kind of on the negative side towards you , how do you deal with this?????

Cry and run.

go in for the kiss.

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Negative as in what? They get pissy? Need more info---

They start talking shit about you..you know?

I don't think I've ever had that happen...I am not sure many of us have. But- who the fuck cares? How is your life any different for having met her? It's not. You'll still wake up, still take a shit, still eat....you just say, "Pleasure meeting you" and eject. Not much else you can do. I would warn against getting into a pointless fight with her. It's not like you're going to fuck her...that's Han Solo type shit.

**Caveat*** Know the difference between talking shit and flirting, a friend of mine talks shit as a way of testing me and flirting. Measure intent and context. I'll show you what I mean. Higher value women do this to gauge ALL THE TIME. This is copied from a different question in a previous post, but this what it is normally like to talk to her.

Me: Hatecherface

Her: Stop flirting with me, kthanx

Me: My god your arrogant! Flatter yourself much? You're famous btw, I took this stripper out and she agrees it was settling.

Her: Everyday and huh?

Me: About splitting up. Nvmd.

Her: Everybody agrees with me. Duh

Me: Lies. You're so friggin full of yourself. This is why we wouldn't work- I am hotter than you, plus I'd leave you with the check on our fake dates

Her: You're so gay, you just called yourself pretty.

Me: No dice. Remember when we said we'd get married at 60 if we werent married? I want a divorce, you keep the kids, I get house and boat...

It's a shit test, just ignore and continue your game / frame. Alternatively select your next target.

Continue to remain indifferent to her. She's most probably trying to get a rise out of your for her own reasons.

Don't give them what they want. Frustrates the crap out of them.

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Don- how would you go about that? I've always seen if you ignore it they'll just continue, at least the hotter ones will. And sometimes it is just their way of flirting.

Well, you look at them with a mixture of amusement and pity.

Like you know what they are trying to do and such trivial tricks won't actually affect you.

When they see that you just don't give two craps about their comments they will automatically clamp shut.

And as for it being away of flirting, trust me those 'insults' are much more easy to spot, because they are usually childish in nature and tone.. talking downright shit about a guy? I'm sorry but I just don't see that being classified as 'flirting' anywhere.

But, that could just be my personal opinion and it could be a way. What do I know? I am a poor farmer.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Makes sense- so you do not subscribe to fighting fire with fire and just giving it right back as a way of flirting/establishing dominance and showing you're socialized?

Actions speak louder than words.

But, if you're giving them a taste of their own medicine, you'll often find that some women can't readily take what they seem to love to dole out.

I guess... To each, his own.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

well shit. LOL I suppose it is more a question of calibration. Test response yourself, if she can't take it, back off.