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How do you talk without stopping and respond to someone quickly as they are saying it!?
I have trouble trying to talk without stopping and I also have trouble like not knowing what to say or have anything in mind while someone is saying blah blah blah you know? How do you develop this ability!? It's amazing!
Don't talk without stopping!
Once you open--and that's a different topic--but let it be enough to say that anything past the first sentence or at most two, and you have opened--you have to give people a chance to respond. Not only is this a minimum requirement of social competence, it will make you look like a needy attention whore if you talk non-stop.
But, of course, you have to say something. What not to do: turn the interaction into an interview!
Now there are a few simple things that will help somewhat, for example, make statements (about her, not necessarily compliments or negs, just turn questions into statements--call them guesses), giving her a chance to respond.
But... if you want to be a socially competent person in the longer term you should start developing a general social repertoire--a stock of items of general interest that you keep up on and actually take the time to develop opinions on. If you don't do this you will always be one of those people who sucks energy out of the world instead of giving it.
Think about it, even professional jokersters don't joke about nothing, they are either keen observers of ordinary human behavior, or they joke about public life and so on.
Now--I'm not saying you have to have a comedic style, but that social depth won't come from learning a few pick-up lines.
Of course depth in itself won't get you a pick-up. It is an and/and situation, not either/or.
Then again, if you've got the balls, and can spot an opening, you can try "Nice shoes, wanna fuck?" (I am both joking and not joking).
More generally watch about 20 of the videos (or fragments) you can find linked to from the site, read a book or two, do the newbie mission if you have approach anxiety, and then see if you still have the same question!
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