I am so frustrated. I have women check me out all the time. I am fortunate enough to now be an athletic and good looking guy. But I am an idiot with women. I have always had serious approach anxiety and was fat and nerdy until my early twenties. I was one of the kids people picked on and beat up all the time in high school and younger. Perhaps this has something to do with it.

Now women are always looking at me in the come hither way. A few weeks ago I was on the train with a guy I work with. When we got off he said to me that young hot girl was totally checking you out. I just want to walk up to the women who check me out and say "do you want to...", but I just don't know what to say and do nothing. I still feel like that fat nerd inside.

Damn it man. You're here to change that fucked up attitude.

The history is history. Past is past.

Everybody had their shit when they were younger.
What I recommend you to do is read some articles about mindstate/mindset and what body language has to do with confidence. Eye contact is key too.

When you read those things, you will feel alot of knowledge flowing down your veins, and feel like you are the shit.

Also watch shows where they pick up women random, like Sasha.
I love Cajun's theories about gaming, also watch his episode of Keys to the VIP. Golden.

We will get you through this, dude.
You will grow the balls to get anything you want. Just believe in it.

Cajuns thoughts on inner game are exceptional, his point on quantum physics and your reality are good as well.

If perception is reality then you are in control, your frame is your reality, do not let anyone else alter it.

After all from the sounds of things you have done what I have, you go from the bully victim to the guy who can work a room. From chubby to in shape, you have to remember the commitment you made to get to that, changing yourself is hard work, if you have already done it then be proud of it.

Most people go through their entire lives being satisfied with who they are.

Fuck that, we can all be better, think how much better you are now than you were, take pride in it, and take pride in knowing how much better you can be.

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The crazy thing is that I am a master of working a room in a business setting. I can easily network with both women and men. THere is just something about it when I am trying to meet a woman for sex. I would have no problem going up to a women and doing just conversational type stuff. I for some reason really get stuck with stage fright if it is for anything but friendship. I would love to just approach a woman who just checked me out and it happens to me at least once or twice a day if I am walking around the city.

I have read the game, mystery method, etc. I have watched many videos on youtube. I feel like an idiot with this stuff.

One of these time you're gonna have to say, "Today is the day, I'm going to approach 100 women before the night is done." And that's what you do. Memorize like four openers and two stories and just run the entire night approaching 100 women with those. If you can't think of anything else to say, who cares? Tell them they were number 24/100 and you've got 76 more to go. Today is all about approaching, not phone number closing or anything else.

What I did that helped a lot is a buddy of mine went out with me and we spent the night giving each other the worse, most horrendous pick up lines and targets to one another. Absolutely humiliated each other, but had a blast in the process.

When a woman is looking at you hold the gaze for 2 seconds and look away and then look at her again and smile at her and if she smiles back? that's your invitation to go talk to her and tell her that she got a beautiful smile and open any kind of conversation starters just like, where's she's from , where she studies/work etc.


If you ran out of things to say, it's okay to listen to what she has to say and that will lead you to your next conversation with her.


You need to change your mindset on the way you think about yourself.



-TheNaturalPlayboy

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Sometimes when i'm with my chick on the low, I'm a flirt.

I hear ya man. I was always athletic in high school but I even got picked on by some kids. I have a massive overbite which I am now getting surgery for and also have braces because they're needed for the surgery. And guess what? I don't give a shit. Just look at all the positive stuff about yourself. I am 6'1", 180, pretty muscular, and have a great face aside from the aforementioned problems (which will be fixed within a year). Just focus on the positive stuff about you and how you've changed since high school. Having great inner game will work wonders and it'll help the rest of the stuff fall into place.

Thanks everyone. This is the kind of stuff I am looking for. What if she just looks you up and down? Should I look at her and smile? Go up to her and make a comment about her clothes, etc?

Just walk up to any kind of woman that you desire, giving her compliments would be good but don't over do it cause she will know that you are hitting on her ( wich you are ).. i prefer to use DIRECT openers for example "Hey you looks so gorgeous and i had to meet you BTW i am (insert your name)" and most importantly don't forget to smile and be CONFIDENT, be leading/dominant and assertive when talking to any kind of woman..


Happy Sarging and Best of Luck!



-TheNaturalPlayboy

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Sometimes when i'm with my chick on the low, I'm a flirt.

When a woman checks you out 99% of the times it's because she's attracted. When you approach her with that mindset it'll be easier to make an actual move.
I used to think the way you still do but I've changed that. Nowadays I check out the girls who check me out and when I think they're attractive I'll just go and say hi.

+1

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Sometimes when i'm with my chick on the low, I'm a flirt.