Hello every one,

I am computer programmer and i am very shy person. i would open my self and live like rock star. when i try to approach woman, i am always thinking that she might have watched the pick up artist show and if i try to use any opener which have been use by any other person who was hitting on her, then i couldn't approach her. please give me some advice on this.

xxmike

Hello Mike! First thing you need to learn is not to care. Later... when you have the courage you will no longer need canned openers and routines, but I can see that you are very shy and might need it as a start off. But, back to the beginning. You must understand, that it does not matter whether she heard it or not. If she heard it, she might blow you out. Then what? You will find and open another one. Can't be that every single woman knows that opener now can it? Don't think about stupid stuffs like this because these are the most harmful and dangerous to your game.

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I've actually been in this situation before.

ME: Hey, you look like you're into old people. Is Mick Jagger actually hot? I mean he's in that Ke$ha song right?
HB: Oh! You're hitting on me?
ME: Aaaw that's cute. Trust me you couldn't handle me.
HB: No this is that mystery stuff right?
Me: Alright. Yeah. I'm a master pickup artist... you caught me.
HB: ...
ME: But I could totally make any girl on that dancefloor want me.
HB: Oh? How?
Me: Well first i'd offer them my left hand like so. (do it she'll take it, if not just ask her to. She will). And then twirl her around and subtely put my right hand on her side like this.
HB: Oh. Smooth
Me: Then i'd look into her eyes. Breathe a bit slower (do it). And then talk. Slowly. like. This...
HB: (Totally falling for it)
Me: Then.. I'd finally move in for the kiss... (do it)

K-close. And I even told her how. Standard.

Hey guys, thank you very much for your great reply. Now i have other problem is that english is my second language. so sometimes, i stuck in conversation and it is very awkward to just stop. and i think that i can practice some routines and it will be good. but when she say something to me, i have to reply her. if i stuck there, it would be hard for me to get back up. she will blow me off. Please give some advice on this.

Well Mike english is my second language too. Though I can game on my own langauge since I'm yet in Hungary. I don't think however I'd have too much difficulties in English. In fact... I gamed some 'English program' students at the university and they went pretty well. The only thing you can do about this I think is improve your english...

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