This HB8 i know always texts me whenever she's comes down to my area trying to see me.

Everytime she does tho we have always missed each other, me being out of town or too busy etc. It seems she has a lot of investment as she is ALWAYS the one texting me....

So last night she gave me a text telling me she was around and was going to a shit club that non of my mates would have set foot in (not even my PUA mates cos they hate it and it was £4 entry).

The texts go like:

Her: I'm cummin down to (my town)! on the train SPAM. Wayay!

Me: Wayhay Awsome! Im at wrk SPAM, going town later. Probly endin up at ... wat u up to? cum out!

Her: I think were going to (shit club) lol

Me: Cool I'l let you kno if im nearby later.



LATER



Me: Yo, I'm near (Shit club), if its free il cum check it out.

(shoot myself in the foot here cos I'v made a frame that il only go if its free...)

Her: Oh, its £4 entry.

Me: ahh. Il see what it looks like from the outside and decide.


I felt that if I went in it would be obvious that I was only going in to see her. Especially as I would have had to go in alone and pay £4, showing that I left my friends and payed entry to a club that I had already made clear I wasn't to keen on going to. I think it would have all seemed a bit needy.
(maybe I'm wrong thinking this as she has always had more of the investment as far as I can tell, so it would have been alright for me to invest in seeing her...)


My plan changed then and I decided to try make her come outside so I could convince her to bounce to where we were all goin, or at least pursade her to meet me there later...


TEXT
Me: Im almost outside, cum meet me and let me kno your plans...

She never responded. Maybe she was drunk and didnt see her phone or maybe she coudn't be fucked to go outside as I was possibly cumming of as a dick for showing so little interest and not investing anything in her - I dont know.




Either way, what should I have done and what should I do now...

She will be in my area for the next few days i think. Should I invest more in this situation and try to meet her by myself or keep at what I'm doing and try to make a casual meetup with my friends and hers?

If you are interested in actually connecting with her (which it sounds like at this point.) Then go for coffee or a smoothie, make it a very casual thing where you'd like to just visit with her. She has already invested into you, she now needs to see a return on that investment to keep investing in you. I would also not have her friends around, odds are they have heard about you, and with the way women talk it will be hard to create a positive frame with them around. Start showing something back or you will lose your shot.

Good Luck, Stay the better you
~CleverRomantic

Cheers for the advice, however I'm not gonna take it in this certain situation.

The is girl is very much a party girl and we know each other through parties and clubs. So far it is very clearly a 'under the rader' attraction. So asking her out for a coffee will be a little odd and make it very clearly 'on the radar'. Although my game has always been an 'under the radar' method, so maybe I'm having doubts about your advice because I haven't actually tried to use coffee dates before, EVER. I should probably give it a go to try new things, however I have always met girls at clubs or parties, or pre-drinks because I'm a student which generally revolves around that kind of scene/age group.


Anyway, turns out she has texted me once again

Her: (Club name) tonight?

Im gonna get a PUA friend and go there and have a good night.

Thanks anyway though

And also about the connection thing, I am only looking for fun. I think if I ever want more (which I have once) it will happen naturally, meaning they will game me well enough...


But with the whole asking girls out for coffee on a one on one basis, I seem to have sticking points with that. To me it seems very weird or unnatural, possibly because I never get coffee's or smoothies with friends (this is a money problem as I am a student), so why would I do that with a girl...

Please enlighten me if you think my beliefs are wrong. It may well be that I am making excuses so as not to ask a girl out for a day 2 on a one on one basis, as I believe that a coffee date is more of a mature thing do.
I am a 21 year old student.

I am 21 years old myself, unfortunately not a student but the girls I talk to are going to cal states or cal polys so I am very familiar with college girls. Here is the thing, always do what is the most natural for you as long as it is yielding results. I never do something that puts me out of my comfort zone, unless it is for a certain frame, I am going for. I enjoy the coffee dates because, it allows me to connect with them one on one, my night game isn't the best but I do alright, and it allows me to definitely get past LMR if I am just looking for a lay. Coffee dates are not to mature but they definitely don't put you solely in the party boy frame. I like showing multiple dynamics to women, it keeps them interested and wanting to see more. Advice comes in multiple flavors, I even ask my mom for it from time to time taking it sometimes and laughing it off others.

Good Luck, Stay the better you
~CleverRomantic