So there is this girl that I have just recently decided I want to gt with. Thing is, she has a boyfriend and I can never tell how shakey their relationship really is. She texts me often and always mentions us hanging out a lot. I haven't tried flirting just yet, trying to wait for some sort of iOi . But the thing that I found strange was when I use the SMT strat, she starts to talk negatively about her boyfriend, and says "things have changed.." but then will say soon after ".. BUt I still try to show I love him cause he believes I don't.." ect. Is this girl really worth the effort?

P.s. She has admitted to having a huge crush on me in the past and when her and I hung out for a little today, she smiled and always had her shoulders pointed towards me. I just need some tips on this.

she is not available and if you hook up with her the bf might get jealous and go after you and your feelings might get hurt because she involved with the bf. i dont so setee what you get out of this situation - if she has a bf she should not be texting you. maybe ask her to set you up with one of her friends?

What is SMT? a boy friend destroyer pattern?

SMT stands for Straw Man Technique. It's where you talk about the boyfriend as though he must be really awesome and gives the girl all she could want from a man. The more you build him up, the more you seem like a reasonable guy who isn't just bagging on her boyfriend to get with her. Then, as you're describing this perfect boyfriend as HER boyfriend, she realizes that the man she's got isn't all that great anyways. But since you know what makes a good boyfriend, you must be very in touch with what women want and need.

So you used SMT and BAM, she's talking negatively about her boyfriend. Mission accomplished. Then your real question is about what your chances are with her after she then said that she still liked her boyfriend and wanted to stay with him?

Well of course she said that. She doesn't know you're using some technique to make her think of how her boyfriend is treating her. A lot of women will just stick with their guy no matter how they're being treated. So you bring to mind how bad her boyfriend is for her, but she's not just going to drop him. Many girls just jump from guy to guy, rather than being single at any point in their life (it's a status thing), and additionally, she doesn't want to be perceived as just jumping from her to you. She has a respectable ASD going on. Just run some techniques that will break down her ASD and show her that you are open to the two of you getting together, and from what you've said, it looks to me like she'll come running.

Stop waiting, start flirting.