesome. I saw some random chicks with hoolahoops. she taught me how to do it...okay that was kind of random though

I saw this one girl. go up to her say something, she says something back. i try to get her to dance with me. she doesn't dance with dudes or something..i saw a few people try to dance with her. I stay in front of her without moving just dancing looking right at her. she stays but doesn't look at me, just keep aloof. I keep staring right at her smiling. Her friend comes in and starts talking to her while she's dancing. i'm like whatever. i head out

I sneak into the other bar in this building upstairs. They have a live band...awesome. I start dancing to him. say something to some girl behind me really quick, just a quesiton. I see some dude with a hat of a team my favorite team is playing. ask him what the final score was...my team lost shit. whatever.

After that thing is over. I go back and start talking to these three people, 1 girl two older dudes. start talking about shrooms or something and about thailand. kind of random. the people in this area were all really old with the exception of these two dudes and two girls.

I go outside look around. see this one dude in a SPAM outfit like thing, start talking to him. there's some girl next to him to but kind of ignoring her because this dude seeme more interesting. start talking about stuff, school, adderrall. she laughs at everything...which was a little too much but she was kind of ugly didn't really want to engage her

I went back in. I see those 2 girls 2 dudes around this one place where they were selling merchandise. I go around the back with the sellers, start talking to them. one of the girls say something about kentucky, i say something about that. she kind of ignores me. Then i go back around. start talking to the other girl, hotter one, she's hooked and laughing about everything i say. she moved here and started talking about how the people are whatnot. it was a nice convo. eventually the dude tries to pull her out and she resists and stays talking to me, i ask for her number she says i cant that's my boyfriend. this is all while he's still pulling her but she's still staying. I'm like alright it's cool i ask her a few more things and just let them go. the dude was pissed

I went back to the downstairs DJ loud music thing. I see these three hot girls go over to the bar. i went and started talking to one of the girls. her friend comes in and says "she has a boyfriend" blah blah. I'm still looking at her, they all leave she's like "sorry"

Place is basically closing

I go outside. I try to call a cab to get back on campus...fucking cab wasn't coming i was pissed. Start talking to this one hot blonde chick. she starts teasing me and whatnot. we keep talking and stuff about random things. I meet one of the DJs there through her and stuff. I keep chatting her up a bit. But i'm still concerned about my cab situation to really care too much. As she leaves, she gives me a hug says nice to meet you. her friends say peace to me [the DJ and maybe some other dude].

I then see this other girl sit down. I start talking to her about random stuff. her tattoo or something. We keep talking and whatnot. I finally get a call from the cab guy he says he'll be there. She then tells me, hey you should move a little bit more away because if my boyfriend sees you with me he's just going to bitch like he always does. Some car pulls up and she goes in.

Finally forever later this cab comes.

There were other things

I went over to the VIP area again at some point. Started just random saying one line things to some girls...not really caring too much. I saw some girl smoking right in the club...call it bold. i join her eventually. I have girls ask me to take pictures of them...are you fucking kidding me, i was pissed about all that.

But meh night. I still suck at a club situation with a lot of loud music. I heard there was some afterparty. Cab guy took me around there, place looked shady as fuck plus it was right next to an adult video store. I'm like yeah...i'll go back to my dorm.

I guess on the plus side: free drinks, approached for what it's worth [i had 3-5 solid; 3 of them solid] didn't push anything though.

10/8

Goal tonight was to get physical with all the girls i approached, which i did except for that one woman who works at my school.

I just got The Physical game and started reading through it

Try #2 at a loud venue night club...basically sober the entire night until 1 shot at some point, but again that's just 1 shot

My first approach ended up being some girl dancing up on stage. I put my hand out to her, she kind of refuses. Then I litearlly have 2 dudes jump on me saying whoa back off and whatnot and try to start stuff with me, i start patting them on the chest and whatnot telling them to back off a chill. I put my hand on her waist, i'm not pulling or anything which is dumb of me. but she tells me that she brought 6 boyfriends with her tonight and points through all of them. I start thinking wtf to myself. And literally all 6 of them were in fact dancing around her the entire time before i kind of jumped in. They all start coming up to me and try to instigate something..i'm like wow this is stupid

I did approach a few dudes here and there for stupid things.

I saw this group of four girls. i just asked one of the girls some question about why everyone was dressed a certain way. went on my way after that.

I was still not in a social mood through the whole club loud venue thing. I go into this other part of the bar where a concert had just taken place. it's quiet now with a few people. I ask these two dudes what happened, which is why i know there's a concert. then i turned around saw this one woman, started talking to her. turns out she works at my school. kind of wierd. we just keep talking. then those two dudes, apparently her friends, pull her away from her seat and have her take a picture with their group. She says to watch her purse she comes back i say something small and leave.

I go back to the loud area. I go up to the girl bartender and just introduce myself. I go back into the place. I started thinking more about what Ozzie was saying after that first approach.

As i walked towards the dance floor i saw some girl coming out, we made eyecontact and I approached her immediately. She was all giddly and happy regardless of how stupid what I said was. i got physical really quickly but it kind of happened on its own. I tell her i got to go, she's like okay please find me later. Approach right after eyecontact is clutch basically

I go in, i see these two hotties dancing together. I go in put my arms around both and kind fo start dancing between the two. They are being cold. We stop dancing i ask the one girl what her name is, she says "adios" of course, i'm completely clueless and not realizing what she said until like 10 seconds later. i thougth she kept saying addidas or something. I'm like oh wow, well my name is hello. i say soemthing else. she starts laughing. But i'm like you're a bitch though so i'm gonna go, she grabs me...but honestly I thought that other girl that i approached immediately earlier was hotter.

I went back to the bar area, i sat ontop of a ledge, next to that girl i asked the question earlier in that group of four. I start talking to her about something random from 3rd grade. she's really into it and stuff. i give her a small kiss on the cheek, get her name. then of course some random girl comes in and tells her oh i recognize you what's your name blah. then her friend to her right says something to her and one behind her says something. then she turns around is like sorry about that. keeps looking right at me and stuff. Then some dude comes back with like 4 drinks. Now that I think about it, i should've grabbed one and said thanks or something. he hands them to the girl and some of her friends. he then tells me, hey that was my seat i'd like it back. It was bullshit because i had this one...whatever i hopped off. grabbed a cigarette and went to the opposite side of the window. sat next to the girl's other two friends. I start talking to one of them. At one ponit she's like hold on i'll be back i got to see someone. she leaves her phone there so she was going to be back. but then i say something to her other friend who's kind of a little bit farther away from me. But then i leave the porch thing.

Go back to the dance floor. I spot some girl who just turned 21. There's a girl dancing behind her, and a dude dancing behind that girl. I tell the dude, hey let me buy your friend a shot.

I talk to the girls' other friend some other chick who was like frantically texting someone. her sister is of course lost and whatnot, so she leaves like 2 minutes into our conversation

I bring her to the bar. we take a shot.

from here the night kind of gets hazy. She had a checklist of 21 things to do...honestly from 1-3 AM is a complete blur to me. But i'm still under the impression that i just had that 1 shot when i went to the bar. funny aprt is i still had the underage wristband on me. I left with her to help her finish off some stuff.

But i literally blacked out...which i dont understand

Such a busy week on school work, finally made it out

10/14

no drinking tonight...

Maybe approached like 8-9 girls. basically i didn't speak at all tonight, i just stood there looking at her, maybe nodding or something, giving some facial expression here and there, a word or two here and there. Girls were literally just talking to me nonstop as soon as i shut up.

A thing I noticed is that they all threw some type of shit test at me to make fun of me about something, then they realize i'm still looking at her the same way, and she starts apologizing and stuff saying "oh i'm not that type of person blah blah." It was actually kind of ridiculous. When i spoke no more than 5 words at a time. Basically they were all qualifying themselves or supplicating to me ridiculously.

My issue was I couldn't do anything in terms of leading the interactions, i got stuck in that mode and also wasn't physically escalating

Was at some bar with a $45 cover some concert apparently, wtf. manged to sneak in for free my livestrong band qualified as a "bracelet"

went back to school for some parties, strange thing, after going out to these non school related places, i noticed i have ridiculous amounts of approach anxiety on campus...