Fast seduction on HB.

I texted her the next day to see if she would even respond or was going to be a flake. In retrospect I should have waited a couple days and then texted her about meeting up. I wanted to get some conversation going but I made a mistake. Here is what happened.

Me "Hi Hb, how is the world today?"
HB "Not too bad, how are you?"
Me "I am good. A girl I met last night turned out to be an okay kisser"

That was AFC. That has been the whole exchange. Now it has been 2 full days, I was going to wait 2-3 days to text her again. I was thinking to text her what I originally should have "I want to see you this week, what day works?". Is that a good idea or should I try something else?

Also, in the future, after a number close is it better to start a text conversation or just lay it out there to meet?

Personally, I am not a fan of starting a conversation through texting. I mean she gave you her number, so call it. It doesn't have to be anything to crazy, just a simple " hey hb, going out to xyz later on this week, and wanted you to join me" ...simple. Make it clear that you have a plan, your TELLING and not asking her to come, and if that day doesn't work out, no problem, you'll give her a call later on in the week to hang out.


Side note: "hi Hb, how is the world today", is very vague and doesn't really mean anything. Something a little personal about what you guys talked about/did the night you met would give you something a lot better to work with then "not too bad, how are you?"...something like "hey hb, on the way home last nite, I saw a chick with the same dress as you, but you looked way more awesome in it then she did"

Solid advice.

Also that line about another girl beig a good kisser was a classic example of the bad habits that PUA material usually encourages. Jealousy works in small doses - let them see you talking with another girl and wonder what your relationship is with them. But blatantly being with another girl, imagine how that would feel if the roles were switched - not very hot is it?

Underneath all these little tricks and games, the basic biological things are still true - a woman wants a man to love and protect her and be loyal.

Personally i always send a message that night. even sometimes while im still with them, they have a good feeling about you then and its easy to get a conversation going. the next day you can just carry on what ever conversation you going in the first place.

and i agree whole heartily with conker on the jealousy thing

You don't get it guys, she was the girl he kissed last night, he was not trying to make her jealous but to make her a kind of compliment...

On the other point, I agree, you should have sent a more personal message at first.

Totally agree with Simbachippie, I always text the girl the same night (if not when still with her)

Thanks for the advice guys.

I waited two full days then sent a text.

Me "Hey HB! I want to hang out this week, what day works?"
HB "Hmm, pretty much any of them except Friday"
...

Back and forth, back and forth. We are meeting Wednesday. I guess she was not put off by the original text exchange but I've learned I need to converse about something specific. And I should be a man and call too.

Also as chupa.chuppps stated my reference to the kiss was not a jealousy tactic I was referring to the HB with a soft neg.

Good job, let us know how it turns out.

New dilemma.

HB: "Hey, really sorry but I have to cancel for tomorrow. I'm moving next week and the only day my packing help can help is tomorrow."
HB: "You're welcome to join us friday for XXXXX show at XXXXX"

So, I thought maybe she didn't want to meet me one on one, not sure. I want to see her but I don't want to meet her at the show because 1) I want to see her one on one 2) I don't want to feel trapped at the show with just her and her friends. 3) I usually hang out with the guys Friday night

I was thinking to text her "No worries. I likely won't be able to make it to the show but I might be able to meet somewhere after"

Ah - well if I was doing that message I would have added a wink emoticon to make sure it was seen as a joke - I've learned to be fairly clear in SMS, it kaka the context that tone of voice provides. Obviously she's still willing to meet up so all is good.

I guess inviting you out with friends is less than optimal - when yore doing real well she will just invite you out one on one straight away. But this is what you've got so this is what you should work with. Going out with her friends will give you ample opportunities to show your gentlemanly side and be a real catch.

Personally I think if she's offering a group meetup and you keep pushing for one on one, she's going to assume you're after one thing and get bored.

Well I ended up texting her that I had plans Friday night and maybe we could meet up later, but I never followed up and I didn't heard from her either. Then I texted her and said I was going to a cool place Saturday and she should come. I never heard from her. I figured one more text and if I didn't hear from her I would chalk it up to a flake. I text her Sunday to see how her labor day weekend is going and I hear from her two days later with "I ended up moving earlier than planned, so it was exhausting. I hope you had a nice holiday weekend".

So I believe there is still interest, maybe I should call her and set up plans. I have yet to speak with her on the phone. What do you guys think?

Take a break before you invite her out again. Let's say 2 weeks before you contact her again. You did a lot there and none of it worked, give it some time before trying to work on this.