Hey guys,
I am from the UK and I can really relate to this. I know exactly how you feel. I don't come from London either. I come from the South East (Gillingham/Chatham). Now I'm going to assume that you've been looking in to the Mystery method as I did when I first learnt about the game. I couldn't help but feel that every word that came out of his mouth was Americanized horse shit. While there is a lot of marketing in the PUA community there's a gold mine of working methods and techniques that you can use and benefit from if you are committed to doing so.
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Secondly, I am not too easy on the eye and this makes it very difficult even when I walk around like I own the place with a massive grin etc.
-In reply to this, there's something that you must know. Females are not attracted to good looking men. Infact physical appearence has little to do with it. They are hard-wired to find Alpha male qualities attractive. As it seems as confidence is already an issue here (as explained later on in this post) then I belive that you could do without the negative thoughts and self beliefs that "you're ugly and it puts the girls off" - Improve your inner game.
I am very sorry if this comes accross as 'braggy' but the only proof I ever needed of the game and the mystery method was when at age 17, exactly one week after learning basic techniques: I K-Closed a 24 year old married woman. I then went out and I'd practise my DHV's on girls that I knew but did not know much about me. I'd stop attractive girls in the street and ask them for the time and this reduced my approach anxiety (and social anxiety) greatly. Literally every chance I thought I could get away with it I'd be using things that I'd learnt from Mystery. I am with an extremely attractive girl right now and where as she'd previously shown NO interest in me because I was AFC, as soon as I used some of my techniques on her, she wanted me.
I now realize why I had thought that it was all Americanized bullshit. A lot of the things Mystery (and others) teach you to say at times may seem like very 'ballzy' things to say. I have observed that in general there are two reasons for people to believe this:
Situation A) You have social anxieties and/or difficulty socializing with others and thus can not imagine yourself saying these things. (Especially to attractive females).
Situation B) Because some of the things that are taught ARE atleast a little bit 'ballzy' (for lack of a better word). An example of this being the snapping of fingers and the statement "aaaaand back to me" - when the targets attention is being drawn away by an obstacle. Saying things like this shows you have confidence which is an important characteristic of an Alpha-male thus forcing attraction.
The day that you have the confidence to say these things and realize the 'mechanics' (if you will) that are behind them, will be the day that you will truly feel like the Art form of Pick Up has made a positive change in your life. Just remember that not everyone takes up PU for the same reasons as yourself and that PU ISN'T all about getting the girls. It's about exploring humanity and learning about social interaction as well as improving your social circle and making other positive changes to your lifestyle.
In short: Pick up DOES work. You just need commitment, patience and to be prepared to make a positive impact on negative things in your life.
If you understand everything that I have explained in this post then there is no need for proof as such. The real proof is in your own decision to make change in your life.
~Patchy
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CHAT