Hey guys, I'll try and make this as short and concise as possible for you.

Basically I met this girl in the street who comes to the gym I work in, she stops me to give me a flyer. (shes a promoter). We got talking and she asks for my number, and to give her a text if im doing anything at the weekend. Anyway, I leave it for a while but get her to come to the gym on saturday when I was working. Anyway she asks me out, and we got to nandos, Long story short she has a boyfriend but keeps asking me out for "dinner". Ive told her I liked her when I was drunk (mistake) but she didnt believe me.

Anyway, I cant work this girl out, she seems interested but something doesnt add up. I went in for a smooch one friday we went out and got drunk, but she was having none of it. She mentions shes "bored" of her bf and that he's too clingy. He's away at the moment, Im thinking she just wants some attention while he's gone etc.

Anyway, do I tell her I like her, or do I move on as i've been friendzoned? Seriously can't work this girl out, driving me crazy!

Ask her out on a dinner date. Say the word 'date'. If she starts feeding you nonsense or just flat says no and starts bullshitting about the boyfriend then move on.

She is toying with you for the attention or trying to get the boyfriend jealous in my opinion.

Yeah this is what I thought.

Would it be a good idea to ignore her untill she texts me? And just concentrate on other girls in the mean time? It's what i'm thinking right now.

If she's tired of he clingy boyfriend your gonna be the opposite, let her chase. She's already chasing by asking you out. I would lightly friendzone her if I was you. Say something like " your not a good friend for doing that" or wutever. Make her want something more out of you. Let her text and contact u

And next time you slip up an say you like her while drunk and she doesn't believe you, say " I kno, I'm a terrible liar "

I would wait about 5 or 6 days from the last time you've talked. Ignore her texts in the mean time. Call her, then verbally ask her for the date. I don't like texting for the date set-up. They have too much wiggle room with the texts. You can get a better read on people in general when you're talking to them.

Set the date about 4 days into the future meaning call her say on a Thursday and make it for the next Tuesday night. Don't have weekend dates. Disappear on the weekends and have absolutely no contact, but you probably know these things or maybe you don't.

Sounds like good advice man. I was thinking of the whole ignore thing, but it sounds better coming from someone on here. Im going out this weekend in another part of town, hoping to pick up a few girls aswell. So she wont get a peep from me if she trys to contact me.

If I do go on a date after the 5-6 days of ignoring, and shes all like "why did you ignore me etc" whats the excuse?

Tell her you were out with Hefner and 12 playmates or you were with your wife and 6 kids and give her a crazy grin after you say either one.

I usually won't take them out on weekend dates until they ask why you're not taking them out on weekends. I'll question them on why that's important to them. It's a huge IOI.

Thanks man. I could feel a case of oneitis coming on with this girl!!! First time ever!! . Ill take the advice and keep her chasing mate, she wont be getting to see me so easily this time.

Update: Its 12am here, havent talked to her for 3 days and she texts me out of the blue " U and I are going out for dinner next Wednesday, it's a done deal and you're not allowed to say no!"

Seriously what is this girl playing at? It will be the same shit if we go out! BORING!

Is she genuinely interested? Still cant decide?

Flip it on her bro... She wants you. Text her " No! You an I are staying in for dinner wensday and your not allowed to say no"

Then she's yours

Actually, she's been making demands of you.

She has NO right to make demands of you. She has NO power over you.

People have only that much power over us, as much as we give them. You need to realize that the constant agreeing to her plans has made you a pushover in her mind. She can make impromptu plans and expect you to just accompany her.

That isn't going to happen anymore. Don't go to that dinner. If she calls and asks why tell her, "Something came up." Just that. Don't offer anything more.

In the meanwhile, talk to this girl and address the fact of attraction between you two, tell her to leave her "clingy boyfriend", tell her she is fully aware of what she deserves and if she still is hoping for her boyfriend to turn into some cool cat that is NOT going to happen because people don't change.

At the end, tell her that while you enjoy her company and are quite attracted to her, you won't be waiting forever. She has to take her decision : You or that guy. Whatever, the choice you will know what your next step will be.

Good luck.

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I had to go on my own on this one as I couldtn get to a computer to see your replies. I text her say "what if I say no?" She replied "oh I'm not free wednesday anymore now anyway lol" This was the morning after I went out for the weekend with a few mates, and she began asking me how my night was, where I went etc.

Ill take your advice though, Don, see what she says.

Thanks.

Shes horny and her bf bores her. Just go out with her, have some dinner go out for drinks and be direct with her. Do it right and you will be taking her home that night. She doesnt want a relationship, shes already in one.

PS i mean direct as in dont be shy to make a move on her. Not "i like you, do you like me?" crap. Take her to a club after dinner, few drinks, dance abit heavy eye contact go in for the kiss.