So me and my girlfriend took a little time off from each other and we were supposed to see each other this Saturday (tomorrow) for the first time in like 2 weeks. Yesterday she was in town (lives in a nearby close town) and she didn't call me all day (which which is odd, because she calls me a 100 times a day). I got the feeling she did that to avoid me.

She has some part time job where i work and today she was supposed to come in at the same time i was leaving work (15:00). 14:00, I call her, she rejects my call and says she'll call me later. 15:15, i'm in the buss station, she calls saying that she's inside and shit. I told her that it was really shitty of her to not even come by and say hi or whatever, it was obvious she got there before i left.

I feel like going ape shit over this, it's really fucking low. It's like me going to visit her neighbor (reason irrelevant) and not even bothering to give her a heads up or something. Totally pissed me off. We said we'd talk later, so how would you guys handle this ?

Well, that sucks. Either it's been bad luck (girls can be stupid logistically) or she's feeling a bit insecure about the future of your relationship together for whatever reason.

Assuming it's not bad luck, you haven't given a lot of info like how long your relationship lasted, how old you both are etc. If it was me and if it had been reasonably serious I'd probably go do something else and tell her something came up tonight (or whatever later is) and to let me know when she wants to talk another time. If you let her know that you got your own shit going on and you're not about to put up with her flaking on you and having to chase her around, that might help. If she doesn't take initiative after that then forget about it because chasing a girl that's not the least bit proactive in salvaging an existing relationship has her mind pretty much made up.

General Bottom-Line, if you get the idea she's not interested in you right now and she knows you pretty well then you can't make her interested again by exposing her to whom she isn't interested in so that shouldn't be an option.

We've been together for a month now. She's 17, i'm 25. She split with her last boyfriend because he was only trying to get into her pants and he told her he made a bet with a friend of his that he'd fuck her in 2 weeks time (she's a virgin). She told me afterwards that she's feeling very insecure about dating again and wants some time off, but that she really likes me and doesn't want to lose me so we decided to stop seeing each other physically for a couple of weeks. We talked loads on the phone, she's the one that initiates contact 100 times a day, she sounds interested.

Earlier this week she asked me if i miss her and that she'd like to see me, so we agreed to meet tomorrow, Saturday. I don't really see the problem in actually giving me a hi or whatever one day earlier. I know it shouldn't be a big deal but i really get the feeling that she's been avoiding seeing me.

She probably has no idea what she wants, or is confused about what she wants, or feels guilty about how society or her friends or family would judge her for what she wants. Add to that the emotional immaturity of a 17 year old (sorry 17 year olds, but I was 17 once too) and you've got a big mess. Although there are a lot of possible explanations for her behavior, in the end it really doesn't matter. She's now controlling the frame and dragging you into her world of emotional turmoil. Your options are to either grab the reigns back or jump off the horse and find another one. In order to do the former, you have to be willing to do the latter. There are a million ways to handle this, but they all involve things you probably don't want to do. A simple text saying "we're done" would certainly push things to A conclusion, but not necessarily the one you want. If she calls crying saying "no no no", you have to lay down your rules, which include no flaking. Set up a meeting to discuss further, and let her know if she flakes, it is truly over.

[You can always get back together in a month. ]

If "we're done" gets a response like, "yeah, I know" or "Ok", well, it was already over. You've just saved yourself months of flakey behavior and emotional bullshit.

1. create options in your life, don't hang your whole world on one girl
2. let her know you value her, but she needs to be cool to stay part of your world. You don't tolerate flakes.

Good luck.

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Yeah she told me she's very bothered about what other people think of her, also that her mother and father would think she's a slut for hooking up with another guy so soon, or what her friends would say about her going out with a guy 8 years older than her. Yeah she's a mess. So i guess seeing her tomorrow's out of the question.

Well, there you go. Ultimately, she's going to have to decide what's more important, you, or her fear of how others will view her if she's with you. That there is some heavy shit.

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Next, no virgins no virgins no virgins, type that on your dick, next..

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I'm her 3rd boyfriend, longest relationship was 2 months. We had this discussion and she said she wants to get over it, though i don't really see any improvement. She's only told 2 of her friends my real age. She pulled back on kissing me inside our work place, saying stuff like "o m g what if they see us?" (she's 17 what could i expect).

I'm not going to call her at all, and if she does call today i'll tell her this shit has to stop or we stop. I don't know whether to do it on the phone (bad part is i'll probably go overboard) or set up a meeting tomorrow (bad part is i'll cool down by then).

Thanks for your help guys.

Edit: she just texted me "hi what's up?"

this is called raped btw 25 she is 17 rape! if in USA

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Romania. It's some 3rd world country in the middle of fucking nowhere, don't bother looking it up on your map.

Yes, very good observation. The good old USA. Where everything makes sense and boys are allowed to drive, fire guns and travel to warzones but not stick their equipment where it belongs.

Anyway, to the OP don't worry about it too much. She's 17, insecure as hell (by definition) and you're a lot older than her. I wouldn't take this too seriously. Btw Romania is awesome, lots of fit women I gather.

That's not correct. Each state has its own age of consent, which is frequently 16:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_co ... th_America

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if it may help you, i had the same problem untill last week (and we are both 25). You get avoided, then they come back, then they avoid some more, you have sex one last time and then they release. Btw mine never had a relationship longer than 9 months; at first you wonder why

possible causes: you are not interesting enough and giving too much attention, social pressure from family or friends, female brain malfunctioning

You are no longer in control, sorry. Score a point for the guyteam and break up first, relationships that cause this much agony after one month dont really get any better.

i know it sucks

So how should i respond to her text?

You're girl is blowing you off and makes unreasonable reasons for the both of you to not keep in touch! You're 25 and she's only 17 and she's not ready for a "Serious" relationship yet and needs to explore more and wants to get the most of it..
go find yourself some other girls and meet a lot of girls instead of having one that flakes on you..



my advice is don't bother there are plenty of fish in the sea!




my advice on how to see if she's blowing you off. Read Carefully


1.) You've left two or more messages and hasn't returned a call.


2.) Her cellphone gets the third ring. (Everyone has her caller ID on their cell,she knows it's you calling.)


3.) She says things like "I'm watching a movie/show can i call you back?"


4.) She's vague what you did last night. she'll say things like i was out with my friend(s) .


5.) last but not the least! She cancels dates regularly with excuses like " i didn't sleep well last night , I'm Tired , I have to work late.



Best of Luck!



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