So i've been hanging out with a girl since last semester. It's been mostly sex and a few dates. Towards the end of the semester we both had feelings for each other, but over the summer I couldn't visit and we didn't text a whole lot.

This semester just started, and the first day back she called me and we had sex that night. Like a week later I took her home again. The next morning I found out that she was really upset about me not telling her how i felt about her. So when I called her and told her I liked her, she told me that she was all over the place and didnt know what she wanted.

So a couple days later I asked what she meant because I was confused, and she said she wasn't looking for anything right now. However, both nights she asked if i was going out and said she would see me at a bar.

I'd like it if I could make this a friends with benifits thing or possibly an actual relationship down the line, but I don't really know how to play it. have I blown it completely?

EDIT: I guess a girl was asking for me at a bar after she had asked if i was goin but my friend who told me cant remember so it could have been her. this leads me to believe she wasnt just being polite when she said "see you at the bar"

difficult situation for me to interpret cause im kinda going thru the same and well i know one thing and that is all chicks want an alpha male, they always want him, sex, relationship, sometimes they want it so bad that they will backstab their friends for one.

So, if you told a girl you want a relationship or hinted at exclusivity and shes not all excited to jump aboard, shes probably a) not attracted enough b) not enough comfort c) has got guys with similar value like you(average women have plenty options come on thats why you in the game)

despite this advice i think she could be acting all "confused" for lotsa reasons maybe shes been thru stuff during summer or she wants to ease into a relationship slowly

so is there anything i should do?

sure, you shouldnt have told her you liked her because feelings get in the way of FB and turn them into relationships

dont lead her on, tell her exactly what you want, like you should.

if you want to be FB tell her that you arent interested in a relationship YET(keyword) tell her you just wanna have fun right now and youd love to do that with her and enjoy her company in a non serious relationship(FB) if she can handle it.

if you want a relationship, you're almost there too it sounds like, just tell her how you feel about her and remain an alpha male but start to show her that you trully care about her(gotta remain an alpha tho, let her come to you) and in general just have fun dont let her use you if you fuck up cause she might, sometimes you might feel frustrated if she makes you wait too long to "figure out how she feels" n shit you jus gotta wait and be patient cause thats what youd do if you really cared about her and wanted her in your life.

mainly you have to let her know what you want form her cause your expectations might be different from hers

should i tell her immediately or make it an over time sort of thing?

Sit down with her and have a deep, honest conversation covering how you feel from and her and what you want from her.

Ask her what she wants from you and make her talk about her feelings from you.

I think you both will benefit from that.

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don, do you think she's still interested or is just being polite? if you had to guess?

and i already told her that i liked her, and she said she didn't know what she wanted, should i talk to her again about in a little while?

I think she's interested but a tad confused about the whole situation.

Hence, I was suggesting a sit-down between you two. You need to clear the air about your status quo and need to do that fast.

Comprende?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Yeah i understand I just don't know what to say. I feel like I already tried that and she said she wasn't looking for anything. If shes not looking for a relationship then how would I ask about a friends with benifits thing? I was just gonna hang back and bump into her at parties and stuff.

Also could friends with benifits segway into a real relationship?

i'm gonna bump it because i'm really at a loss for what to say to her/how to approach it. do i try and see her on weekends and see where it goes from there? do i have another talk with her about how i feel? if so what do i say?

i'm really at a loss guys