out of the 10+ of girls ive been with, and the countless times of giving oral sex...ive only been able to make a girl cum from it once. however, i have no problem getting girls to cum from fingering(gspot stimulation), or intercoarse.
not every girl is wired for it, leaving that inadequate feeling of not being able to stimulate her clit properly.

ive read books, most of which are all the same crap...but then i stumbled upon the lee jenkins female orgasm handbook... which happpens to have a really in depth step by step how to with illustrations of making her cum via specic rythemic tounge techniques. none of this "do the alphabet on her pussy" bullshit.

i feel like when i use this lee jenkins method, i get the closest, but i still cant get over the top.

i think one of my biggest problems is being able to definativly locate the where to hit on the clit. All these books talk about the "clit getting erect" which i never really notice to an extreme....

im expecting a clit to get hard and defined like a nipple when stimulated? is this not the case?? or does it still remain elusive even when youre hitting her right on the spot? all i notice is a bunch of flesh that turns a bit red.

i know where the clit is....it just seems less responsive then id expect. sucking, lapping, stiff tounging, doesnt seem to get an OMG response from these girls even though they are dripping wet.

all these books talk about clitoral stimulation being the easiest way to get a girl off so i really dont get it. im a good looking guy and i usually do atleast a half hour worth of foreplay prior too, so its definately not the case of the women not being turned on

help me wise ones....

My girl's clit get a little bigger and harder when I eat her out but I think that depends on the girl too. What you should know however is female orgasm does not depend on the 'technique' and 'rythm' so much. It's all about the emotions. Tease her! Start eating her out, call her your dirty slut and then stop it, kiss her gently, say how much you love her. Turn her around, slap her ass(just don't be too violent sometimes they don't really appreciate that) and then start to lick her nipples with your tongue. Then you start eating her out again. Be creative. And always...always tease during sex! If you want a good book on sex, I think the Sex God Method is easily the best out there.

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Remember that you really gotta work hard and passionately if you want a girl to come from eating her. You gotta use a shitload of chin-muscle (if there's such a thing), and constantly have your tongue in motion, and using it aggressively. It is NOT a particularly relaxing job if you want her to come from oral only.

So basically: Put a lot of hard work into it, take your time and dont give up after 10 minutes, and remember to use your hands while eating her - I get a good response when I switch from very carefully grace her legs and then grab her ass and thighs passionately. Back and forth, back and forth.

Good luck & Have fun!

EDIT: And for gods sake make the woman feel comfortable with her pussy. She can't come if she's thinking "oh god I bet it smells, oh god he probably think its gross".

so your suggesting that i basically apply a lot more pressure with my jaw as if she were grinding on my face while keeping my flat tounge moving??

maybe the lack of pressure is my lack of success

That could very well be the problem.

Often when the girl is about to come, I'm basically just pressing my tongue hard against their clit, and they do all the movement with their hips.

fisher....sex god is a really good read...thanks for that also

that is really hard to do!!!!! do it via fingering and intercourse, play gently with a bit of saliva GENTLY, in her ass...

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goddamn, there is some really horrible advice in this thread.

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setting, passion, foreplay

sex (oral or otherwise) starts earlier in the day for the woman.

flirting, a nice gesture, grabbing her and giving her an unexpected kiss, etc.

you've got to start showing her earlier (before you want sex) that she is attractive to you, that you are thinking about her, that you want her, that she turns you on, that you love her...

then, later, spend some quality time together, go somewhere nice, private, comfortable, maybe even romantic or exciting, talk, touch, play, flirt, joke, do it all over again, some more, kino...

emotions, passion, romance are enough to make a woman come without you ever touching her vajayjay with your tongue (or anything else)

don't ask, don't talk, just lay her down, look into her eyes, tell her she is beautiful, and take your goddamned time, kiss her all over, take your time, actually enjoy the act, see how she responds, ask her "how do you like that?", talk dirty to her "baby, you are making me so hot", "baby, i really want you".

it doesn't have to be "you are my dirty slut" (in fact, that shit will get you slapped more often than not, depending on the girl)

get her RILED UP!!!

once she starts to squirm, you know she is primed for a good fucking. oral or otherwise.

technique is slow, soft, passionate. moan as you do it. let her know how much it turns you on. this will give her permission to enjoy herself.

and actually, in proper cunnilingus technique, the woman pretty much fucks your face, while you just provide the backdrop for her to get off on.



good luck.

it ain't hard.

but if you think that:
- licking harder
- licking faster
- twacking her asshole
- spitting in her eye
- or whatever

will get her off, you are wrong.

technique isn't the problem.

like i said, a properly aroused woman, WILL FUCK YOUR FACE and get off.

passion is the goal.

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Mack 2.0 is on target here. You could know all the techniques in the world, but if the girl isn't in the mood, she will be very difficult to get off.

The ABSOLUTE one thing that has always worked for me is FOREPLAY. Take your time and enjoy all the sensations. Don't just dive right in and start munching on your dessert. Play with her body (go for errogenous zones), get her to feel as many senses as possible. This means her watching you kiss every inch of her body, her listening to your dirty talk, her smelling a fragrance candle or chocolate syrup, her tasting a strawberry, and/or her feeling your tongue go down her neck, down her chest, around her breast, down to her hip, down the leg back up to her inner thigh...
If you've aroused her correctly, you should be able to see the clitoris very easily. The blood rushing through her body will cause the clitoris to swell so it's hard to miss.

Experimenting with different pressures when the clitoris is aroused can be effective. Every girl is different and will react accordingly to how their body manages the sensation down there. Some will like the flat of your tongue. Others may like the tip. It all depends on the girl. And if you've got the techniques down to a T, you're already one step ahead. It's then just a matter of you paying attention to what makes her squirm.

I thought that was a given.

lol mhm

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Another reason why you might not be making these women cum doing oral is they don`t know you. If you just met the chick a couple days ago, why are u so surprised that the oven doesnt heat up like it should? Comfort and familiarity are key to making a chick cum from oral. And that takes time. But the real question is why are u going down on random chicks? Thats not cool. Random chicks (pick ups) are for mastering the stroke. Girlfriends are for mastering the tongue.

lolz i got a kick out of this... i guess what it comes down to is just a strive to be the ultimate lover. dont we all want the chicks running back to us??

I advice this to everyone having any sexual problem:

smell her

Stop thinking, start smelling.