How do you go after a moving target in a mall situation or just in general?

Search, there's topics dedicated to this already. Just remember not to approach from behind or straight on.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Bump.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Hey, I just wanted you to know I PM'd you back and its NOT being sent, my messages back to you just sit in the outbox. WEIRD.

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"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel"

Wacky. You still have my email? If so, hit me up there, it also doesn't run out of space as quickly.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

No send it to me. I get messages. And I can reply, but for some reason I can reply to yours. Send your email.

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"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel"

hey rye.. hope this thread isnt dead
i need help with this girl, i have two classes with her and i only talk to her in class, but i think she might like me. shes kinda shy so i dont really talk to her much outside of class, and it feels really awkward to go up and talk to her cos shes usually in a huge crowd of girls that i dont really know.
any suggestions would be appreciated

I'm gonna be honest with you here, so I need you to read the whole thing, because it's gonna all come together.

I could tell you some stuff, give you some pointers and help you just enough to help you get this girl. You would think that it was great and then you would get in a relationship with her and just act like an AFC (if you don't know the term look it up, as I see you're new) and then you'll lose her and feel like shit and not have gained anything. So I'm not gonna do that to you.

Instead, what I'll do, is give you the advice all guys that get hooked on that special girl, should be told. Don't worry about trying to approach her. Stop thinking about going after any girls for the time being. Just think about yourself. Think about who you are, where you are in life, where you want to end up and how you want to get there and who you want to be when you get there. Now this is important stuff and you probably will change your mind dozens of times between now and the time you're in your early twenties alone, but you've got to form an idea to make any sort of progress.

Now that you know where you want to get and who you want to be, you just need to work on getting there, so focus on becoming that amazing person and being confident in yourself, knowing who you are and what you want to do. Once you start to see yourself improve and become that person you want to be, then you work on just interacting with people and get good at that. Then from there, you work on making girls want you. Now by this time, you've most likely grown so much that you forget how this whole endevor started, but you're going to be such an amazing person and be so confident in who you are, that everyone will be drawn to you and next time you meet a girl like this, she'll come to you and if not, then you'll know how to make her.

I'd suggest you don't think about just succeeding in this one attempt, but for the rest of your life being the best you, that you can be. Become a PUA. (God that would be an amazing slogan)

I say, pick up a copy of The Game, by Neil Strauss and when you're done that, decide where your personality falls according to method and decide where to go from there. Read some Mystery Method, some Juggler Method, some Gunwitch, David Shade is a personal favorite, along with all sorts of books on NLP (neuro linguistic programming) and body language.

If you take my advice, please, continue to ask questions, I'm glad to answer.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Where's the best place to meet up with a girl you haven't seen in a year or so, and who you knew in high school. We considered each other friends, but never really hung out, just always hugged each other when we saw each other. I'm just not sure where to go with her.

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Hey Rye, quick question.

I recently lost my job (though I'm in the process of getting a new one) so my funds are very low. I'm not in school right now because I didn't have enough money to register for last semester (have credit for two classes though and I will be taking classes again this semester).

Is there anywhere in particular where you advise I could go to? The Usual hang out spots for young people in Orlando are "Pleasure Island" or "Citiwalk", however most of the girls that are single are in clubs and I can't get in one because of lack of money and the ones that aren't in lubs are usually on dates with their AFC boyfriends are the movies (those places also have movie theaters).

Any good suggestions?

Only thing I could think of is going back to my old HS for games and stuff, but people are usually more focused on the game or there for their BF. And quite frankly going to my old HS is kinda lame to begin with.

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"With ignorance and arrogance, success is assured."

I'd say meet somewhere outdoors if its not too cold or shitty weather. It feels very open and you don't get that trapped feeling that occurs sometimes when you are meeting a person for the first time, or first in a long time. Parks are good, with a bench or something you can just chill and relax on (make sure you look totally relaxed to make her feel like she's interrupting your leisure. Maybe throw a light neg about disturbing the quiet, but nothing more, just come off completely at ease).

From there, take it to a mall. Great place to see different aspects of each other's personalities and connect, while keeping it light. Check out my posts in this thread and others about mall game.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Mall game. Sarge there and turn it into an instant date. Lots of hot single girls shopping and as stated in the above post, you get to see a lot about the other person and you can do tons of DHVs and show different aspects of your personality to them.

I was just at a mall today while I was working and I hadn't been in a mall during business hours in a while. Holy shit there were TONS of hot sargeable sets there, with loads of opinion/situation openers (by that I mean you use the situation to ask an opinion, like when I asked a girl and her mother what they thought about some hats and tried them on for them. Its natural, you're looking for a woman's opinion and they're right there and you can DHV and be funny and tons of stuff. Malls are where its at.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Here's one I got PMed that I thought should be seen by others.
I know how you feel, you want to have something good to say for this, but its the same thing as when I asked what the heck to say when I'm sick and can't go out. Just be honest, but don't talk like an afc.

"Hey, I'm booked all week, but I'll call you on [insert day] and we can hang out on [insert day after]."

Short, simple and you don't look like an afc. You told her you were busy, but you don't use words like "unfortunately" or "sorry" or "wish I could", because those are all DLVs and make you look like an afc.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

yeah thanks heaps Rye Lee, I also sent the same question to The Doctor and he gave the same advice

Hey Rye Lee,
Im pretty new to this and I have searched a lot of topics but couldnt find the answer to this. Im a pretty outgoing guy and Im not very shy so its easy for me to meet girls. My problem is that I always end up in the LJBF zone, but there is this girl I have been talking to lately and I think I've been getting some IOIs but Im not positive. I was just wondering if you had any ideas about how to stay out of the LJBF zone and possibly start dating her.
Thanks,
Titan