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Who knows, seeing me as a player might even rekindle some desire into her...
So where do I start?
Ok, here is where some of this PUA stuff may come in handy but not in the way that you think.
The chances are that she hasn't actually lost her sexdrive or her interest in romance/passion/sexuality etc. She probably has just lost her attraction and respect in you.
Now if you go out and start hustling other chicks she will probably just lose whatever few grains of respect for you that she has now and it will all be over.
BUT, if you can learn about what actually attracts women and start to change a lot of things in your life (ie, start hitting the gym hard, toning up, losing wieght, new wardrobe, new hairstyle, better grooming, start getting some new fun hobbies, start hanging out with fun active people etc etc) she may start to take notice.
So where to start????????
Start by freezing her out. Don't give her the cold shoulder or start blowing her off or anything. Just get busy with getting a life that you enjoy and that is active, fun and healthy.
Join the gym and start working out. start a new or get back into an old hobby that you enjoy and that is healthy and fun. Get a social life and start doing activities with friends. The key word here is BUSY. Just be busy.
Don't bug her for anything. don't ask her for permission for anything. Just get out and do it. Dont' run it by her, don't tell her where you are going unless she specifically asks.
IF she asks just tell her matter of factly as you are walking out the door.
Don't rely on her for fun. Dont ask her to do anything or invite her for anything, just get out and have your own fun life.
Above all DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES ASK HER OR BUG HER FOR SEX! Spank to porn in the middle of the night if you have to.
What you are doing is moving on with your life and getting a fun and healthy lifestyle WITHOUT hustling any new chicks. Keep it clean. Keep your nose clean and have no skeletons in your closet.
In a few months she will wonder what is up. you will be looking better, more healthy, having fun and engaged with a new social circle.
She may want to get back into your life. If that happens then you can start flirting her up and employing some of the pick up and seduction techniques described in the PUA community.
Or she may realize that you really are living two completely different lives and move forward with the divorce.
If she (or you) decide to move on the divorce you will be a MUCH better position of finding someone new as you will be looking better, having a fun and active lifestyle and enjoying life.
You will also be much more effective at attracting someone new because you will be coming from a position of having a fun lifestyle and being active as opposed to coming from a position of sexual frustration and desparation.
I froze out my live-in GF, and it pretty well ended the relationship. I went more active, and she went inactive. It is kind of an angry move and can seem dickish from afar, but it certainly sped up the dying process. I could have put a lot more effort into the relationship to make it mediocre and be "somewhat satisfied" for another year or two. A freeze-out in a committed relationship is not a fun move.
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