After sex, my girlfriend often goes into a whole list about what she likes about me, saying I'm hot, saying I "always look so hot" after sex. When she says "You look so hot" I sometimes reply with "you're hotter" is this a DLV and putting her up on a pedestal?

I don't reply like that ALL the time. Occasionally I'll say something like "I know, you're pretty cute too"

If that's how you respond each time shes just using you to boost her ego, every time I tell someone they look cool and they say I'm really super cool, I'ma call em cool more if that's easier to understand. Try not replying with "your hotter" ect. and she'll stop saying it because your holding onto the power and she knows shes not alpha in the relationship. (btw "you're hotter" is a DLV for yourself, recognize)

Next time she says that, just grin in the whole satisfied way and say, "Thanks, sweetheart."

If she's expecting you to reaffirm her ego, it'll be quite visible in her face and body language afterwards.

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Yeah, I'd tell her thanks, and then compliment something else unrelated. Especially after sex, a lot of women feel they have bared themselves a whole lot, and need some sort of affirmation that they aren't just a throwaway, so I don't see any problem with boosting her ego just a little as long as you're aware that's what you're doing and you control it instead of just freely complimenting her. Actually, it could help very much in a Pavlovian sense. She has sex with you, you make her feel good about herself. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you don't DLV when you're doing it!

Thanks guys, I'll adopt a different attitude!

once you have sex its time to put away the pua and be open

you're in a relationship, you don't have to obsess over value. yeah you dont wanna become needy or a pussy, but its just pillow talk. if it bothers you just say something like "so're you."

Hello,

Here you have the link to somewhat similiar. It's a tactic provided by Cairan long ago.
Chief has posted it on the forum, maybe you have'll have some use of it:

shock-and-awe-technique-by-ciaran-not-a ... ight=shock

Cheers,

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