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Having been in college for a year and not really meeting as many people as I wanted I decided to change and simply be more sociable in class no more walking into the room and going directly to the back of the class to sit in the corner, like an anti-social rat. lol Now I would sit in the first couple of rows and introduce myself to everyone around me. In my Mrk (marketing) class the people around me consisted of some handsome guy (no homo) lol, a geeky guy and an Hb8.5 canadian/ukrainian (we'll call her HbV) During one of those everybody take 10mins to introduce yourselves to your classmates, I initiated and controlled conversation with the guys first (mostly because I was intimidated by HbV) which I guess came across as social proof . Then I started to talk to HbV, we had a nice funny conversation and it didn't feel forced or fake, it was organic. I found out that she works as a part-time model and also at a grocery store, I made fun of her about that. I remember I was talking to her over my shoulder and I also made her laugh with self deprecating humour. At this point an Hb8.5 Latina (HbL) came into class and sat right next to me. The handsome dude started to talk to HbV (At the time I was thinking fuck this guy!) so I introduced myself to HbL and we got into a very interesting conversation about the similarities in our cultures. I made fun of her about being a South American drug lord and as she laughed HbV interrupted us quite eagerly with, "What...what are you guys talking about?" I said "Nothing...you'd need to be from our cultures to understand..." I wasn't consciously disqualifying her it was just the truth. Towards the end of the class HbV saw me on my laptop chatting on msn and said "Hey add me on msn and if you have fb add me there too." This was the first moment I realized something was up, although she had probably given me a million IOIs. I took down her info but I didn't add her for a week...not that I was trying to be cool but because I couldn't find her! Remember, I had like 5% game at this time, I was just coasting on my humour and boyish good looks. haha
In class the next week HbV came to me asking, "How come you didn't add me?" and me being the AFC that I was blurted out "I looked but I couldn't find you, log into your fb on my Mac and add me." and she did. Now here was the first bit of self sabotage I did but, even worse was what I was thinking. Here was a beautiful, sexy, intelligent part-time model giving me an unusual amount of attention, essentially begging to be a part of my life and you know what that made me think? I was doubting her intentions, I was thinking there is no way she wants to be with me, maybe she just wants me to help her get an A or something, I'm out of her league... My inner game wasn't just weak it had a missing chromosome! At the end of class we walked out together and she asked me where I lived, once I told her she reacted with "Oh my god! I work so close to where you live I'm actually going to work right now do you want to go together?" I said, "Uh, yeah, sure..." still completely bamboozled by what was happening. My thoughts went to WHAT THE FUCK am I going to talk to this girl about for the next hour! Anyway, during the subsequent bus and subway ride we had light, fun and deep conversations with minimal awkward silences (virtual pat on the back). One major thing she said that stood out for me was when she asked:
HBV: Do you have a girlfriend?
Me: (With fake sniffles, I used to love making fun of myself ) Me? Nope, girls don't like me...
HbV: (Smiles) Yeah, sure whatever you say... I always see you with girls around campus are you a player or do you have a lot of friends that are girls?.
Me: They're mostly my friends but I am single and I'm a guy so I obviously like to have fun... Don't get me wrong, I'm not a player though and when I'm in a relationship I'm 100% committed....Besides, how could you have seen me hanging out with girls when this was like the second class we've had together?
HbV: You'd be surprised at how many times I've seen you... (Did anyone else get a stalker vibe from that? haha)
We had a lot in common like our relationships; past romantic ones, with our parents and etc we also shared similar dreams and philosophies on life. At this point I still had some doubt as to whether HbV really liked me for me but I was still qualifying her with my questions (subconsciously of course). What changed the game for me was when she told me that she had over an hour to kill before work... As we talked I probably took 30mins to work up the nerve to ask her if she wanted to hang out before work.
Me: (nervously) I'm starving, I was thinking about going to grab some Sushi or something and since you have an hour to kill do you want to come with me?
HbV: Yeah, I love Sushi.
Me (I was stunned): Ok, cool, we just have to drop off my laptop and books at my place first.
HbV: (Smiles) Yeah, that's ok.
We get to my apt and the living room looked like it was occupied so as she went to the bathroom I told her she'd find me in my room. In my room I put some music on and when she came in she sat really closely to my left...so close our shoulders were touching and her hand was practically on my lap, her head was leaning in towards my laptop so if I turned my face to her I would probably graze her cheeks with my lips. She giggled and asked about an iTunes playlist that I have called "Passione" lol. I turned to her and my nose slightly touched her right cheek, I explained that "This playlist can seduce any woman in the world." She pressed play and said, "Any woman huh?" At this point I was already rock hard and I thought to myself I will commit suicide if I don't at least kiss this girl today. I thought "fuck it",(my favourite thought) leaned in and we started to kiss at some point she said "You taste like strawberries, I love it" (remember, trident gum). As we kissed I felt her hands grab the back of my neck (which turned me on) I pulled her body on top of mine squeezing her ass and she could feel my dick through my jeans and her leggings (random thought: aren't leggings so fucking sexy? I mean you might as well be naked) She took off my shirt, I took off her top and pulled down her bra. Then she suddenly pulled away and said "I don't normally do this, I'm not a slut." I had no idea what this was, I was like she took off my shirt first, she came to my apt, why was she pulling away...? Anyhow, I tried to maintain composure and said "I don't ever think about women like that, I'm with you right now not just because your beautiful but because we have similar hopes and dreams, (I referenced something we had shared earlier)." Then she smiled, pulled down my jeans began to suck my borewors and we made love. In the week after we fucked, I let my AFC emotions get the best of me, I told her I liked her, I started to call her way too often and generally just became clingy. She ended up breaking up with me before we even had a real relationship. She said something along the lines of I've got so many guys who want to date me right now, I don't have time for of them. She had lumped me into the bunch of guys pining after her, so sad. lol I've always been a very analytical person so during the weeks of depression that ensued. I tried to figure out where I went wrong.
What I learnt
This is what I learnt then: It's as though when I was apprehensive about her intentions, it came across to her like I was this cool funny guy who wasn't fazed by her possibly because I had a lot attractive girls in my life. Once I told her I liked her everything changed; I know it doesn't seem like a big deal considering the fact that we had already fucked but, I let my guard down I became a little bitch and with a chick that hot no matter what she says about liking sensitive honest guys, you have to play your cards close to your chest. She has to prove that she's special and her looks don't mean shit to you. I went from being unique to being one of the typical afc guys who she had vying for her attention in a split second.
Now, I know so much more like I recognize all the IOIs, the LMR and all the qualifiers she gave me. I also see how I had very good body language and I accidentally created a jealousy plot line by talking to the Hb Latina in front of HbV. I see how telling her I liked her so soon made me enter her frame control, that self deprecating humour is DLV most of the time and that your personality needs to be consistent throughout the gaming process which is hard once you let your guard down. I know that any Hb8 and up will almost always have more than one guy chasing after her so with pick up I have to be the exception.
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I love college game, it's easy, what's worked for me is keeping it simple just saying "hi, my name is...." at the start of the class and then you game whenever there's a lull from the prof's lecture and at the end if you build enough rapport you can even walk to the next class together or just hang out. Generally, I've found students want somebody to talk to during class, it makes it less awkward and boring and if she's not receptive to my initial opener I always neg her and watch her qualify herself afterwards. I also want to try to be the sociable guy in the class, come in like it's a great day, joke with the teacher (not too much you might come across as try hard) and talk to the other students around me as well for social proof. The hard part is that it can be difficult to find enough time to game in class I think it's extremely easy it just takes longer; it might take 2 classes to fb close, 3 to #close etc. Mainly, because it has to come across as a hey, I'm that cool sociable guy who just happened to sit next to you in class. In the first class of the fall semester for me, I tried gaming 3 girls seated next to me, At the risk of making this post too long this is what I did, I hope it helps.