I don`t know about the rest of you guys, but I`m realising now that I`ve been taking The Game way too serious.

I`m not enjoying it, this is my main sticky point; I dont enjoy women couse Im trying to seduce her and way too focused about the outcome.

I used to say that my best pick ups was when I was drunk, but thats not it, that was couse I was really enjoying the game as we all should.

If this becomes more than a good hobby, an obsession I think its a good term I could aply to my focus on game, isnt a healthy thing to do.

So in order to understand properly pick up, and ENJOY the thing we are trying to do, I want your opinion on how should a newbie take babysteps in order to become a PUA.

Of course, the first step is the Newbie Mission and I completly agree with that, but what comes second? Im stucked in this point.

I fucked some girls, I had a ltr, but I dont know what Im doing and I want to change that.

How would you structure game in order to get better and why?

Thanks.[/u]

You're talking about two different things here:
1. A mental issue of enjoying women vs. seduction for the sake of seduction
2. General progress of becoming a PUA

I don't know why you're talking about both issues like it's one thing, but you hit the nail on the head about the drunk thing: you enjoyed those seductions because you were in the moment.

Of course, it's not about the alcohol and it's great that you recognize this. What you need is practice enjoying and living in the moment without alcohol so you don't become dependent on it. Many guys make the mistake of using alcohol as a crutch and they end up not being able to enjoy seduction when they're sober.

Are you familiar with any PUA (or non-PUA) material related to living in the moment? Find whatever you want on the subject. What I recommend is Zazen meditation for 5 minutes a day.

When you reach a certain level of experience and understanding, you'll find that it's easier and better to shift your focus from the seduction you're performing to the wonder of the woman in front of you.

In regards to what you should do to improve, there isn't a set program that works for everyone. Research whatever interests you one at a time, then try it for yourself in field. The answer to you second thing is simply "practice."

I think this is a common issue in the PUa community. A lot of guys come who this place have some serious internal issue. And by learning a few (or a lot of) external strategies won't solve their problem. In fact it makes it worse. The more you push against your internal patterns (like shame, anxiety etc.) the more you repress your emotions. Which in turn, makes it less enjoyable for you to meet women. I've had this problem a while ago, since I've pushed myself too far in this game. Luckily I then discovered a way to get oout of this and work on my core emotional issues.

Just like Chief is suggesting, meditation is a good practice to become more present. But if you want real success, I suggest you to try more methods, my favorite is personally EFT. Check it out and see if you like it.

that's all for now.

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