So, I went out tonigh (Saturday) with some friends. My personal objectives for this night were:

- have fun with friends
- try some routines on bartenders;
- and k- and f-close on a HB9 I've been meeting in the past weeks.

It was all set up so good, I knew EXACTLY what I should do.

The actual experience? Well, it goes a lil' something like this:

-I get out of my house with 2 mates, ready to go to dinner... then this old friend of mine ( who I didn't talked to anymore) shows up at the front door with a angry look and says "WHAT THE FUCK MAN?!"... I was like "What? What's this all about?"... then he goes ahead and pushes me back, making me trip on some stairs. Luckily, my friend could hold him back, and then I asked "What the fuck was that for?" and he says "You know you fucking cunt, you know I love that girl and you're hitting on her!!!"

Now, let me break it down real quick: this guy is a fat, kinda strong wuss who loves a girl each two weeks. The HB9 already told me he told HER MOM that he loved her. Obviously, she has no interest whatsoever in him. ALSO, she did call me yesterday to ask if this guy had call me yet, and I said no, don't worry about it.

Continuing... He tells me this female friend of the HB9 told him I was hitting on her. I tried to calm him down, told I'm I choose my own friendships and he can't do anything about it. In the end, I shook is hand ( avoiding unnecessary conflict) and went my way, with my 2 buddies.

Fast forward a bit. It's 11pm. I was supposed to meet the HB9 at a bar... Sent her a text, nothing. Called her, her cellphone's off. Now, it seems to me like she just wants to avoid this situation altogether.

From here on, it went straight downhill... I couldn't drink anything because I was too stressed, I couldn't laugh at my friend's jokes... I was just there, being the most boring man on earth. I even shied away from girls altogether.

This was my worst night ever... no. Make it... my worst time ever.

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

We all have those days.

Well, here's looking ahead to tomorrow. Cheers.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Indeed, tomorrow's a new day.

Tomorrow has come, and early in the morning she sent me this text: "Hey, (dude who hit me name) called me. What he did last night was such a childish thing for god's sake -.-).

I think I'll wait till night, and then sent her text saying we need to talk, and schedule a date for the next day. What do you guys think?

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

dude i am the same way. I am a real hothead and if something happens to me that causes stress or my emotions run high i just want to avoid everybody. I think the reason for that is i have to be alone and think about the situation first. Come to terms with it. Then its much eaiser to accept the situation and move on.

You handled it as well as you could've. This is an intresting situation though give an update if this plays out any farther.

Sucks

But your mindset should´ve been: "Okay, people I know are screwing with me, I need to meet some new people that appreciate me!"

I know it´s easier said than done, but the mindset kinda makes sense doesnt it?

Also, the whole 3-way drama thing is kinda funny and laughable to me. I think I would´ve difinately cracked up if a buddy of mine made a downright housecall. I mean, what a drama-queen

Bro´s before hoes and all, but the way you describe the situation, it doesn´t sound like he deserves her.

Sounds good. Use this meet to clear the air. Tell her what you want from her.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Updating: I texted her we should meet today, 15th August, which is a holiday here. The sun is shining bright, perfect day

Here's my game plan:

- first, I'm gonna get her to a private spot, a little bar I know downtown that is quiet. I'm only doing this because there is a chance "The Wussbag" ( name I'll be using from here on to refer to my fat old friend previously referred) has some little girl spies trying to figure out what I'm doing

- well, once I figure out what's the odds between us, I'll take her to some fun spot in my town ( there aren't many, though... no funny malls or anything... open to suggestions!);

- also gonna ask her if she has seen the movie "Amores Perros", she's a dog lover... if she hans't, I'll say "Well, we should watch it someday at my house!". Good way to propose it?


P.S. Funny thing happened in the "Worst Night Ever" I never got to mention because I was just too down. Just before I got home, I was at an outdoors bar with 2 friends... and right next to me, were some guys and a girl sitting on a table. The guy who was nearer to the girl was putting his hand in her upper leg, she was wearing a skirt... but she liked it, because no one else could see it and I was like "Damn, that's what I was gonna do!"

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

2nd update in only 1 day (it's getting hotter!):

So as I said, I went with the HB9 for a date. She just opened up and told me a lot of things she wouldn't probably tell another guy... I used A LOT of Kino, and she was receptive. We were together all afternoon, and near the end, she asked me to go out at night for drinks. I said I'll think about it.

Also, it's the 2nd time in only 3 days that some stranger on the street tells us we make a nice couple ahah

When I was about to leave, and went for kissing her goodbye on the cheek, she tought I was going for the mouth and stood still for a few seconds, waiting for it. Well, I just kissed the cheek - I think I did the right thing at this time...

Because I am definetly going out with her tonight and with all that kino, I'm sure she won't refuse the kiss.

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

Why didn't you kiss her?

Ok, MAJOR NEWS GUYS: THIS HAS GONE FROM "WORST NIGHT EVER" TO "BEST NIGHT EVER"

What happened? Well, as I said before, we went out tonight. I only brought one friend, and she brought like 6 or 7, I was like WTF? We were all sitting in a table playing cards. I started touching her leg softly under the table, and she was receptive. Then comes this guy, "Wussbag nº2", who also happens to be in love with her. And the cunt sitted himself right between me and her! Of course I stopped touching her...

She was not with a good vibe. For a moment there I thought it would be another wasted night!

But then... I realized that the way things were, nothing was gonna happen. So I get up and say "Excuse me, I have to take her for a second". She comes with me. I take her to a bad illuminated spot a good distance from her friends. We start talking about some friend of her and stuff, then I just grab her and BAM - K-CLOSE.

We went quietly back to the table and then left for a walk with all of them. Some left on the way. We two stopped at a bench, with the rest following forwards. I kissed her again and said we were gonna be just fine ( you know, from the whole "Jealous Wussbag that loves her" thing). We agreed to be undercover for a few days. I've already talked to my best friends to cover my back for a while - btw, I've got some of the best friends in the world, they totally understand the situation and will be there for me when I most need it).

So, yeah... now I have a Girlfriend

Thanks to all of you who replied to this or other threads of mine. Everyone has been very helpful!

All I got to ask for now is... were do I start reading for Relationship material? I mean, of course I'm still into PUA, but I REALLY don't wanna turn into a wussbag...

Cheers,

From a very very happy portuguese dude

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

I don't know if you're gonna read this considering you didn't respond to my last two posts, but.

I don't really think you have a girlfriend. In fact, I'm quite sure you don't. You kissed her - once - right? That doesn't make her you girlfriend, no matter how long you've built up for it.

Be careful man, all the girls I know would find it scary to be called girlfriend after one kiss.

As happy as we are to hear about your success, James is right.

You've just kissed her twice (?) and had just one discussion about being together. Don't start slapping the labels already. Maintain the attraction for a few days and if things look as good as they are right now, go ahead and call her your "girlfriend".

Women sort of freak out when they hear that they are labeled as GFs, after one frisky night with the guy.

Take it slow.

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" You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one. "

Fair enough.

James, I didn't answer right away because everything is going so fast

Yeah, last night was good... but right now, all I care about is solving our little "problem". I'm reaching out to some of my closest friends. My female cousin ( who is very influential around here!) might give me some help.

So, all in all... last night was Monday, and today is Tuesday. I plan on inviting her for a movie on Friday night. Meanwhile, should I be planning other things together?

Cheers

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."

Sounds like a cool plan with the movies on friday.

Now promise me you will get the last row so you can get freaky

Ahah it's in my house, so definitively we'll be sitting on the last row!

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"What we're doing is so wrong, and what you're wearing is so right (it's so tight!). But I've never felt better, so I'm going out to get her and I don't care what set of wheels I steal to get there."