Alright I'm well confused.

This is the backstory

Met this babe (hb8) on the net, chatted to her, added her on fb and got her number. She instigated the first catchup, it went well and I kissed closed, she sent me a txt saying she enjoyed herself and would like to catchup again.

2 days later we caught up for a movie had a bit of a makeout and we held hands (I instigated, maybe too soon?) either way movie finished and I didn't go the holding hands walking back to the car incase she didn't want to but she went for it anyway. I opened the car door for her (chivalry?!) and dropped her home. She messaged me saying she had fun.

I invited her out sat night clubbing, she said she couldn't and then rang me at 2am and she was out clubbing anyway?

Up until now I'd been quite the top notch bloke and now it's gone weird.

She messaged me Sunday saying she wanted to catchup Monday and she'd call me when she woke up and she never did, she messaged me and apologized at like 10pm saying she was busy.

It feels like I'm getting made the bitch, I don't want to message her because I think it'd make me seem desperate. She WAS a pretty cool chick, I don't know whether I'm over analyzing and overall I'm pretty dam confused :/.

Thoughts/ideas of what I should do?

I think she's just undecided on what she wants with you. Don't know about you but confused women turn me the heck off.

My advice to you is to "do unto others what they unto you". Get it?

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

first if I offer to spend some time with a girl and she says no I'm busy, then calls me at 2am to hangout, don't, she can see you on your time frame not a "well I'm bored now so come entertain me. That's time you can spend meeting new people.


Next if she flaked on any plan you need to let her know that it's not okay for her to do that. I recommend calling or texting her saying something to the effect of "We all get busy but my time is valuable and I don't let people disrespect that, everyone gets busy but zero contact is disrespectful"



I would take that as a full on shit test and being a "nice guy" you will get more and more shit tests.

Best of luck brother

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"J, I guess yer so amazing in bed you send the girls into a transcendent state where they realize their own mortality and are shaken by the realization that their presence bears little impact on the universe, or they just realized they hate you"
-DJ_Z

Sounds to me like she basically keeping her options open. One clue to me is that when you invited her to the club she declined. But then you found out she went anyways. Cause she wanted to go and maybe pickup another dude or two but at the same time not be seen with you there which would close her options. But it's not all bad news. She also wants to keep you on the hook so that if she doesn't find something else.. She has you available and on hold. This is just another case of a hot bitch using her powers to control the outcome. You gonna have to show her that you also got options rather you really do or not. One thing that hot girls can't stand is if you have other hot girls in the race also. So you gonna have to give her the impression that you have other girls trying to get at you and put her on hold a few times. Instead of always texting her,let her text you. And with some of those text, don't answer at all or be very late answering them. You have to reverse this game she playing on you or you will just be another one of those guys she has around her finger.

Keep me posted... I will try to help you navigate through this storm.

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"Pimpin Ant Easy.... But it's Fun" ... ha ha ha!

Totally agree with this part

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"J, I guess yer so amazing in bed you send the girls into a transcendent state where they realize their own mortality and are shaken by the realization that their presence bears little impact on the universe, or they just realized they hate you"
-DJ_Z