Hi.
I'm new to all this PUA stuff, and it may seem like a simple situation to you, but after everything I have red and watched here, I have no idea what to do in this situation:
So yesterday I went to my friends birthday party and I met this girl there... Really hot, smart etc. Unfortunately she had to leave early. We talked, got a moment alone, but we got disturbed. I'm pretty sure she's interested. That night I also talked,danced to other hot girls all the time just to see how she reacts and it looked like she was watching at me pretty often.
I'm sure she gets a lot of attention from other guys.
Now I'd like to give her a call or sent message, but I have no idea if I should, what to write.

Some advice for newbie?

"Hey sexy"

Yes, you should.

"Hey there."

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Great.
She wrote back, we chatted a little.
Now I'd like to ask her out. But there are 2 things I don't know:
1) If she has a bf (does that really matter?)
2) If I should ask her like :
"Do you wanna do smtn tomorrow or whatever?
or " Actually I'm going to XXXXX this friday.. maybe you wanna join?"

What do u think?

txt her this :

Hey you wont believe me what just happend yesterday!!!

Her:what?

you: ow wrong person, but whats up with you too?

This will create intrigue, and is a pretty good opener to use.

And dont forget to leave the conversion while its at the highest point. So shes going to stay interested in you.

Oh ok sorry, I didnt see she alredy wrote you back.

If she does ahve a boyfriend and lets you know, just tell her : We'll be discreet or WOW, i've known you for only X time and your alredy telling me your problems?

Never let a woman you jsut met decide of anything. Be the leader of the pack. Dont ask her if she WANTS anything. ex: do you want to come with me? Say it as an order (not as you would say to your dog though) ex: Hey, i'm going to the mall, come with me I need ''x'' / womans opinion.

This is better because she probably wont tell you ''NO''.

I don't know what else you need help with, so good luck

I wrote her:
I think I'm going to XXXX place this friday .. I think you should join.

She wrote back:
Well I had planned to do XXXX, but if it cancels, than I could go.

If she would have said " Of course" or " I'd love to" I'd know what to do , but since she's going only if that other thing somehow cancels, I don't know what to do...
Should I be like : I'll offer only once
or
Maybe next friday?
or smtn else?


Also, she seems little cold.. Here's whole chat:

ME: Hey there. What are you doing? It's someone from that party (She didn't have my number)

HER: Who is that someone?

ME: Someone who makes really great drinks (It's a thing from the party, just to make sure she remembers me)

HER: Hmmm, you, someone who's name is xxxxx and who's afraid of heights... (I got into situation with here, and I had to say that I'm afraid of heights)

HER again: Hei, after party I was thinking, what kind of juice did you use to make
me that drink? (I didn't wrote back to her message for about an hour. Than this message came. Is she showing interest or just being honest and she needs to know this?)

Me: Yes, That's me. Let's not talk about that heights thing anymore.. Well that juice was apple. But you know - no one can make those drinks like I do.


Her: Oh, And I hoped, that I could make those drinks too

Me: Well you can be sure, that with me, those drinks will be great.

Her: Well ok. Thank I won't try to make them without you! ( Is this IOI? " without u" )

Me: I think I'm going to XXXX place this friday .. I think you should join.

Her: Well I had planned to do yyyyy, but if it cancels, than I could go.

Me: You know that XXX place is more fun

Her: Everything depends on people your with.


Everything seems to be ok. The only thing is that she wrote me back to every message like 30 minutes later, but to some few minutes later... I did the same..

Call instead of text. It's not like she's going to wait 30 minutes before she replies to something you actually say over the phone.

OK.
But how to handle this kind of a situation?

I wrote her:
I think I'm going to XXXX place this friday .. I think you should join.

She wrote back:
Well I had planned to do XXXX, but if it cancels, than I could go.

And what could that message time difference mean?

Next time dont say "think" just say im going .... You should join.... Etc