I met a girl through a friend of mine that was fucking her. I know about five or six other guys that have fucked her. I'm pretty sure she immediately friend zoned me or at least I thought that. She was only 19, and I was 32 when I met her. I always thought of her like a little sister, but then she constantly started calling me wanting to drink with me and hang out. I would definitely fuck this girl, but she's not somebody I would really look at in a bar or on the street and want to game. She lived most of the year on the East Coast, and I would only spend time with her on the West Coast when she came to visit.

I ended up leaving her circle of friends and we sort of left eachother on bad terms. She deleted me on Facebook, we stopped talking, etc. She was so young when I met her and I always thought she created a lot of drama I guess because of our age difference.

She used to tell me that she loved me, and I always thought she meant it as a friend, but then the next day she would tell me that she would marry me if she was physically attracted to me. She would text me and tell me if I came to hang out with her she would give me a hand job, and she would say in conversation she just likes to fuck and no one can get the job done. Her signals were definitely mixed. She likes short stocky guys with Napoleonic syndrome that are assholes like every other 19 year old. I'm tall and lean, and I'm definitely not a nice guy, but I think girls between 18 and 22 have no idea what that want.

I have recently made a move for grad school, and I found out she just got accepted to med school and lives about 45 minutes away from me. I sent out a group text about my move to all my contacts, and she was still in my phone, so she got the text. We have been out of touch for over 3 years, but now she has sent me a text and added me again to Facebook. I guess at my age now personality is a big component of attraction for me. Maybe it's weird, but if the girl is just a brainless twit, and we can't connect mentally I just don't feel like putting a lot of effort into gaming her. I guess I'm thinking this girl might have done a little maturing, but I don't know about the whole friend zone thing. I really don't know where this girl stood on her feelings for me. I tend to believe that she was attracted to me, but I played hard to get and acted disinterested, so she started acting like she was disinterested playing up challenge with me. I could be totally wrong.

Anybody dealt with a situation similar to this or have any opinions about going forward?

When girls friendzone you they tell you about problems they have with other men mistreating them and problems with their girlfriends, parents, neighbor's dog etc.

They do NOT offer you handjobs or challenge you to fuck them better than how other people have fucked them.

She did not friendzone you, she was attracted to you. Now that attraction may have be misplaced, dysfunctional and pathological but it was an attraction just the same.

She may have been an attention whore and maybe just liked using her sexuality to have guys buzzing around her like a bunch of horseflies but if she was offering you sexual favors, it's a good bet you weren't in the friendzone.

I guess I really don't see what your dilema is. Do you want to fuck this gal or not? Are you wanting to date her and have a legitimate relationship with her?

If you just want to bust a nut in her and she is down to fuck, I don't see any harm in that or any reason not to as long as you are as safe as possible about it.

If you are wanting to have a serious legitimate relationship with her, then there are some redflags. I would be real hesitant to invest anything into this gal or and would be real cautious with my actual feelings around her. She would definately be in the high risk catagory but even then as long as you went into it with open eyes and were willing to walk the minute things started getting dysfunctional I don't see anything wrong with at least looking into it.

I should have been more clear. Great responses though. I would like to fuck her. I'm busy in grad school, and I know she is busy in medical school, so some semi-steady poon would be nice even if she's out of town.

I've already decided that I'm going to accept her friend request on FB, and then I'm going to respond to her text, and I was mainly wondering what a good opener might be. I was thinking something along the lines of, "I know you missed me.", but I'm open to all responses. All opinions welcome.

Well, why can't you use a situational opener?

The situation : Haven't seen each other in a while.

The opener : "Long time, no see."

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