This is my first time on these forums, and I want to say WoW theres a ton of great stuff on here... some of the sticky posts are amazing.

Well, heres my story, thanks in advance for the help!

We are all now seniors in college, myself, my GF and my new crush, we will call her Tay.

Background info: I met Tay freshman year in the dorms and we have been in the same group of friends since then. We are now in 2 classes together in our fall semester as seniors. I met my GF summer going into Sophmore year and have been dating her in a Long Distance relationship for 2 years now. We live close to each other at home home.

Now that i'm back at school... I can drink and have a blast (legally haha) I have been blown away by Tay, we have gone out a bunch in the last 2 weeks and I have found myself falling for her since Sept 1st.

Background info on Tay: Since freshman year she never did anything with any of us... she was the good girl, almost the group's mom in cases. None of the guys even thought about trying for her, but we all knew she was the cutest little girl out there. Shes prob 5'2 brunette 95 lbs and straight up hot. Shes also currently single and if I was to bet, most likely still a virgin. We don't live anywhere close to each other. I plan to stay near my college for a few years and get a job and shes going back home (2000 miles away). BUT for the time being... we live less than 500 yrs away while at school (Was by coincidence). Iv been texting her a little but once i started asking myself am i falling for her, i started reading some of the PUA forums I slowed wayy wayy down to just responding 2-3 hrs later in flirty context


Background on GF: Currently I'm on edge with my GF, shes too far away and this long distance relationship is really taking a toll on me. I guess part of why im writing this is to get some opinions on what I should do. Shes an awesome girl but I can't always deal with the Long Distance things, as far as distance goes.... we are over 2500 miles apart at different colleges to give you an idea. And I know for a fact shes deeply in love with me (marriage, kids, etc)

Background on Me: I'm 6'2, good looking guy, cleans up good and I'm not really afraid of women or picking up conversation, obviously I could still vastly improve cause its been over 2 years but yeah. I made good money over summer at my job so I have the spending power to go out a lot and buy drinks for the ladies if need be (Already bought Tay and her friend some drinks last weekend when I was starting to fall for her)



Well now that I have given all the background, I really have 2 options here in my mind... (Any input would be greatly appreciated)

1. Stay with my current GF and avoid Tay. (The questions I have are, what if I can't stay away.... what if I don't want to later, etc.)

2. Breakup with my GF and go for Tay/single market. (The questions I have are, How do I go forward, do I bring it up with her, ask for relationship help, don't talk about it with her, tell her i broke up with her, what do i do? I'm lost and almost scared going forward)


Any type of opinion and to WHY you think thats a good response would be greatly appreciated, just trying to get my head on straight and figure out what I want. I can give more background on the current situation if also needed.

Thanks a bunch PUA,

Been in a similar situation and my experience/view on that is you are attracted to Tay because she's around when your gf isn't. Proximity is one of the main culprits of breeding attraction.

You have a million other options, but to answer your two specific questions:

1. Stay with my current GF and avoid Tay. (The questions I have are, what if I can't stay away.... what if I don't want to later, etc.)

Do you want Tay because you don't like the long distance relationship with your gf or because Tay is sooooo much better than your gf (not to be mean or anything)?

Figure that out first.

2. Breakup with my GF and go for Tay/single market. (The questions I have are, How do I go forward, do I bring it up with her, ask for relationship help, don't talk about it with her, tell her i broke up with her, what do i do? I'm lost and almost scared going forward)

You just keep doing what you are doing with her, but in one-on-one settings. If she asks "don't you have a gf?", you give her a vague and classy answer: "No, we broke up a while ago because of the long distance. It wasn't fair for either of us. etc. etc."

Thanks for the input... i figured out the answer to question 1 about a day or 2 after posting this.... and i wanted badly to be with my GF. 'Tay" isn't at all better than my GF, she actually was more of a pain and just slightly hotter is all, its cause im around her when we all go out and my GF who is long distance is not there. thats why i wanted Tay.


Thanks again for the help!! sorry for such a late response.