Hi, I'm pretty clueless about women. I feel like sometimes I just get lucky but sometimes I miss the open door completely. An example of my total lack of game was when this girl, who I want to go out with, asked me if I wanted to sleep in her bed or the sofa, when I was staying at her place for the night. She's been my friend for awhile, but I never made a move cause I knew she had a BF. However, her BF broke up with her a month ago, but she never mentioned it to me, so thinking she was still taken, I felt it was more appropriate to sleep on the sofa.

I learned later from a friend that she was single, so I've been trying to hang out with her more. Trying to make up for my stupid mistake. Now it seems like she's not interested. I haven't mentioned to her that I know she's single now.

How do I recover from this? I do want a relationship with this girl, not just a one night stand. I'd appreciate any advice I can get. Thanks!

You're trying too hard. Act like you did before, and stop trying to get her to hang out with you. A girl can sense when a guy is trying to sleep with her, so now just wait for her to call you to hang out, show higher value. When you finally get the opportunity, demonstrate you might be looking for more than friendship through actions but don't tell her, try not to scare her away or be put in the friend zone.

Thanks for the advice. Could I get more details about how I would show her I want more than just friendship by just my actions? When I hang out with her, we usually just chat and hang out with other friends.

Give her IOIs and try to force some out of her as well. Try to be somewhat more touchy than before. Don't go too touchy though that might send her creepy signals. If you can arrange to hang out alone after the group gatherings. Then pop in a movie if you're at home if she's comfortable enough (I usually put a blanket on my target and I for the movie, makes cuddling easier). When appropriate highlight the fact that you two are having so much fun etc. Also try escalating the conversations sexually like jokes, or comments, or word play. Don't force it though.

How much does she try to communicate with you currently?

Get her out in public (example: starbucks for coffee) - wait for IOIs then start kino and escalate.

If she doesn't show interest in you, show interest in a different woman while at Starbucks. Literally leave the table and run your game on a different woman. Women want to know that they aren't your only option.

Lately, she hasn't been trying to communicate with me except when we're with friends, which is why I felt I messed up. I've been doing most of the calling and sometimes leads to awkward pauses, where there's nothing left to say.

Anyway, thanks for the tips! Hopefully I can turn things around.

keep us posted!