Well be a little indifferent to her, don't be ready to always respond to her requests, show her that while you are indeed attracted to her, there are other women in your life too and that you have a life which includes things other than women. There are priorities in your life bigger than women and sex too.

Send her out that you're not one of the too-eager-to-please kinds, and she'll be into you more than you'd think.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Once again, I want to remind everyone with their text game questions to post here and not use the forum space elsewhere.

This thread was created with the main purpose to save the over-crowding of the forum with the same questions about the said topic again and again.

Keep that in mind and make your posts here.

Thank you.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

i have two problems when it comes to texting and they contrast each other

firstly if i get into a conversation with a girl i end up sending page long texts which i think make me look needy - the conversation continues for days until it dies out and i can never bring it back up again because there is no attraction only confort and even if i can arrange a meet up with HB like this there is no attraction and i end up with shit all

second problem is when i number close a girl and go for just attraction i always seem to come accross either boring or creepy and there is no spark

i cant even bothered to number close most of the time even though this is my greatest strength, because i know my text game is so awful
please help

I recently met a girl and we hit it off, I have met up with her a couple of times in the past week, we have a good time when we see each other, the texting is okay - nothing spectacular, I'm slightly unsure of how to act when texting. Anyway she usually takes quite a while to respond which is a pain because I'm quite a fast texter but have been holding back and taking my time when replying so as not to seem to eager. She sent me a message this afternoon saying "Can I see you again soon xx" I should be happy about this but for some reason I am not, I can't stop myself from thinking that she might just be playing me - I don't know why I feel that way. Anyway I responded saying "I might be able to do tonight, I'll let you know later x" she came back and said "I can't do tonight anyway but what about after I finish work tomorrow about 9ish? xx" so i left it a few mins and text back saying "Okay - XXX bar 9.30?" she replied about 20 mins later saying "yepp x".

Does this all sound positive and am I just being completely stupid thinking she is playing me? Also should I refrain from texting her tonight? And if I can text her tonight what sort of thing can I say?!

Thanks in advance.

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Mischief!

Well, believe me, I was at your place too. And not so long back.

I used to have these huge, deep conversations which lasted for days and then, kaput. Nothingness to talk about, even when we met. See.. the thing is simple. You worry that you have nothing to talk about, but that is not possible.. look around you, a million things are happening every day, you can talk about them and make the woman talk about things on her side. Something you saw on the television, or read in a magazine, your views on some topic, there is no shortage of topics when you start opening your eyes to the information around you.

Use that and you'll never run out of things to discuss. Also, ask her "Why" more than "What", get into her reasons for the answer more than the answer itself. That's a great tactic to create new threads of conversation from old ones.

As for the second problem, that is just a state of the mind. Trust me, if you start thinking about coming off as something different than boring or creepy, you will. Whatever your texts are, they are just a reflection of your thoughts. Remember that.

Change how you think about yourself and don't worry so much about how you're coming across unless she specifically brings that up, then you can worry about it. For now, just be calm, cool and collected in your mind. It will translate to your texts.

Good luck.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Look, maybe she's not as good at texting as you are? It's very much possible. I personally know a lot of women who have two left thumbs, as to say.

My advice is to don't worry so much about it.

I guess, the important point which I need to reinforce here is that : SHE IS ATTRACTED TO YOU. It's obvious. She seems to be pretty much into you and not playing at all.

She wanted to see you again. And when your suggestion didn't work for her, she made some space in her schedule.

Go have fun and game her.

Also, the right texting mindset is the same as the mindset which you have in your real life i.e. don't distinguish between how you behave in your life with your texts and you'll be fine.

You're welcome. And thanks for thinking of me.

Good luck.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Hey thanks for replying to my pm, but should I really tell her im attracted to her this early?

thankyou for such an in depth answer, i found it really helpful

do you have any advice for bringing whats going on around you into a conversation and making it seem not random and making her feel included?

for example say im watching a great movie how could i make that seem interesting and not afc

e.g: her - so what you up to?
me - oh im just watching this really great movie .......

basically how can you consitantly ensure you get a great conversation out of it

thanks

How early are we talking about here?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Only about 10 texts, but we've known each other for a good while

Well, let me take your example and re-tune it..

Her : So what you up to?

Me : Oh, nothing special. Just watching this movie (movie's name).. You seen it?

Her : Yes/ No.

Me: What did you think of it? / You haven't? Oh you're missing out. It's about..(what the movie's about in a line; keep it interesting), what do you feel of that?

Look, keep the questions open-ended. Ask her things which require more than one-word answers and you'll do fine. Ask her opinions on topics which you find interesting. Discuss any recent event with her, which was infamous or famous. Just keep the conversation flowing.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Only 10 texts, when you've known each other for "a good while", as you say.

Not so good, Sir.

Well, leave out the attraction declaration. Replace it by "I want to get to know what you're about. And send that."

And now, you need to keep a regular text or/and call conversation with her.

Start keeping more in touch with her, what her text showed was the lack of a comfort level and basic rapport between you two. Start with establishing of those before anything else.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

They replied with 'I bet you do'

what should I reply

thanks, your a top bloke

Well, you can just call her out on being smartass, and say that it won't change the truth.

Personally, I'd go with something alone the lines of "Well, we can all laugh about it, probably joke about it, hell, even be a smartass about it. But, that doesn't change a thing."

Use something like that, but put it in your own words.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "