Hey guys,

i used to be really good friends with this girl because at the time we met about 3 years ago we were both in relationship and after when we were both single nothing changed and we continued to be "friends". she moved away from here but her parents have a house over here so she comes for a long weekend every now and then. Usually when we meet up we go for dinner and a couple of drinks afterwards. she hugs me all the time and holds my arm when we walk and stuff, but it never feels like it's heading anywhere. basically what i need is a whole game plan to make her see me as someone she is attracted to rather than her old friend.

If anyone has been in a similar situation or/and has some advice too deal with it please let me know.

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Vanqu1sh

You've known this girl for 3 years, what makes you think you even have a chance NOW?

well that's exactly what i'm trying to find out. i think it's a good thing that she doesn't live here anymore, so in the worst scenario it will be easier for her to forget that i tried to hook up with her. so what i need is some advise on how to game her without making it awkward. i just need some advise or some routines that will help me to find out if she is interested at all or not.

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Vanqu1sh

this is a good question, if put a little blunt!

no matter where u are every guy can get every girl with the right game, the issue u have here is SSSOO MUCH HISTORY, 3 years of being friend zoned, i would have another main question, do u no if she has had BF's since u became single and available?

but what you need to do in my view is get loads of girls all on tap, game shit loads all the time everywhere number close kiss close, etc...etc...then next time she is coming to time arrange a party a few lads and all yr ladies, and get her over introduce her to a few of the girls and jst hav fun but stay withing her eye shot all night, she is gunna do nothing but love yr social proofing....even better friend zone a few of these girls tell them yr interested in her, and the message will get back to her through them such as...

"u no he likes you,, YR SO LUCKY" etc etc... and it will get the thoughts turning in her head...this is how i would play it, MAJOR GAME TO ESCAPE MAJOR FRIENDZONE good luck keep us posted

hey nick,

she did have a bf after we were both single, but that was after she moved away from here (reason why she broke up with her first bf). she left to go to uni in london and had a bf there, but i haven't seen her for 6 months and now she's here and single. i never even thought about trying something with her, but the other night we had a few drinks and she told me about her ex and that things never work out for her..... then she suddenly said something like "hey, we should go out!" and laughed afterwards. i didn't really take it serious and to be honest i didn't know how to deal with it. I really like the party idea. the thing is that she is coming back in in 2 days and i won't have time to arrange all that. when i see her when she is down here i wanna get out of that friend zone a little bit to give her something to think of while she is away and when she comes back next time i can do the party. i mean i just need a little something that could work to make her see me in a different way... sorry guys if i seem like a complete idiot but im kinda new to this whole thing.

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Vanqu1sh

She sees you as say, a "close friend", which is even worse, if possible.

Look, she's been so comfortable with you over a long period of time. Now, if you just start acting like you're interested in her AFTER THREE WHOLE YEARS, you cannot expect her to reciprocate that. On the contrary, she will feel very confused about the sudden change in your behavior because you've been fine with the status quo till now.

My advice to you is simple : Go find some other woman to love.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

thank you all for the great advice. im just gonna leave it for now until i feel that the feeling is mutual. gonna go out sarging now, this town is full of beautiful women at this time of the year! take care.

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Vanqu1sh