Greetings PUAs,

Long time reader, first time poster. This might be in the wrong section, so if it is, can a mod move it in the right section?

Now the problem; I've been seeing this girl (I'd say a HB8) for a while on a totally platonic level for 2-3 months as she was in a messy post breakup situation. I might be new to this, but I knew better than to put a move on her when she wasn't over her ex-bf. Long story short, she came over to my place on a Friday night and after a nice dinner and some wine, we Fclosed. I have to say she was quite the lover, but something bugged me a lot. She's italian, with average english skill, and when she's really pissed or excited, she skips the translation and straight out speak in italian. I can proudly say I had her talk in italian a lot that night.

Funny part is I don't speak italian at all, but somehow I could remember some of the things she said. With the help of google translator, I discovered that she was mostly dirty talking in italian, which was kinda hot to be honest. My problem lies with the fact she's been saying "Ti amo" a lot, which means I love you. I don't know what to make of this, but I saw her again a week later for lunch. Was fine and all, but she was just friendly as usual, nothing more. When we got back to my car, she kissed me and told me to get a quiet spot. She then proceeded to give me a bj and we kinda hung out in the car making out and talking for a bit.

Now the problematic part: she started talking about how we should do that on a regular basis and what times would be best for us to get together. We ended up agreeing on a 2-3 times a week at her place, in the morning before i go to work and she goes to school. I'm a 30 years old business owner and she's a 26 year old engineering grad student. Problem is, next week she called me and there was no mention at all of this arrangement we made earlier, she just asked me out for an activity later in the week, only to send me an email later to cancel it. In that email, she told me she met a guy who was 3-4 years younger than her and still living at his parent's place and that she went out with him twice and that she liked him a lot. When I called her back, she told me she gave him a bj on the first date and Fclosed on the second. I didn't asked and didn't cared, but it had me wonder if this girl was worth the trouble.

I'm no casanova, but I have no problems getting a decent amount of girls with my natural game (and some help from your PUA techniques), so she would be pretty easy to replace if needs be. I'm not jealous of her mama's boy, as I know it'd be pretty easy to out-alpha him and I can make that girl have a freaking good time when we're together. Her female friends keeps telling me she won't shut up about me and how I make every date into an adventure.

The thing is, I don't know how to interpret how she's acting toward me. She tells me she loves me while having sex and then makes plans for us to do it very regularly and then she doesn't see me for over a week and sleeps with a laughably beta boy (his mama called him at 12 am to know when he was coming home) and tell me by email. Then when I call her, she tells me about him (I didn't diss him, just changed subject. I read this forum :-p) and then pretty much propose to me the exact same arrangement we had settled upon before. She kept on insisting that I was to call her first thing in the morning on monday (she was going to the country side for the weekend with a couple of female friends). Now it's monday...

I need some help from people more experienced than me in this matter; what do you make of this girl?

P.S.: Sorry for the wall of text, I'm a screenwriter by trade. I type very fast :-p.

if you dont care, and you have game, find someone that doesnt even make you ask this question.
besides if you blow her off she will probably come round and blow you off... (if u catch my drift) hahahah not calling her wont do you any bad, put it that way.

but seriously, i am big on territory so my opinion may be a little bias.

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Ohhh, I get your drift. It might actually be a good idea to just not call her today and wait to see how she react. She had better to do than meet me how we were supposed to, it would only be fair I have her skip a turn too... It's not like there is a shortage of HB8+ to choose from :-p

And I think I might be a little territorial too...

Anybody else wants to help a newbie?

Funny turn of events; she told the other guy about me and he gave her the boots...

Guess the question has resolved itself.

I'll let her hang out to dry a bit.

Well, DO NOT call her. It'll be fun seeing her reaction to this.

She's expecting you to be present at her every beck and call. You need to take that control back from her and tell her that you'll be setting your own rules in this play field and if she wants anything to do with you, she can agree to them OR she can just walk out the door. You need to make her realise that she's expendable to you. That can can be replaced by an good looking girl in high heels who catches your eye.

Put that fear into her, and let her know that little boys will be little boys and if she wants a man, she should let you know. Tell her, that in the time she figures what she wants, you won't be making any promises.

"Places to go. People to do."

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