I'll try to make this brief, but there are a lot of details spanned out over two years.

Basically, I met an engaged girl back in '06. She's half Italian and half Peruvian.....extremely hot. To make this short she played me and played her husband. I never had sex with her, but I did tell her that I wanted her. She acted shocked and continued to try and use me as "the friend" I think more to make her husband jealous.

I ended up making a major life transformation in terms of getting away from the party scene and changing my career. I moved over three and half hours away and cut ties with friends that were users, liars, etc. I also cut ties with her. I didn't really have a talk with her per se, but she called one night and I asked her, "When are you coming to visit xxxxxx?". She responded very seductively, "Why would I want to do that?". I said very curtly, "Probably because its a cool city.". You could literally hear the floor drop from beneath her. She was looking for me to say, "Because I want to see you.", and she didn't get what she wanted to hear. It was more of her game looking for attention and validation from me. She stumbled over her words from that point on, and I'm pretty sure at that moment she knew the gig was up. It was sort of an unspoken understanding between us. It will be three years in March 2012 of no contact.

This past February she left a message on my cell that said she and her brother had been talking about me and to give them a call. I should mention that I was friends with both of her brothers. Her brothers were also people that I cut out of my life. Recently, her younger brother who I was better friends with has contacted me twice through email wanting to talk. I ignored her call and his emails, but it got me curious. Through public records I have recently found out that she filed for divorce in February. I don't know if it has been finalized.

I guess what I'm asking would anyone keep the no contact in place with something like this? Basically, her brothers are douches, but I would at least talk to them if she wasn't their sister. I know the whole bros before hoes saying, but it's kind of a tedious situation when you were wanting to bang your friend's sister. I don't know who knows what, and I'm not sure that the brothers ever knew I wanted their sister, but the whole situation has just got me thinking. Thoughts?

This isn't a difficult situation at all. in fact it is very simple. Here is some general advice that you can apply to all people in all situations.

Don't let people manipulate you, push you around or waste your time and energy by teasing you while not delivering. Don't let her tease you and keep you haging on while not ever actually delivering.

If she shows up on your doorstep naked and spreads her legs and lets you stick your dick in it, then it's up to you if you want to go there or not.

If she talks a good line and teases but doesn't ever actually make good on anything, then walk away.

That goes for everyone and everything. All the other details in your story are just fluff and doesn't really matter.

My grandmother always used to say, "actions speak louder than words." Take anything that anyone says with a grain of salt. Watch their actions and behaviors like a hawk and believe everything that they do.

The truth here is that you are NOT the same man you were. You made changes to your life, and while you maybe the same person inside, your lifestyle requires you to act like someone different than what those people knew you to be.

So, the thing is that does your new set of ethics allow you to get back in touch with them or will you castigate them because of the fact that they are relics of the past you did well getting away from?

If you don't want the woman anymore, you shouldn't care about how they would feel about you once wanting her, because that situation is not present anymore. Do you want to get in touch with them out of pity because in your head somewhere you believe that you were a bit harsh on them due to their sister? Or do you just miss the old company?

Questions to whom answers only you know of. Ask them to yourself and listen to what your psyche tells you, and then act on it.

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Both very good and valid points. I don't care at all that they know I wanted their sister. Her mother hated the guy she married, and even knew I wanted her daughter, so it's unknown whether that was an "open" topic within their household, but even if it was that doesn't matter to me.

I feel it's a little harsh to turn your back on people throughout your life, but then again I live my life for me, and if that's sounds selfish then so be it. I think it was clear within the circle I was in why I left.

I guess the main reason I'm conflicted is I don't want to break the no contact with her. I know if I get in touch with her brother then the floodgate will open with her again so to speak. I know she'll be calling soon after. I thought having a conversation with her brother about wanting his sister and her playing mind games with her husband and me, but that's just a weird conversation.

Why waste your time and energy with all this brother intermediary crap? If you want to find out if this gal has straightened up her act and if you have potential with her then why not just meet with her and see? If all it will cost you is an hour or two of your time and a cup of coffee then why not?

find out for sure what her maritial status currently is and if she is still hot and sexy, proposition her to go back to your place to spread her legs. If she delivers then you score some ass and if she flakes or just teases or makes promises that she doesn't deliver, then just walk away and go do something else.

You are making this way too complicated.

Seems like you answered your own question.

All I would add, is that "the apples don't fall far from the tree". If the brothers are DB's and the sister is a manipulative minx the parents are probably a bushel of peaches.

Stay the fuck away if you want to live happy and be successful. Or dive back into the muck you crawled your way out of for various reasons and remind yourself why you left.

People don't change, just their motives. I think the choice is obvious.

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