last night i was with an hb7.... things were going pretty well for the first 5 minutes w/ alot of touching and flirting then she asked me to buy her a drink.

First off, i think this is rude on her part. Second off, i know buying a girl a drink within the first five minutes per her request is going to get me nowhere. I gave her the standard, "you buy the first round, i'll buy the next" line... but she said she didn't have any money (maybe true, maybe a bunch of bs). I kept telling her i wouldn't buy her a drink, but she kept begging for one for like five more minutes.

Then i'd had enough. I walked her up to the bar, asked the bartender for two shots and a pitcher of beer. With her right next to me, I took both shots. Then I walked over to all my friends at the table right by her and started sharing my pitcher beer with them.

I don't think I overreacted. That was basically my way of rejecting her for being annoying and rude. And me and my friends thought it was funny, so it added to us having a good night. But my question is....

What am I supposed to do when she initially asks me to buy her a drink? What If she keeps asking? How do I dodge the subject and get back to flirting with this girl?

Like I said, things were going well for the first five minutes and I KNOW things would have gone badly had I bought her a drink.

Say "I don't buy drinks for people I've just met. It's my only rule." If she keeps asking, then neg her about being needy or cheap (poor might be too harsh lol).

Glade

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You never know what's inside girl's mind.
Sometimes they just want to drink for free all night, so even if they're not interested in you, they'll just play and ask for a drink, most guy fall for this.
You can also try the line "one drink, but you give me a kiss first", she will do it on the cheek, then say something like "you'll just get a glass of water with that kiss", wait for her reaction, play with her...
after few try, talk to other women, and see if she reacts.

I like to play bar bets for drinks. Style's 5 question game is golden here.

Recently I was in a bar, and one of my friends who is big shot lawyer bought a whiskey bottle for some girls and I was really surprised to see that. He told me that he just wanted to do that. He didn't even look at their table once. Later one of them came and he made out with her. Even if she didn't come, he still wouldn't care.

Community teaches us never to supplicate on girls, but I think the frame from which you take the actions is far more important than the action itself.

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Damnit you beat me to it. Style's 5 question bet is genious for this.

yeah, it really is. What usually happens is she goes to one of her friend and do it on her/him.

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I usually just tell them they should by me a drink instead because I'm clearly the 'settler' in this relationship.

Anyone care to elaborate on the five questions routine? I forgot it >.>

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thanks guys. good responses so far.

One I was considering doing was telling her she has to do something humiliating if she wants me to buy her a drink (lick my foot/leg or make a fool of herself somehow)... If she does it then i'll reward her w/ a drink. If she doesn't, I'd neg her w/ something like... "you have no problem shamelessly begging for a drink, but too much pride to (humiliating act)"

Anyone think it would work? I could see it going either way.

it wouldn't work most of the time. it is too big hoop for her to jump through. cause what happens if she doesn't? (and girls i'm after would never do that) you lose. and then either you leave or she leaves. try not to get yourself into those make or brake situations, especially too early.

just keep the fun vibe. you can say "maybe later. in the main time tell me..."

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You can buy a girl the occasional drink, just don't lead with it.

"I'd love to buy you a drink!"

Then come back with some water on the rocks.

You are right, she may have bee hustling you for drinks, but who knows. You didn't over react, you stood up for your boundaries and that's always a good thing. But maybe next time you can stand up for yourself with a calm sentence, instead of a dramatic act. You could have simply stated you rule to her and said "I don't buy women drinks until I know them better". That way you stand up for yourself, but don't eliminate a sarge entirely.

Women have been taught all kinds of weird things by the media, society, and friends. A lot of girls believe that "a drink" must come before a conversation or a seduction. They don't necessarily mean to use men, but "a drink" is portrayed as in initial act before a seduction in so many media and social outlets, that they come to expect it. You shouldn't judge them for that, really it isn't their fault that they expect it.
Now where you can fault them, is after you state your boundary rule of not buying drinks for women. If they become offended or uninterested in you, after you refuse to buy them a drink, then you know that she isn't worth your time.

A lot women will actually respect you more after you set down a rule like that. It's showing that you are strong willed, not afraid of losing her interest, and not trying to buy her off. It also sets you apart from most men who give in right away. Saying "No" in a calm and confident way, could actually be a huge DHV if played correctly. So rather than, ending a sarge simply because the "drink" question came up, try to use it to your advantage.

Like Kalel said, you can set a ground rule before you get involved in gaming her, so that she can remember and appreciate that you're not like every other guy who wants her. It's very important to separate yourself from the crowd.

That being said, a funny comeback could be :

"Buy me a drink!"

"Sure. Give me five (or how many that a required to buy it) bucks." with a smirk.

But, if she is actually out of money (and yes, I've seen that happen), no harm in buying her a beer. Feels awkward you standing with a drink in your hand, and she just standing there with nothing.

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if a girl is harassing you for a drink, say, LISTEN, are you a good kisser?, I don't buy drinks for girls unless they can kiss good, scale of 1 to really good, how good of a kisser are you?, (let her answer she will say really good if she is interested), next you say, Ill tell you what, if your as good as you say you are ill buy you a drink, but if your bad at kissing, then no way,

at that point this will screen her out from interested to just begging for drinks, always kiss before then drink, and if she is in a state of indecision and trying to create a different frame, you should just grab the back of her neck and go for the kiss, if she rejects just say, well i guess no drink for you, then go back to friends

she should get all 5 questions wrong to win. So here is what you do:

- ask her 3 questions (doesn't matter what: like what is your name)
- fourth question should be: damn i forgot, how many questions have i asked now?

if she doesn't fall for that trap and says something like: "that was question 129"
you go like ( and this will be the fifth question): Ah damn you got me. i really thought you would fall for that!! Did you play this game before?

If she answers with no, you have won, and she has to buy you the beer.