this girl who I know is into me offered me to go down to a bar that she is "probably" going to tonight with some friends (girls). The bar is about 45 minutes away from me. She has no power where she is (because of the hurricane) and said her phone will probably die soon.

I'd be going alone. Ultimate goal would be to spend the night at her place but I'm not sure if it's worth the risk

I told her to let me know if she could and maybe I'll meet her there

Would you do it?

What's the risk exactly? A wasted evening?

Considering the possible pay off that seems like a pretty minor risk. If you are worried about getting home if it doesn't happen, just do your drinking early and don't drink too much. Not being too drunk will help your game anyways.

Yeah just the chance that I go there and she's not there and I can't call her to find out where she is. I don't want to look like a chump chasing her and spoil future attempts

So if she's not there don't call. Give it a little time just in case she's a little late, and then see if there's anyone else in the bar worth picking up. She already told you her phone would probably die, so no sense in calling her.

Touche, wish me luck. Thanks!

If your still worried about not looking like a chump/AFC then you may still have some inner game work to do.

The trick is not giving a fuck what you will be viewed as.

She invited you out, she wants you there.. Go get laid

Okay so I went and she did end up being there. Like I said the goal was to sleep at her place... failed


I never met any of these people before...She was with 3 other girls (who ended up cockblocking me) and a few guys. One of the guys was the "Amog" of the crew. He was loud, knew everyone, and tried to pick up even the girl I was with. One of the girls of the crew was his ex girlfriend(which I feel created some jealousy and I'll tell you why later)


Most of the night my HB was cool. I did some kino, escalated, but didn't act too interested. She was very into what her friends were doing and leaving me alone. I felt like I should have isolated her but she would have been torn between her and her friends. During the mean time I chatted up her friends, one of them was a lawyer so we got into some good intellectual discussion. A slight disagreement. We were sort of flirting but she knew who I was there with... although this may have hurt me in the end


By the end of the night I knew I needed to escalate in order to get back to her place. I tried my best to escalate and I felt like I did a good job of that. She told me she had to use the bathroom before we left so I told her I would wait outside. As I was walking to the door I heard the "Amog" of the group yell "I fucking hate that kid, I can't stand him" and a girl said who and he said that kid walking out the door"

I didn't say anything. He was jealous. He knew I was going home with a girl and just minutes prior to him saying that all 3 girls were surrounding me as we were joking together. They all would have slept with me.


We get to the parking lot and this is where shit goes sour. Her friend says cmon "my HB" let's go you can't let me drive alone. I acted like I ignored it and said, I'll give you a ride home. She responded that she feels bad. I said okay I'll follow you there and she was okay and we each kissed on the lips

As Im following I got a text from her saying I have to go to the driver's grandmas house. She has alzheimers and needs to be taken care of and that would be weird haha


I acted like I didn't get it and followed her further and she sped up. I called the girl and she didn't answer. I'm like WTF to my self because this girl was closed. Her friend must have said something or just be plain jealous. I'm pissed but then again I know if I had this girl alone it wouldn't have happened so I played it cool.


She texted me again: Where'd you go I want to make sure you got on the highway ok

Fearless: I have no idea, you disapeared. Do you want to stay at her grandmas? I can get you


HB: I might just stay here because my friend is alone sorry and she sped off because she was nervous

Fearless: Ok cool

HB:I'm sorry hold on I'm trying to figure it out

Fearless: ok Do you want me to come get you?

HB: Hey, sorry we went to my friends grandmas to check on her

Fearless: Ok no probs

HB: I feel so bad. My friends grandparents are like her parents and she got real nervous. I would have obviously liked to hang out with you more

Fearless: I understand next time




So I'm not sure if I got LMR'ed, cock blocked due to jealousy and why does that guy have a problem with me? haha


Interesting night, frustrating, but not dull

You shouldn't have replied to her texts at all.

She basically flaked out on you, whatever be the reason, if this woman is so influenced by what her friends tell her that she cannot make up her own mind about you based on her decisions alone, I'd suggest you to not give her that big of an importance in your life.

Find some other women too. Don't focus all your time and energy on this one.

Oh, and for atleast a few days now, maintain a slightly cold and indifferent frame towards her, you should convey to her indirectly that you're not very impressed by what happened that night. Punish her a little.

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Thanks Drapes, I have been gaming other girls of course.


I somewhat know what you're talking about a cold and an indifferent frame.

Actually, she texted me AGAIN apologizing. She said I'm sorry again about last night :/ good luck on your interview!


Do I even respond or just a simple thanks?

A little "Thank You." should be fine.

Nothing more, nothing less.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Sure, how long should I keep that frame before I make plans with her again?