I'd say that if you're having emotional boundary issues with a girl in any sense, either positive or negative, it's because boundaries were not properly expressed and created between the two of you. Sex shouldn't play a factor in this if you've done things properly and she isn't mentally unstable in some fashion (I mean this in all seriousness). If you have expressed who you are nd what you are prepared to offer accurately and you have expressed what you see her as and expect from her as well and she agrees to these terms then you will be fine. Perhaps one of you becomes a little more involved than you at first desired, but if you've done your work properly before, then you have built in a proper foundation to make it so that you can both deal with that situation responsibly and in an unmessy fashion. The only time that this doesn't happen is when communication falls apart, but communication should be the thing you excel at if you are practicing these skills, so you should be able to handle this.

~ Rye

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~ Rye

Haha, worlds best problem.

Agreed! Hahaha!

"NOOOO please no more sex! I just can't take any more....it's gonna fall off for god's sake! STOP clinging to it NOOOOoooooo!" LMAO!!

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~ Rye

Hehe.. I have had fun with this problem before..


and it is better to be stalked.. than ignored..


It just can hinder you at times..


James.. HAHA that is funny though

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my two cents on this,

is that it isn't the mind-blowing sex that makes them clingers,

it is what the mind-blowing sex symbolizes.

think about it.

a guy who just "fucks" a girl, is out for himself...pua mentality.

a guy who "goes all out" and tries to give her "mind-blowing sex" is feeding her ego...afc behavior, in a way, arguably.

girls are more standoffish with pua type guys at first, they don't know if they can trust us and stuff.

but they are more likely to do the whole "omg, i love you" thing with a guy whose sexual activities show him to be NEEDY. then she will be needy.

what i am saying...the NEED to give her mind-blowing sex and explosive orgasms comes from a need for validation.

in a way, it is validation-seeking behavior. and if she has afc tendencies...she will reciprocate.

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That totally makes sense! I agree completely!

I don't end up having the clinger problem not because I don't give women amazing sex, but because I don't do it for them, I do it for myself and I show them the love and respect that I show all human beings, so they don't feel that Ego validation that creates clinging. When a girl feeds your Ego as a man you end up clinging in some way too, yet when she just enjoys the time you share together and you have a great time because she is having a great time for herself and respects and loves you as a person you don't typically feel those things I find.

Wicked post Mack that's really good food for thought!

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

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thanks, rye.

i can (and have) fallen into that trap.

because i REALLY like getting girls off HARD.

it's my kink. (hey, it could be worse, right?)

but there is something submissive about seemingly SERVING a woman in the bedroom.

if you are willing to spend all that time and effort,

licking here, twisting there, pulling here, fingering there, tickling here, pressing there, fucking this way, that way, upside down, right side up, clits, tits, g-spots, deep-spots, anal-spots (lol)...

but you get my point,

if you worship her body in the bedroom,

which it is tempting to do...

this is SERVING her,

and we only SERVE those we are submissive to.

so one must question his motivations for wanting to give a girl ULTIMATE pleasure in the bedroom...

1. does she like to reciprocate and give you mind-blowing orgasms?
2. is she as turned on by you, as you are by her?
3. does she work as hard as you do? does she initiate? is she genuinely excited?

you've gotta be careful, because if you GIVE way more than you GET...

you have become submissive.

a man is deserving of ultimate orgasms too.

this is a little bit of the psychology of this,

it came to me in an epiphany once when trying to figure out why girls clung to me when i made them spray the wall.

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Cutiest girl ask for more, unfortunately someone's creeping on my floor.. an empty glass a topless babe a knock at the door.. girlfriends girlfriends never could be more..

I think the basic issue when it comes to women, irrespective of what they say that they just want to be fuck buddies or it's just a one night thing, is that they just cannot separate sex and emotions.

They connect a sort of emotional value to every encounter. Now, if you've just had mind-blowing, bed breaking sex with the girl then she will go ahead and give you a very high value in her head. Now, you tell her that it was all it was. Her first thought might be, Where am I gonna find another guy like this who's this good?

I know, I know.. they are women and they have guys falling all over them. But, not every guy is going to be the TomKat in the sack.

So, in my view, it's more of case of these emotions and the value of them in their head which just doesn't make them very open to the thought of doing away with you after a lay or five.

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