i am just not in the mood for pick up. i have been out alot in the last few weeks and have honestly just enjoyed hangin with my friends more than the thought of running sets.
i am fresh out of a ltr.
we are still good friends which i know is bad news and as such i need to bring other girls into my life.
i really need to find a new girl to divert my attention and feelings toward.

so the problem is... logically i know that i need to get back in the game, and i know that once i start talking to girls i will enjoy it. but i just dont have the drive to do it. im being a mopey little pussy complaining about the fact that i dont have girls around, but i dont wanna do anything about it....

does anyone have some words of wisdom or a link to a video that could get me motivated? im going to hypnotize myself using the basic hypnosis tape off the stylelife website. that may help.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

Social control is the most effective form of extrinsic motivation.

Whether you feel like it or not, tell your mates how you're gonna get back into gaming now that you're single, maybe even set a challenge for yourself and gaming mates. Fearing to look like an ass in front of your friends the motivation will appear magically.

Think about it like this. Every day that you spend not pursuing interesting new women is a full day that the girl you just broke up with has stolen from you. Does she deserve that kind of power? Nobody does.

As much as it may sting to think about, man, she's probably not shutting herself off from the possibility of finding somebody new right now. In fact, my past experiences with relationships that fizzled out and died inform me that there may already be at least a new blip on her radar. Think about that.

Lastly, as hokey as it may sound, routinely tell yourself some variation of, "I have good qualities that any woman in a relationship with me would benefit from. I want to find a woman who will truly appreciate that, and offer me just as much benefit in return. My ex was not that woman."

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"I'm currently treating two sets of Siamese twins with split personalities. I'm getting paid by eight people." - Leonard Zelig

I lol'd

Honestly dude you have find motivation with in yourself, anything a video can do will only be temporary.

i know i know. and to tell you the truth i really honestly do want to maintain a friendship but it would be damn hard if she introduced me to a new boyfriend before i atleast f-close a new girl.... and i do deserve better than her. at least better than the memory of her haha
the hypnotism thing did work to some degree and i have had a few girls hit on me at uni today which is always good for the confidence... im going to open some sets. i love day game and i love txting girls even more. im just going to go remind myself how much i enjoy it.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms