I've come to realize something about myself.

I am not a sex addict. Not even close.

I've taken the past few days to take a break from girls and dating and pickup in order to give myself a chance to do some self-reflection.

In all my years of doing this whole pickup artist thing, there have certainly been times where I used girls for sex just to feel good, and they've used me the same ways and for the same reasons, too. I don't like that shit; I guess I never have liked that. The Buddha teaches to not use people, and for good reason. Humans should be treated like humans.

There have also been times where girls and I felt a genuine connection, and we used sex as an expression of what we felt for each other. This is good. I like that shit. I didn't even get into pickup just for sex. Hell, I was just 14 years old at the time. All I wanted was an escape from loneliness.

There's a lesson I've learned more than once: I enjoy sex a lot more if I wait a little while, and I enjoy it less if we have sex quickly and without a real connection. I now know why this is the case.

I'm freeing myself from the dehumanization of counting lays and viewing women as a means to achieve pleasure. Instead, I'll do what Zan Perrion does. Out of any pickup guru the Seduction Community has to offer, he is the one that you can truly call a "lover," at least from what I've learned from him.

Women are beautiful and absolutely wonderful; I really appreciate everything they offer in my life and I am not going to let myself treat them as anything less than human. So, I will no longer seduce them just for the sake of the seduction. I won't go for a lay for the sake of the lay. I'll just seduce them if I really like them.

I guess that means I'm at where I wanted to be all along with all this pickup stuff. Awesome.

chief finally accepted his sexuality...

yeah it's better if you wait some time before sex .... everytime you date the same woman you hold eye contact and build up that sexual energy ... keeping push pull and doing cocky stuff.... just being playfull and masculine....

and then ... you fuck her brains out ... and she fucks your brains out .. i love it...

the whole build up of sexual energy is sometimes better then sex itself, if you really like eachother it's great !

i think buddha was saying ; treat other people like you want to be treated yourself.

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amen

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"You don't want girls to think you suck dick at fucking pussy"
-Seth (Superbad)

This is an enlightening epiphany. It seems like a respectable, admirable, and moral way to play the game.

I think that it is necessary to go through the phase of using girls, being used by girls, counting lays, and going out just to release the sexual pressure in order to come to this epiphany. Coming to this conclusion requires experience and wisdom in game.


This new direction is a sizable ambition, but worth it once you've taken it I'm sure.

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/Sean Connery voice from SNL jeopardy skits

I'll take the Nude Erection for 600.

Cheers.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Brilliant, I came to the same realization during my leave of absence...

you can only love yourself and others when you are not following your instincts and reptile brain. the more concious you become during the process of waiting the more concious you become regarding , love and emotional connections.

stay self-centered in a positive way... aware ... concious

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There is a lot of fun and excitement to be had by seducing a woman you like with no intent to sleep with her. Go out clubbing, get to the point you COULD take a girl home with you and then just n-close and enjoy your night. Its a very different feeling and also lets you enjoy the interaction rather than just going for the end result.

I get like that also , I cant remeber where I read it but its something to do with investments the story goes ... If you save up all your money for 5 years to buy your dream car (bugatti) but the next day you win the same car which one are you more likely to give up ?

The answer is the one that just fell in your lap , which is kind of sad.

Besides you cant just give up on P.U. youve got to use it to "try before you buy" which in a way is what im doing

Reading that makes me happy in a way , the one thing i dislike about the community is the lack of "Real Men" guys that cant "step up" Its unhealthy

Sounds like a sounds philosophy. You can still get wathever you want from being a PUA without having to go with the 100% all in philosophy.

Sure but why not take everything you can and become the best you can? Why limit yourself to the beginners level when you can master something?

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Chief went soft!!!

So how did it turn out for you?

Still going in that direction?