Hi Guys,

I had this problem with this guy recently and I can't figure it out. I'm not sure what is going on here. I don't know if I started to send the wrong signals or he is turning this into some sort of game. Now I'm not sure whether to give up or make a last attempt to call or text him. I wanted to get your input.

So long story short...

I met this guy, he asked for my number, and sent a follow-up text. However, I was so excited initially that I came off as very over-eager. I think this turned him off and I started to notice that his interest probably declined based on the way he was texting.

He sent me a link on SPAM one day to check out. I sent him a text letting him know I read it and thanks. He asked my opinion, I told him, he went m.i.a. Then later on that week I receive a message on SPAM from him saying he hadn't responded yet because his phone broke, he lost my number, and to shoot him a text. I went ahead and sent him a text. I received no response, until he called 4 days after I sent him the text. This was the first exchange on the phone we had ever had (given the fact, I thought he had no interest I was surprised he called). I was on my way out when he called so I told him that I would either call or text him back. 4 days later I texted him back. Now it has been 6 days since I sent that text and no response.


Should I make a last attempt and give him a call or just drop it? My fear is that I don't want to come off as the annoying girl that's chasing him, but these past few weeks I have really backed off.

Well, hate to break it to you, but he just doesn't seem as interested in you as you are in him.

I'd advise you to try your luck out with someone else. Move on from this one, sweetheart. There's nothing to be gained here, except a wastage of time.

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Yeah... thats what I was beginning to think. I really liked this guy and I think I screwed up in the beginning and lost him. I just don't get why he wouldn't respond when I was returning his call. I think thats really weird because he even tried to get my number again to respond to my text. I figure a guy wouldn't bother even trying to get a girls number again if he didn't care.

He chickened out. You could confront him with this, but the outcome is very variable. At least you'll know the truth. Don't try to make contact with excuses, trying to figure out what he is thinking. Just ask.

This scenario also happens when the guy hears something "negative" about the girl. I asked a number several times, but if her male friends tell me about inexperience/innocence/..., I drop the ball. I don't want to cause traumas.

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it could be he is just being insecure ... there could be alot of reasons... being over-eager can be one of many.

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draper is right the guy is not interested, that guy does exactly same shit i do when i am not interested in a girl, text you when he is bored.....

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I hear you Girl50, sometimes the first impression is strong. Most guys like the idea of some kind of challenge, and it sounds like you already know your first meeting may have sent the wrong impression about you. AKyutie, your thoughts?

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Hello girl50.

Girls are welcome here, so don't worry. If you sent a message to one of the moderators you'll be given access to the girls section aswel.

Regarding to your question - a number close if for a lot of guys somewhat of a victory - and they don't have a lot of nerves or balls to take it further from there. The explanation is actually simple - it rarely happens that a girl is the one that takes the initiative and it spooks a lot of guys out.

On the other hand, it can be simple as well and just isn't interested anymore.

My advise is to move on - but the choice is yours.

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H!j!nx way to add me to the convo. but seriously i agree. the first impression is the most important one. when i am trying to get a guy, i always want him to make the first move. guys like that. they want to feel powerful. but forget about this guy. chances are, if you leave him alone and he's interested, he'll start chasing after you.

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Thanks for the help!

I am pretty sure I held his interest at first and this wasn't just an attempt to get my number for the sake of having it. He sent me a text the weekend after we met.

I totally get that it is likely he is just keeping my number to text when he is bored. However, he actually called me which I don't get because I think that is taking it a step further with a girl you are not interested in. Wouldn't you stick to text?

Lastly, crazy as this may sound, this guy and me had so much in common that I am head over heels for him. This is very rare for me to find. I met this guy at a convention that takes place annually. Chances are very likely that I will run into him again next year. I'm just wondering if there is any way to rebound from a bad first impression.

girl 50 can you post the text were you say that you messed up because you were over eager!... Sometimes girls over analyze things...A lot of times women i have been with that i do not see for a while and then i run into them come out with all this crazy reasons of why they think i lost interest, and 99% of the time they are wrong, is stuff they put in their heads.

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Oh wow! lol I could but I would be kind of embarrassed to just because I really think I came off bad. However, it wasn't one text. It was a series of texts that continued into a conversation. I could pm you the conversation if you would like.

Girl 50 we are here, at least i am to help you, not too judge you, we all make mistakes and embarrassed our-selfs when initially mastering the skills, if you want accurate advise the more info. you provide the better the advise, also after confidence one important skill is not too give a fuck of what people think of you. As i said most girls i game and run into after couple of months come with all these crazy theories of why i never called or lost interest, 99% of the time they guessed wrong.. But with that being said the more of a challenge you are the more the guy will like you, but a mistake most girls make is that i can call them in their bluff(it looks calculated), you have to be a real challenge....Other than that blow him out of his mind during sex, specially with oral skills lol...

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Well, I'd appreciate if you PM-ed me the conversation. I could provide a better answer knowing exactly what went down between you both.

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Thank you so much! I will PM the text messages to both of you. Please keep in mind it might be a little long because I had about two conversations with him through text.