I dont know what it is but all the girls i talk to seem to have a big religious vibe and or anti-slut mentality. They bring up "i dont do anything unless im in a relationship." I cant seem to figure out how to get past either of these issues.

1. Screening
2. Shaping

For screening, test the waters and find out how big her sexual hangup really is. If it's too big, just next her. It's not worth the effort when there are so many other women out there who are a lot more open minded.

As for shaping, if you feel that she isn't too stuck up about that shit, compliment her for open-minded behaviors...also compliment her for being very "sensual" and "open minded" and "not closed-minded about sex" even if she's done nothing to deserve such praise. It's also like a cold reading thing. Shaping "shapes" people's behavior toward you.