Allrite guys well let me just give a short intro about myself. I am 26 years old and im from India. First things first I v never been in a relationship ever in my life. I have never kissed a legit girl till date. Well its not that I am a virgin or anything. I lost my virginity to a whore in Amsterdam when I was 22yrs and ever since I v done about close to 13 hoes in all in places like Malaysia, UK and Amsterdam. It just seems like sex is impossible with normal girls. Forget sex I v never even made out with a girl in my life except one of these Malaysian whore who was sweet enough to make out before the sex

Well now the catch is that I seem alrite with women around me. I can make a good conversation. I am pretty funny so I get their attention. I get them to even go out partying with me. But I just dont know how to get one to take it to the next level. I admit I am a pussy when it comes to asking out women but honestly almost all of my life its just this one thing which has pissed me off and has made my life miserable till date. I watch a lot of porn and I just dont seem to able to kick the habit.

All in all I have no happiness in my life right now and I think the only way I can be happy is if I can atleast score some women and build my self confidence. I am looking for advice from some of you guys. I know there are people here whose lives have been transformed and I would be grateful if someone can do the same for me. Please let me know what can be done ?!

Hi there, there is a lot that goes into this so I can offer you the silver bullet advice but the least I can do is point you the right direction. you can put your conversational skills to use. This can potentially get you at least a date. but be patient and roll with the punches if things don't work out. Just keep on trying.

1. Make sure when you talk to a girl you look her in the eyes. (crucial) it communicates that your confident and creates tension is can feel awkward but that is the tension you want. it can become sexual tension if you look at her in a sexual way. You can break the tension by looking away but that's not the point.

2. make sure you don't speak to fast also, she need to hear your voice and the tone you use. a slow smooth tone has a sexual vibe to it.

3. Use a nice tone of voice nothing to whining or high pitched.

4. be confident (crucial) what ever it is your saying be confident about

5. don't be afraid to touch a girl (ie to guide her somewhere to get her attention to show her something but don't over do it. Be gentle and don't grab.

6. Listen to what she is saying every last word and be genuinely interested in what she has to say. because that will help you progress the conversation.

start with that.

I find a good way to open a girl is give her a compliment on something unique that she is wearing ie: earrings necklace, shoes, interesting dress) Something that makes her stand out because she went to the trouble to wear so it would be noticed.

Once you say the compliment, (hey those a really nice earrings I like them a lot) you can transition into a normal conversation, I prefer to talk about the present situation where you are at the moment. ( ie: so how has your night been, Are you out by yourself- for example) this takes practices

Then you can try and connect with the girl on a deeper level like ask what she is passionate about or what she does a job uni. what does she enjoy doing and see if you can find some common ground. and don't judge her for it, accept and encourage her about it.

This will get you in the door to have a conversation - the key to keep it going is to LISTEN to what she is saying which will give hints as to what to talk about next.

Then you can go for a number close, say something like ( I've had a really fun talking to you seem like an interesting person and I'd like to catch up with again. give me your number)

Try and stretch the conversation for at least 25 mins. that way she won't forget you

then rest is up to you.

Try that. But above all, you need to work on the deeper issue of what you think of yourself and how you value your worth. You need to work on your self esteem. Your a worthwhile person that deserves what you want. Don't automatically think you won't get the girl, your nationality has nothing to do with getting girls and you know it. Be bold and know your worth.

You'll find that girls will give you a try, you've just got to be strong take the good with the bad, and know that eventually it will work out for you. you don't need 10 girl out of 10 you only need 1. So get out there a find it.

Good luck BE BOLD BE FEARLESS, Live your life hard. I hope my advice will steer you in the right direction.

I agree 100% with the previous response.

Also, having chick friends is a major advantage. When you party with them, you can use them to open sets and it gives you a huge advantage.

Give yourself a huge pat on the back you are 90% there if chicks already want to hang with you. Many guys don't even have that much going for them...

Example, you see a set and someone is wearing a cool shirt. Ask your friend if they like the shirt (from a distance). Then open the set "excuse me, but we really like that shirt/earrings/hair/shoes". This would work especially well if the set is right next to you.

Talk to the group for awhile and try to build comfort with a target girl. Perhaps find something that the new girl and your friend have in common. this would naturally lead to a group of you hanging out again.

She will give you her number after a while because you are already with a chick and therefore a commodity.

Then you can try to build sexual tension with the new girl either that night or over the phone/2nd date.

I would not try to build sexual tension with your chick friends unless you find it easy to replace them. If it backfires they will not want to hang with you because it will be uncomfortable. Having said that, many of my chick friends have become girlfriends but things happened naturally I didn't push it.

Chick friends that you are not sexual with are an indispensable tool as long as you are not lazy about escalating sexually with other girls you meet. (but you may want to be careful about escalating too much in the presence of your chick friend. In other words get a girls number but don't make out right in front of your chick friend it could be seen as rude unless your friend does it with other guys in front of you).

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When pretending not to care what she thinks becomes really not caring what any of them think...that day I will be a PUA.

"you miss 100% of the shots you don't take..." just go for it.. whats the worse that could happen, she says no?.. have you ever heard of law of large numbers... take it and apply it to women, and hopefully you get lucky...

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Thanks a lot guys ! I will definitely try and use my chick friends to my advantage ! You guys are awesome I feel good about myself just by reading this haha