So I'm working with 3 different girls right now, and I'm hitting speed bumps with all three.

Girl 1:

We went to middle school together and one day she randomly hit me up on fb. Eventually, about 2 weeks ago, we went out had a good first date, k-closed but she didn't want to go further on the first date. At the end of the night after I had already dropped her off she texted me saying she had a great time and would love to do it again. I left town for a few days after the date and once I got back I ended up calling her but she sounded very dry on the conversation and seemed to be in a rush to hang up. Also all the texts she has sent me since have been very short, disinterested responses and eventually when I asked her to go out again she never even responded.

Girl 2:

Girl 2 is the one that I had built the least rapport of the 3. I actually met Girl 2 while on the date with Girl 1, Girl 1 was in the bathroom so I took the opportunity to talk to this girl, got her number and began texting her. Eventually this past Monday afternoon I asked her if she wanted to grab some drinks that night but she told me she couldn't but that she would be free Tuesday or Wednesday. So on Wednesday I texted her, but never got a response.

Girl 3:

Girl 3 is the one I like the most and in all honestly I've noticed myself having some oneitis with her. I went out with Girl 3 last Tuesday and it was a great date, we hit it off perfectly, time flew by, we ended up hanging out for 8 hours and we didn't even notice it. At the end of the night we made out for at least an hour and we were messing around but no sex. We then went out again on Thursday and there again we made out, did everything except actual sex, cause she insisted that it wasn't gonna happen that night for some reason (it might have been partly because we were in my car). But than this week I asked her to hang out on Tuesday and on Thursday but both times she gave excuses that she wasn't in the going out mood. The problem with this girl is that I don't want to ask her out too much because than I seem too into her and she'll get bored, and also I am always the one that is initiating the texts.

So I would love to hear you're guys opinions on where I should take it next with all 3 of these girls.

Girl 1 : I think she might've met someone in the little break that you took and now she's just not interested.

Verdict : Nothing to be gained here. Move on.

Girl 2 : Maybe there was some semblance of attraction that night, but it got lower and lower in the coming days and now, it's no more. Hence, her flaking on you.

Verdict : Nothing to be gained here. Move on.

Girl 3 : I think that all those times you didn't pull the trigger with her might've led to your downfall. You let her control the equation and now, she's just not interested knowing that she might have a total control over you. She wants a challenge and you're just not it anymore. Hence, she's flaking out over your plans again and again. Hard luck.

Verdict : Unless you can completely cut all contact with her and take some time off to meet new women which might offer you some perspective and experience, do not do anything with her. The same behavior will lead to the same results.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

With Girl 3 her excuse for Thursday (and Tuesday to some extent) was that she was tired since she ended up working a 12 hour shift that day and that she would let me know for sure once she got home which she did do and she told me that we will chill another day. So I think she is still interested, but I do agree that I have been making it way to easy for her. I want to try to ask her out one more time tomorrow since she said we'll go out again but I'm worried that I may do permanent damage if I do.

A question I have than is how is it than I can continue being a challenge to a girl while at the same time asking her out and going out with her? Isn't that already an IOI from my part?

I want to update what happened with Girl 3.

Well I ended up inviting her to a club this past Saturday and her initial answer was that she wasn't going to make it, but at around 12:30am, once I was already at the club, she texted me saying she was on her way. (Honestly, I didn't want her to go because I was enjoying gaming other women). So at around 2am she shows up, but she came with a guy. Looking back that was definitely a sh!t test. I asked her what was up with him and she told me that he's her neighbor and that he is like a brother to her. I was a little frustrated and ended up telling her that either she is going to be here with me or with him, because I'm there trying to flirt with her and he's just hovering around, he even lit up a cigarette and they began sharing it. Her answer to that statement was to stop being so defensive. I stayed with her for like 10 minutes, asked her dance but she said no, then I said I had to go, kissed her on the lips (to kind of test where I stood with her) and left.

What do you guys think of this? What should I have done differently? Is this thing dead? Where to go next?