I’m a 31 year old guy from Texas and despite my age, I still suck in pick-up lines that most girls I approach mistakenly assume me to be arrogant or a player, which might be the cause of not using the correct pick-up lines..Yeah sounds stupid but oh well, I am not good in taking with girls that’s why I am here.

There are some guys who are so cool and let me say skilled when it comes to approaching girls. I just wish I can do that too.

So my question is how easy it is to talk with girls? Why can they do it just fine and I can’t?

I want to know the REAL GAME so be kind enough to share me tips and tricks on how to get a girl talk with me. Thanks in advance.

When you approach a girl or a group of girls what are you thinking? If it is an incoherent version of... "What can I say to trick her into thinking I'm cool," you are sunk.

Of course it's better if you are not full of anxiety, but anxiety isn't the killer, it's unrealistic anxiety. By this I mean if you already think you have to trick someone, you are setting yourself up to fail.

Instead you have to treat the PU situation as one where you are bringing something to the situation, adding something. That something is the considerable value of your attention, which is valuable as long as you don't disqualify yourself in advance by approaching with the thought you are just trying to hide what a loser you are.

Realistic anxiety flows from the recognition that you might be rejected. You might, in fact if you do much game, you will be! Both anxiety (and rejection!) decrease with experience of being rejected. It's like applying for a job. I was talking to a younger guy the other day who was heartbroken because he had applied for 5 jobs and not gotten any responses. (We are in the same professional field.) I laughed in his face and explained that I applied for over 200 jobs, all over the country and some out of it, for my first job, had 7 call backs, 3 on-site interviews and only 1 job offer. (And I had qualifications out the ass.) Believe me your odds at PU are a whole lot better than that.

Unrealistic anxiety flows from unrealistic expectations: that you have to find the perfect girl or wait for the perfect moment, that you are worthless and have nothing to offer. It also flows from neophobia--that is you just haven't done this shit very much and it's all new and you don't know what to expect. Ultimately the biggest reason some guys are better at PU to being with is that they have less neo-phobia from the get go. It's nothing to dwell on, since it's something you can change by piling on the new experiences.

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Two things.

One: Walking up to a women is like walking up to a wild animal. They can smell your fear and will bite. Keep a clear head, as far as openers, I am lost there.

Two: Women get approached all the time. They are very used to being the one making the 'choice'. Men are the ones that make the advance.